Does anyone know how to manage these accounts?  My daughter has a my space account and one of the girls that 'chats' with her posts inappropriate material and I would like to ban her from my daughter's account.

You should ban your daughter from myspace. Problem solved.

Quoted: You should ban your daughter from myspace. Problem solved.

My daughter hasn't done anything wrong.  She is very responsible but this girl keeps posting inappropriate things and I would like to stop her.  

Quoted: Quoted: You should ban your daughter from myspace. Problem solved. My daughter hasn't done anything wrong.  She is very responsible but this girl keeps posting inappropriate things and I would like to stop her.

It is the internet, there is nothing you can do.

Some people are just inappropriate and you have to either live with it or turn it off.

lock your daughter's account to "friends only" for messages and comments.  Then remove the offending girl from her friends.

Under "account settings" then privacy is where most of them are

Quoted: lock your daughter's account to "friends only" for messages and comments.  Then remove the offending girl from her friends. Under "account settings" then privacy is where most of them are

Her accound is locked for friends only.  This 'friend' has been a 'penpal' for several years.  I have had my reservations about her but as of late she has gotten totally out of hand.  I did delete her from my daughter's friends but wasn't sure if that was enough.  Thanks for the help.

Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments.

My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there.

Quoted: Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments. My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there.

Well my daughter is 15.  She enjoys visiting with her classmates and I've read a good deal of her posts and they are all silly teenage kid stuff but this girl makes a post about rules of giving good blow jobs and it floors her.  She comes to me and asks me what to do and I said ban her from her account.  I think she has made good judgement and has earned the 'right' to be on here with supervision and assistance.  The girl for mentioned is 14 but claims to be 16.

oh man... when I have kids.... they won't call me 'dad'... they'll call me... THE ADMINISTRATOR.  

You can go into (best to have her do it) her account and have the comment deleted in the comments section, and to "solve" the problem you can remove the person from the friends list, thus stopping all further comments.
We just banned it from civilian use where I teach...  
They lived

Quoted: oh man... when I have kids.... they won't call me 'dad'... they'll call me... THE ADMINISTRATOR.

Quoted: Quoted: Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments. My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there. Well my daughter is 15.  She enjoys visiting with her classmates and I've read a good deal of her posts and they are all silly teenage kid stuff but this girl makes a post about rules of giving good blow jobs and it floors her.  She comes to me and asks me what to do and I said ban her from her account.  I think she has made good judgement and has earned the 'right' to be on here with supervision and assistance.  The girl for mentioned is 14 but claims to be 16.

When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much?

What are you going to do when she goes to college?

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments. My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there. Well my daughter is 15.  She enjoys visiting with her classmates and I've read a good deal of her posts and they are all silly teenage kid stuff but this girl makes a post about rules of giving good blow jobs and it floors her.  She comes to me and asks me what to do and I said ban her from her account.  I think she has made good judgement and has earned the 'right' to be on here with supervision and assistance.  The girl for mentioned is 14 but claims to be 16. When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much? What are you going to do when she goes to college?

Tim, to some people, 15 is still a child, and still needs guidance.

When I have kids, as long as they live at home, I will exercise supervision.  If they don't like it, they can suck it up until they turn 18 and move out.  

Banning the kid is good, but it won't prevent your daughter from going and visiting her friends page.....but it sounds like you trust your daughter so I don't see a problem with it.

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments. My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there. Well my daughter is 15.  She enjoys visiting with her classmates and I've read a good deal of her posts and they are all silly teenage kid stuff but this girl makes a post about rules of giving good blow jobs and it floors her.  She comes to me and asks me what to do and I said ban her from her account.  I think she has made good judgement and has earned the 'right' to be on here with supervision and assistance.  The girl for mentioned is 14 but claims to be 16. When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much? What are you going to do when she goes to college? Tim, to some people, 15 is still a child, and still needs guidance. When I have kids, as long as they live at home, I will exercise supervision.  If they don't like it, they can suck it up until they turn 18 and move out.

Amen.....
It's my house, my computer, my network and my kids.

just another example of why....

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments. My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there. Well my daughter is 15.  She enjoys visiting with her classmates and I've read a good deal of her posts and they are all silly teenage kid stuff but this girl makes a post about rules of giving good blow jobs and it floors her.  She comes to me and asks me what to do and I said ban her from her account.  I think she has made good judgement and has earned the 'right' to be on here with supervision and assistance.  The girl for mentioned is 14 but claims to be 16. When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much? What are you going to do when she goes to college?

It will be interesting to see if your comments are the same when you have kids.

I now understand my father's comments when I was a teenager, "My house, my rules when you start paying the bills then we'll talk, otherwise STFU."

Quoted: Banning the kid is good, but it won't prevent your daughter from going and visiting her friends page.....but it sounds like you trust your daughter so I don't see a problem with it.

She has a pretty good head on her shoulders.  She's a typical teenager [inmature] "I don't want to hurt her feelings" [banning her] "Can't I just tell her not to type that crap?"  Of course we tried that route and got no where so I have deleted her from Whitney's friends list.  

I do not think its wise to give any child free reins nor is it wise to keep them on a choke chain.  If she's going to screw up I would rather her do so now while she has the comfort of Mom and Dad's help and advice.

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments. My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there. Well my daughter is 15.  She enjoys visiting with her classmates and I've read a good deal of her posts and they are all silly teenage kid stuff but this girl makes a post about rules of giving good blow jobs and it floors her.  She comes to me and asks me what to do and I said ban her from her account.  I think she has made good judgement and has earned the 'right' to be on here with supervision and assistance.  The girl for mentioned is 14 but claims to be 16. When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much? What are you going to do when she goes to college?

and if you were my 15 year old son, you wouldnt have anything but food and a place to sleep.  All that other crap like driving, nice clothes, computers and the internet would have to wait till you got a job and got the hell out of my house.

This sounds like an exercise in futility. If they're talking about BJs on the web, they're talking about BJs at school.

Quoted: oh man... when I have kids.... they won't call me 'dad'... they'll call me... THE ADMINISTRATOR.

Best of luck with that one. Let us know how it turns out. Reality is completely different.

heh sounds like you're doing a good job parenting.  by 15, a large % of girls have already GIVEN blow jobs.... and your daughter gets upset when someone even talks about it.  sounds like you've kept her on the straight and narrow path.

she's in for a surprise when she gets to college though, at least if she goes to a left-leaning college like I do... there have been opinion articles in the SCHOOL NEWSPAPER on how to propertly give a blowjob here.

Quoted: When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much?

You would have beat your DAD to a bloody pulp? LOL... I'd like to see MY 15 year old try that. How old are you now, 16?? Kids think they're so grown up, don't they?

15 is just a kid, and I DO monitor his Internet travels. He's 15. He HAS no personal social life. I'm not running a hotel.

BTW, when I was 15, there was no such thing as the Internet. I did just fine without it.

Another vote for "MySpace is da Debbil".

Quoted: Quoted: When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much? You would have beat your DAD to a bloody pulp? LOL... I'd like to see MY 15 year old try that. How old are you now, 16?? Kids think they're so grown up, don't they? 15 is just a kid, and I DO monitor his Internet travels. He's 15. He HAS no personal social life. I'm not running a hotel. BTW, when I was 15, there was no such thing as the Internet. I did just fine without it.

LOL, im pretty sure that tim had a brain fart and meant to say that his DAD would beat HIM to a bloody pulp.

hell, by the time i was 13 i was already watching pr0n on the internet, and had accidently been introduced to the wonders of that evil goatse photo.... and i turned out ok?  right?

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much? You would have beat your DAD to a bloody pulp? LOL... I'd like to see MY 15 year old try that. How old are you now, 16?? Kids think they're so grown up, don't they? 15 is just a kid, and I DO monitor his Internet travels. He's 15. He HAS no personal social life. I'm not running a hotel. BTW, when I was 15, there was no such thing as the Internet. I did just fine without it. LOL, im pretty sure that tim had a brain fart and meant to say that his DAD would beat HIM to a bloody pulp. hell, by the time i was 13 i was already watching pr0n on the internet, and had accidently been introduced to the wonders of that evil goatse photo.... and i turned out ok?  right?

LOL... Well, I hope that's what he meant! I took his post at face-value.

Patty you are not alone with this, my 16 yr. old son uses My Space also. I've looked over his shoulder while conversing with friends, discussion of blowjobs is the least of your worries. Personally, I think My Space is dangerous for some kids, especially those looking to fit in with the crowd, you never know who you are exactly talking to. Look at some of the other kids profiles and you will see that some give their full name and city which they reside in.

myspace.com isn't a particularly evil place.  Its just a LARGE place.  I got internet when I was 12, in 1996.  That's hardly the dawn of the internet age, but its before all the "multimedia content" and all that you think of when you think of the web today.  I knew about Usenet, which is 10x larger and 100x worse than myspace.com could ever dream of being.  There are entire sections of usenet essentially devoted to pedophilia.  I turned out fine - I had the presence of mind and the maturity to stay out of places that could get me into trouble.  Sure, I saw my fair share of porn, but I was also raised well, and I know that what some women do for a little cash isn't what most women do, or what they should be doing.  Even at 14 or 15, when the net started becoming more images than text for me, I knew that all that stuff out there was manufactured, posed photos.  

The trick to raising a child in today's world seems to be grounding.  You have to prepare them for these things before they come into contact with them, and explain them as best you can once they do.  My parents NEVER brought up sex into a conversation, but they were both more than happy to answer any and all questions I had about it.  I was informed of the consequences of sex, ways to limit the risk, and my parents' religious beleifs on the topic - and therefore my beliefs, at least at that time.  I saw some nasty stuff on the web before I was out of high school, but it didn't cross my mind to actually try and DO them.  I knew the difference between right and wrong.  

Bear in mind, however, that I just turned 22.  I'm seeing this from the perspective of the first generation to grow up with the internet.  I got to see 286s turn into Pentium 4s before I graduated high school.  The current generation takes technology for granted in a way that I never thought of.  I know my way around a computer, but I didn't have one when I was five.  My generation was the last to learn to go outside and play on a dirtpile.  From here forward, barring catastrophe, there will never again be an entire generation of children that has to entertain themselves.

I didnt go over every post, so forgive me if this has been said already. If you want to totally block the person, go to there myspace page and click block user, this erases them completely and I believe it deletes any comments/messages they posted as well.

ETA: Im pretty sure this isnt reversable, meaing once you have blocked a person, they cant be unblocked, not sure on that though.

Quoted: myspace.com isn't a particularly evil place.  Its just a LARGE place.  I got internet when I was 12, in 1996.  That's hardly the dawn of the internet age, but its before all the "multimedia content" and all that you think of when you think of the web today.  I knew about Usenet, which is 10x larger and 100x worse than myspace.com could ever dream of being.  There are entire sections of usenet essentially devoted to pedophilia.  I turned out fine - I had the presence of mind and the maturity to stay out of places that could get me into trouble.  Sure, I saw my fair share of porn, but I was also raised well, and I know that what some women do for a little cash isn't what most women do, or what they should be doing.  Even at 14 or 15, when the net started becoming more images than text for me, I knew that all that stuff out there was manufactured, posed photos.   The trick to raising a child in today's world seems to be grounding.  You have to prepare them for these things before they come into contact with them, and explain them as best you can once they do.  My parents NEVER brought up sex into a conversation, but they were both more than happy to answer any and all questions I had about it.  I was informed of the consequences of sex, ways to limit the risk, and my parents' religious beleifs on the topic - and therefore my beliefs, at least at that time.  I saw some nasty stuff on the web before I was out of high school, but it didn't cross my mind to actually try and DO them.  I knew the difference between right and wrong.   Bear in mind, however, that I just turned 22.  I'm seeing this from the perspective of the first generation to grow up with the internet.  I got to see 286s turn into Pentium 4s before I graduated high school.  The current generation takes technology for granted in a way that I never thought of.  I know my way around a computer, but I didn't have one when I was five.  My generation was the last to learn to go outside and play on a dirtpile.  From here forward, barring catastrophe, there will never again be an entire generation of children that has to entertain themselves.

+1.  except i've been using a computer since i was 3 years old, and the internet since i was 7.  i have never known a world without access to computers, and have only vague memories of a time before i was using the internet.

Quoted: myspace.com isn't a particularly evil place.  Its just a LARGE place.  I got internet when I was 12, in 1996.  That's hardly the dawn of the internet age, but its before all the "multimedia content" and all that you think of when you think of the web today.  I knew about Usenet, which is 10x larger and 100x worse than myspace.com could ever dream of being.  There are entire sections of usenet essentially devoted to pedophilia.  I turned out fine - I had the presence of mind and the maturity to stay out of places that could get me into trouble.  Sure, I saw my fair share of porn, but I was also raised well, and I know that what some women do for a little cash isn't what most women do, or what they should be doing.  Even at 14 or 15, when the net started becoming more images than text for me, I knew that all that stuff out there was manufactured, posed photos.   The trick to raising a child in today's world seems to be grounding.  You have to prepare them for these things before they come into contact with them, and explain them as best you can once they do.  My parents NEVER brought up sex into a conversation, but they were both more than happy to answer any and all questions I had about it.  I was informed of the consequences of sex, ways to limit the risk, and my parents' religious beleifs on the topic - and therefore my beliefs, at least at that time.  I saw some nasty stuff on the web before I was out of high school, but it didn't cross my mind to actually try and DO them.  I knew the difference between right and wrong.   Bear in mind, however, that I just turned 22.  I'm seeing this from the perspective of the first generation to grow up with the internet.  I got to see 286s turn into Pentium 4s before I graduated high school.  The current generation takes technology for granted in a way that I never thought of.  I know my way around a computer, but I didn't have one when I was five.  My generation was the last to learn to go outside and play on a dirtpile.  From here forward, barring catastrophe, there will never again be an entire generation of children that has to entertain themselves.

good advice SimonPhoto.  Its just one of the worries parents have these days.  I'm not terribly worried about some pedophilia coming all the way out to where I live to track my daughter down.  Heck ya can't pay for that good of entertainment these days!  I'm not about to give her free reins but I trust her.

Patty

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Or simply make it so your daughter must approve all comments. My question is...you must be at least a certain age to be on myspace...I think 14.  If your daughter is old enough to be on myspace, I'd imagine she's old enough to handle her own things, otherwise, she really shouldn't be on there. Well my daughter is 15.  She enjoys visiting with her classmates and I've read a good deal of her posts and they are all silly teenage kid stuff but this girl makes a post about rules of giving good blow jobs and it floors her.  She comes to me and asks me what to do and I said ban her from her account.  I think she has made good judgement and has earned the 'right' to be on here with supervision and assistance.  The girl for mentioned is 14 but claims to be 16. When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.  To each his own, but I can't understand why you would invade the personal social life of a 15 year old.  I could see it if she was 12, but seriously...15?  Does she get out much? What are you going to do when she goes to college? and if you were my 15 year old son, you wouldnt have anything but food and a place to sleep.  All that other crap like driving, nice clothes, computers and the internet would have to wait till you got a job and got the hell out of my house.

It did, I provided it all myself.  i worked 7 days a week in high school, that's why I wouldn't accept that crap.  When I got out of high school I went in the Army and provided my life that way.

I didn't have opressive parents that didn't realize that kids are going to do what they want anyway.

And my dad beating me to a bloody pulp?  He wears a tie to work and drives a hyundai....and has never owned a gun in his entire life.  Him and what Army?  Of course, my dad respected me and i respect him...so we didn't have any problems.  I'd view invading my minimal privacy as disrespect....but once again, my parents respected me.

Tim I have no doubt you are a capable and unique individual but what you write is nonsensical.  A mature, responsible person would not write "I respected my father and he respected me" in one breath and "I'd beat him to a bloody pulp" in an other.

Quoted: Tim I have no doubt you are a capable and unique individual but what you write is nonsensical.  A mature, responsible person would not write "I respected my father and he respected me" in one breath and "I'd beat him to a bloody pulp" in an other.

What, that doesn't make sense to you???

Quoted: When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp.

It sounds like you weren't beaten enough as a child.  

Quoted: Quoted: Tim I have no doubt you are a capable and unique individual but what you write is nonsensical.  A mature, responsible person would not write "I respected my father and he respected me" in one breath and "I'd beat him to a bloody pulp" in an other. What, that doesn't make sense to you???

No in my family the order is reversed.  "I beat him to a bloody pulp and he respected me"

Quoted: Quoted: When I was 15 years old, if my dad was reading what I was doing on the internet I probably would have beat him to a bloody pulp. It sounds like you weren't beaten enough as a child.

Their generation got the short end of the stick on discipline.  I am a 35 year old career soldier and still think my 63 year old dad could kick my ass.

Quoted: Tim I have no doubt you are a capable and unique individual but what you write is nonsensical.  A mature, responsible person would not write "I respected my father and he respected me" in one breath and "I'd beat him to a bloody pulp" in an other.

Not true.  I was taught to be respectful and earn respect in response, but that doesn't mean that I'm going to allow anyone else to disrespect me, either.  If it came to beatings, me and my dad would certainly fight like men.  If that's something your generation can't handle, oh well.  In 22 years it has never come to that, because both of us respect each other's space.

so,.... how good was the advice on the BJ's?

Patty - I'm in the same spot as you - 14 year old.  After hearing all the hype on the news about Myspace, I had her email me her profile.

I wasn't very happy with what I found.  You're 100% correct - how do you control what other kids post?

My plan is to continue to monitor the activity and let her know when I'm unhappy with the material.

Your daughter probably meets all sorts of sick and messed up kids in school everyday.
I'm not sure if there's any avoiding these sorts of people at all these days...