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Posted: 3/16/2006 4:04:07 PM EDT
Ok I am working out of town for company that purchased our company I helped build.
At Christmas time new corp. management figgered out that my son was working somewhat for me and that is a no no. Ok we got that part fixed so he go back to work as a EMT making 2x what a ambulance based EMT makes and only working part time.
I am not his "supervisor" but he is tasked with work for my customer.
Today while talking with him he asks me about visable piercings.
Now Corp. says that nothing that can interfear with work or pose a threat to the employee are not allowed.
So the son proceedes to tell me that a little hottie that we know and now works as a exotic dancer is now a TAT artist and piercing specialist who pierced both his ears for free.
I hit the roof.
I told him I don't like it and told him it was Ghey.
If I get home this weekend I told him that is I get close to him and have pliers I will "Fix" the problem.
Ok he is 23 doesn't live in my home.
Am I wrong?
I worry about perception with the construction guys we deal with.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:06:41 PM EDT
I'm not totally sure what's going on here...


....but I don't really even notice tats or piercings anymore. I wouldn't have them done because needles bother me, but if he wants one BFD.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:06:56 PM EDT

Originally Posted By snarfbatt:
Ok I am working out of town for company that purchased our company I helped build.
At Christmas time new corp. management figgered out that my son was working somewhat for me and that is a no no. Ok we got that part fixed so he go back to work as a EMT making 2x what a ambulance based EMT makes and only working part time.
I am not his "supervisor" but he is tasked with work for my customer.
Today while talking with him he asks me about visable piercings.
Now Corp. says that nothing that can interfear with work or pose a threat to the employee are not allowed.
So the son proceedes to tell me that a little hottie that we know and now works as a exotic dancer is now a TAT artist and piercing specialist who pierced both his ears for free.
I hit the roof.
I told him I don't like it and told him it was Ghey.
If I get home this weekend I told him that is I get close to him and have pliers I will "Fix" the problem.
Ok he is 23 doesn't live in my home.
Am I wrong?
I worry about perception with the construction guys we deal with.



You're as wrong as two 10 year old boys fucking.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:11:00 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/16/2006 4:12:25 PM EDT by JB69]

Originally Posted By snarfbatt:
Ok I am working out of town for company that purchased our company I helped build.
At Christmas time new corp. management figgered out that my son was working somewhat for me and that is a no no. Ok we got that part fixed so he go back to work as a EMT making 2x what a ambulance based EMT makes and only working part time.
I am not his "supervisor" but he is tasked with work for my customer.
Today while talking with him he asks me about visable piercings.
Now Corp. says that nothing that can interfear with work or pose a threat to the employee are not allowed.
So the son proceedes to tell me that a little hottie that we know and now works as a exotic dancer is now a TAT artist and piercing specialist who pierced both his ears for free.
I hit the roof.
I told him I don't like it and told him it was Ghey.
If I get home this weekend I told him that is I get close to him and have pliers I will "Fix" the problem.
Ok he is 23 doesn't live in my home.
Am I wrong?
I worry about perception with the construction guys we deal with.



Pretty much ends the conversation, right there. If he wants to do retarded shit, it's his problem where any repercussions may fall.

No different than if he becomes a crackhead and robs 7-11's or goes to school and becomes a rich plastic surgeon.

He's young and maybe stupid (in YOUR opinion, and possibly others') but he IS an adult.


He'll be the one who has to answer to life for his decisions.

I understand what you're saying, but honestly, you have no right to tell him what to do.....

You can only advise him, and hopefully he'll see right & wrong for himself.

And a couple of earrings don't really mean shit..... Seriously.

He could be doing a LOT worse things.

Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:11:31 PM EDT
You dont pat his way and he doesn't live under your roof. So no you have no right.

However I would still fix it for him but I would not do it as nicely as you stated

My Dad invented the Atomic Wedgee. He would tell you to pull up your pants and put a belt on exactly 1 time. I'm not talking like the kids today(20 years ago) I mean you forgot to ut on your belt. I believe his goal was to get the back of your pant up over your head and tuck it under your chin.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:16:55 PM EDT
I grew up with a guy who went off to FL St. in the '80's and got an ear pierced (for some chickie)...

He is now a very senior electrical engineer for a major defense contractor...

We all gave him grief back then over it, but now I think the peer pressure is to do it (and tats)...
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:17:07 PM EDT
Big magnet.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:17:33 PM EDT
He got his ears peirced?

I peirced my own ears when I was 15.
With safety pins.
Just push, close and leave.

If you knew some of what I have peirced now, after 16 years from that first time, you would feel feel blessed to have a son like yours.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:23:20 PM EDT
You are worried about his reputation and that yours as his father will suffer because of him. You can be upset at him but I think you are over reacting threatening to pull them out. My dad was upset when I got my tatoo and it is covered unless I wear sandles.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:26:48 PM EDT
<------------------- Not a fan of piercing.

However, he's an adult and it's his business only. It's OK for you to think piercings are ghey (I know I do) but that doesn't give you the right to harrass him about it. I don't bother people I know that have them, or even tell them I think know it's ghey.

JMHO, YMMV and all that.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:29:11 PM EDT
I wouldn't go to all that. He's an adult. Out of your house. His own man. He's a big boy, let him make his own decisions about getting poked with needles.

On a side note, I dont understand how someone with streched out ear-ring holes, tattoos all over their arms, face and neck, and enough peircings to make it look like they dove into a tackle box, can ever expect to have a good job.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:30:48 PM EDT
being a dad doesnt stop at 18
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:31:48 PM EDT

Originally Posted By DeadSled:
being a dad doesnt stop at 18



No it doesnt, but threats to "fix the problem" arent exactly fatherly either.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:33:04 PM EDT

I'm not a big fan of piercings.

That said, it probably would be good to get some perspective here. Earrings may look Ghey, but as long as the young man isn't Ghey, it's probably not so bad.

Thing is, he can always quit wearing 'em.

Ink, tastefully done, is kinda cool.

Things could be worse.

SP

Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:33:50 PM EDT

Originally Posted By ARMALITE-FAN:
You dont pay his way and he doesn't live under your roof. So no you have no right.




I agree 100%.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:34:28 PM EDT

Just like his Dad I reckon. Hard headed. It'll be alright. Don't mention it again.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:34:56 PM EDT

Originally Posted By DeadSled:
being a dad doesnt stop at 18



it sounds from original post son is working for Dad in some capacity (ie. still feeding from the tit). If that is the case, Dad has every right to tell the 'adult' son to shape up or go be a short-order cook at Denny's...
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:35:29 PM EDT
No, you are not wrong.
I would give my son a hard time also if he got anything pierced.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:37:55 PM EDT

Originally Posted By walttx:
No, you are not wrong.
I would give my son a hard time also if he got anything pierced.



Nothing wrong with giving him a hard time.
BUT

Ok he is 23 doesn't live in my home.

That right there tells you, you can't actually do jack shit.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 4:56:43 PM EDT

Originally Posted By capnrob97:

Originally Posted By DeadSled:
being a dad doesnt stop at 18



it sounds from original post son is working for Dad in some capacity (ie. still feeding from the tit). If that is the case, Dad has every right to tell the 'adult' son to shape up or go be a short-order cook at Denny's...



Shape up my ass. He's a grown man. If he chooses to take a pay-cut by doing something which precludes him from holding the better job.....then that's his stupidity. I know it's hard to stand by and watch your child make a stupid decision, however, in the end it's what they are going to do no matter how much we bitch or try to give them the bennefit of our experience!

Snarfbat, your son is a grown man....all you can do is tell him the "why's and whatfor's" regarding how you feel. In the end, you can't run his life forever. He, just like you and I did, will make his own mistakes and just like we did, he will suffer the consequences of that 'less than stellar' choice. Let it go. One of these days it will dawn on him that you were right and he will realize what the bad decision cost him. That will likely make your future advice more palatable to him. You'll win in the end.

Good luck with it!
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 5:02:21 PM EDT

Originally Posted By pcsutton:

Originally Posted By capnrob97:

Originally Posted By DeadSled:
being a dad doesnt stop at 18



it sounds from original post son is working for Dad in some capacity (ie. still feeding from the tit). If that is the case, Dad has every right to tell the 'adult' son to shape up or go be a short-order cook at Denny's...



Shape up my ass. He's a grown man. If he chooses to take a pay-cut by doing something which precludes him from holding the better job.....then that's his stupidity. I know it's hard to stand by and watch your child make a stupid decision, however, in the end it's what they are going to do no matter how much we bitch or try to give them the bennefit of our experience!

Snarfbat, your son is a grown man....all you can do is tell him the "why's and whatfor's" regarding how you feel. In the end, you can't run his life forever. He, just like you and I did, will make his own mistakes and just like we did, he will suffer the consequences of that 'less than stellar' choice. Let it go. One of these days it will dawn on him that you were right and he will realize what the bad decision cost him. That will likely make your future advice more palatable to him. You'll win in the end.

Good luck with it!



You missed the point, Daddy is paving the way for him, Daddy has the right to confront said 'adult' child, or kick him to the curb.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 5:02:51 PM EDT
He's probably just doing it because he hates you.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 5:10:06 PM EDT

Originally Posted By capnrob97:
I grew up with a guy who went off to FL St. in the '80's and got an ear pierced (for some chickie)...

He is now a very senior electrical engineer for a major defense contractor...

We all gave him grief back then over it, but now I think the peer pressure is to do it (and tats)...



Florida St has an EE program?

huh.
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 5:13:24 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/16/2006 5:14:19 PM EDT by capnrob97]

Originally Posted By NoVaGator:

Originally Posted By capnrob97:
I grew up with a guy who went off to FL St. in the '80's and got an ear pierced (for some chickie)...

He is now a very senior electrical engineer for a major defense contractor...

We all gave him grief back then over it, but now I think the peer pressure is to do it (and tats)...



Florida St has an EE program?

huh.



Yup.

UCF grad myself, back when it was a small, cozy place to get edubicated
Link Posted: 3/16/2006 5:25:46 PM EDT
It's just an ear piercing, how can that possibly mean that you are GHEY? Just don't get it

Link Posted: 3/16/2006 5:29:02 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/16/2006 5:30:58 PM EDT by LoginName]

Originally Posted By snarfbatt:

Now Corp. says that nothing that can interfear with work or pose a threat to the employee are not allowed.



And...

I see no problem there. It might not have a "professional" appearance, but if someone is pumping and blowing on a loved one/relative/spouse/child whom is seconds away from cardiac arrest, do you think the rest of the family even notices or cares about a piercing?


Ok he is 23 doesn't live in my home. Am I wrong?


Yes.


I worry about perception with the construction guys we deal with.


Oh... those assholes guys. The same kind of asshats that will go to a pro-sports venue, make an ass out of themselves in front of network TV, half-naked, covered in team color body paint with their beer-bellies hanging out, foam cheese wedges (or whatever), on their heads and pumping their fists in the air for the players who probably have more piercings and bod-mods than your son has.

Yeah, that's a crew who's perception, take on things or opinion one should "worry" about.
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