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Quoted: You can't talk to men about relationship issues. They'll claim we're wrong, that our feelings have no validation, and eventually turn it around so WE'RE the bad guy, and make US feel guilty for ruining a perfectly good evening.
It's just better staying quiet, and chewing on it on your own. And we'll decide on our own if we can get over it, or if it gets put into a deep dark cavern way back in our brain, to be brought out at another time.
Which is another complaint men have about women.
So we can't win no matter what we do. So we stay quiet. And then, when we can't stay quiet any longer, then comes the breakup. And we'll say "let's be friends". And they won't let it go at that, and they don't understand. Because every time we tried to talk to them about our feelings, they shut us up, or shut us out.
So now they claim we blindsided them with the breakup. When in actuality, they should have seen it coming from miles away. They were just too busy and didn't want to ruin a perfectly good evening.
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You're generalizing just like the men in this tread are. For men are like snowflakes too and no two alike. All snow flakes are cold but all it takes is just a very little heat to melt them. When the snowflake falls, do you blame the ground for being too cold so they stick or do you blame the snowflake for falling in the first place? You see just like it takes a cold ground and a snow flake to make a white Christmas, it take two to make a relationship.
Tj
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TJ, I never said it was a good way to be. I learned about dealing with men from my mother, as I'm sure most women do. See, men think that women learn about life and dealing with relationships from their father, and their relationship with their father. While that may be true in some cases, most girls learn about how to deal with men by watching their mothers.
My mother rarely fought with my dad. I can recall maybe 2 or 3 instances when they actually came to words. My dad is and was a difficult man, and I give my mom credit for sticking it out this long with him. He's alot better now, and I have learned how to deal his crap right back to him. But for a long time I think my mom was afraid of him. Not because he ever hit her, NEVER. I think she chose her battles that were important to her. The rest, she let slide.
Which is what I do. It's a fault of mine, I know this. I never learned how to fight (well, in person) with my significant other. Because my mother chose not to fight back, and I never learned the techniques. Right now I'm in a relationship with a guy who can talk himself out of any situation. He learned early on in life how to win a war of words, and I have no chance against him. I don't think he starts out in an argument trying to turn my words against me, but that's how it turns out, because that's how HE learned to fight.
It's just the way it is.
And I know all men aren't like this. Just like all women aren't pyschos. I actually consider myself a VERY strong person. i've been through stuff that many women couldn't go through.
But yet, for some reason, when it comes to my relationships, I just can't come out on top.