Yeah, the pattern of misconduct thing, that changes the character of it all...
I had a troop who was being processed for multiple "no gos" on the weight control program. He terminated a phone call with me with something to the effect of "F U, Sergeant."
I conducted a counseling session, he refused to sign, I notated the paperwork with "SM refuses to sign" and it was witnessed by another NCO. The next morning, he showed up to apologize to me for the whole thing and I pulled the counseling form and shredded it.
Turns out, the platoon sergeant did a subsequent counseling on him and told him that would have established a pattern of misconduct which would have changed the terms of his separation. I was glad to destroy the counseling because I didn't want to screw up the kid's life.
He just put me in a position where I had to do something or it would undermine me in front of the rest of the troops. People undergoing admin separation need to be removed from their duty and given something else, somewhere else, to do so they aren't a cancer on the organization.