I think the ring is a bit much myself, and can understand your concern. This is the time in your daughter's life where she can be a little selfish (put her dreams, plans, education, first). As a mother I can honestly say that I wouldn't be thrilled about a boyfriend horning in on her future wheh she is still in the planning stages. But, she sounds normal for her age. Although it would be best if she kept it casual with her boyfriend, she like most other teens have all kinds of ideas about love, and a real future together. I was like that once, and married my high school boyfriend. We have been happily married for six years now. I am attending college and he is an engineer. We were some of the lucky ones. It was not easy though. Not that any marriage is always flowers and candy, but we went through it all together instead of learning first and then meeting. We lived poor ( and I mean poor as in no money for food or utilities), we had our daughter very young, we went through military life together, and lived far from all of our family and friends, lastly we had to be apart alot due to the military. Chances are she is going to do what she wants because she has been with him for so long, but make it very clear to her that if she is going to get seriously involved with someone when she will already be working hard to forge into adulthood, she will only end up working twice as hard. But, don't be too worried. Although it wasn't easy, my hub and I are in a good relationship, and have been able to be of great comfort and support to eachother during tough times. It is possible to meet "the one," at an early age. Be glad that she has the good sense to be seriously with one boyfriend and not running around with many boyfriends. Good luck and just try to keep your opinions and hopes for her known to her. I know it sucks feeling like a nag, but as a mom we have a God given right to nag every now and then.