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Posted: 1/29/2006 10:42:08 PM EDT
Be it girl/boy friend or spouse?
In the past or currently
No response necessary.
If they are okay with it it's not cheating
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:45:50 PM EDT
[#1]
Yes
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:46:52 PM EDT
[#2]
It depends on what the meaning of is is?
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:47:03 PM EDT
[#3]
I get enough out of the opportunity without having to cheat. The offers are nice, I won't lie.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:47:18 PM EDT
[#4]
33 percent. wow.  I better women cheat even more.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:47:24 PM EDT
[#5]

Quoted:
It depends on what the meaning of is is?



Anything you shouldnt be doing with someone other than your wife/gf/bf/husband
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:49:27 PM EDT
[#6]

Quoted:

Quoted:
It depends on what the meaning of is is?



Anything you shouldnt be doing with someone other than your wife/gf/bf/husband



What if their ok with it? I mean, technically, it would still be cheating wouldnt it even if they didnt care?
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:50:24 PM EDT
[#7]
I told you I never would and I wont. Now get go get me a sandwitch bitch.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:50:52 PM EDT
[#8]
My GF now, no.  When I was 19, yes.  I voted yes.


I think I read the question wrong. Should have voted no.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 10:51:14 PM EDT
[#9]
I voted No.  I voted this way b/c I have never and do not intend to cheat on my current SO (wife).  However, I have cheated on girlfriends in the past.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:04:25 PM EDT
[#10]
Never, and I never will.  I consider it one of the worst things you could do to another person.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:04:56 PM EDT
[#11]
Have not and don't plan to.  My integrity is more important to me than a short term ego boost.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:05:17 PM EDT
[#12]
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:07:13 PM EDT
[#13]
Never have. I've had opportunities to, but  it's more important to me to be faithful to her
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:12:25 PM EDT
[#14]

Quoted:


hmmmm........



Thats certainly an interesting answer.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:13:42 PM EDT
[#15]
Just to clarify....


Is oral sex cheating?

If I'm able to mount the Clintonian defense, I will answer in the negative with a "No". Otherwise, no comment.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:14:50 PM EDT
[#16]
does porn count?
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:15:07 PM EDT
[#17]
Ironic this comes up tonight. I was going to post earlier.

Today, for the first time ever, I think I actually met the only woman that I could cheat on my wife with. Good thing I'll never, ever see her again.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:16:11 PM EDT
[#18]

Quoted:
Just to clarify....


Is oral sex cheating?

If I'm able to mount the Clintonian defense, I will answer in the negative with a "No". Otherwise, no comment.


if your okay with your wife or gf blowing someone else then it's not cheating
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:16:40 PM EDT
[#19]
never, if you lose the trust it's all over.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:17:01 PM EDT
[#20]

Quoted:
does porn count?


hell no
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:19:30 PM EDT
[#21]

Quoted:

Quoted:
does porn count?


hell no



whew!
I shall continue not cheating then!



in all seriousness, I vote no.
The short term thrill is likely not worth the long term grief.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:20:34 PM EDT
[#22]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Just to clarify....


Is oral sex cheating?

If I'm able to mount the Clintonian defense, I will answer in the negative with a "No". Otherwise, no comment.


if your okay with your wife or gf blowing someone else then it's not cheating



I cant think of it like that, becuase I see giving and recieving oral sex as two different games. Hell man, 2 different stadiums!
Its once thing if my wife came home and told me someone ate her apple pie. Its a whole different sport if she comes home and tells me she put some other dudes cock in her mouth. WHOLE different sport.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:21:12 PM EDT
[#23]
I never have, never will.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:25:01 PM EDT
[#24]

Quoted:

Quoted:

Quoted:
Just to clarify....


Is oral sex cheating?

If I'm able to mount the Clintonian defense, I will answer in the negative with a "No". Otherwise, no comment.


if your okay with your wife or gf blowing someone else then it's not cheating



I cant think of it like that, becuase I see giving and recieving oral sex as two different games. Hell man, 2 different stadiums!
Its once thing if my wife came home and told me someone ate her apple pie. Its a whole different sport if she comes home and tells me she put some other dudes cock in her mouth. WHOLE different sport.



That's fucked up dude.  It's wrong either way, I don't see how someone could differentiate (sp?) between the two.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:26:35 PM EDT
[#25]

Quoted:

Quoted:

Quoted:

Quoted:
Just to clarify....


Is oral sex cheating?

If I'm able to mount the Clintonian defense, I will answer in the negative with a "No". Otherwise, no comment.


if your okay with your wife or gf blowing someone else then it's not cheating



I cant think of it like that, becuase I see giving and recieving oral sex as two different games. Hell man, 2 different stadiums!
Its once thing if my wife came home and told me someone ate her apple pie. Its a whole different sport if she comes home and tells me she put some other dudes cock in her mouth. WHOLE different sport.



That's fucked up dude.  It's wrong either way, I don't see how someone could differentiate (sp?) between the two.



I'm not saying either one if right, I'm just saying theres a big damn difference between sitting there enjoying it and putting someone genitals in your mouth man.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:27:46 PM EDT
[#26]
Being the cad that I was in my younger years, I cheated on girlfriends. Never on my wife.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:28:30 PM EDT
[#27]
I used my left hand once, when it fell asleep.  Does that count?
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:30:18 PM EDT
[#28]

Quoted:
I'm just saying theres a big damn difference between sitting there enjoying it and putting someone genitals in your mouth man.



just thought I'd save that one...
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:32:45 PM EDT
[#29]
Before the hubby and I became Mr. and Mrs., we once had this one-month separation thing going on.  The one-month was for (especially him) to think about whether or not he wants to make me become his Mrs.
During that one month, we didn't see and speak to each other.  That was very hard for me to deal with that
kind of situation.

While waiting for him to give me an answer, I went out with this other guy just to relieve the hurting feeling
inside me.  We went on a few dates here and there.

Do you think what I did was cheatin'?  


Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:32:59 PM EDT
[#30]

Quoted:

Quoted:
I'm just saying theres a big damn difference between sitting there enjoying it and putting someone genitals in your mouth man.



just thought I'd save that one...



Ok.....it isnt going anywhere......
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:34:53 PM EDT
[#31]

Quoted:
Before the hubby and I became Mr. and Mrs., we once had this one-month separation thing going on.  The one-month was for (especially him) to think about whether or not he wants to make me become his Mrs.
During that one month, we didn't see and speak to each other.  That was very hard for me to deal with that
kind of situation.

While waiting for him to give me an answer, I went out with this other guy just to relieve the hurting feeling
inside me.  We went on a few dates here and there.

Do you think what I did was cheatin'?  




dates, no
sex, yes
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:39:16 PM EDT
[#32]

Quoted:
Before the hubby and I became Mr. and Mrs., we once had this one-month separation thing going on.  The one-month was for (especially him) to think about whether or not he wants to make me become his Mrs.
During that one month, we didn't see and speak to each other.  That was very hard for me to deal with that
kind of situation.

While waiting for him to give me an answer, I went out with this other guy just to relieve the hurting feeling
inside me.  We went on a few dates here and there.

Do you think what I did was cheatin'?  





If you guys PLANNED on it being a one month separation then yes. If you guys broke up and saw other people and then a month later said lets try it again then no it was not cheating

ETA: The next paragraph is intended to the author of the thread and NOT m Jacobs wife

Problem is that you didnt clarify what kind of cheating? You know that a person can cheat emotionally too right? Lets say if a couple married or not drift emotionally and one of them starts hanging with someone of the opposite sex and just going out, having a good time, starting to have feelings for each other. Its still cheating. Even though a sex act has not been committed, just the simple fact that the person falls in love with another can be devastating to a relationship.

Ask me how I know.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:42:13 PM EDT
[#33]
Never cheated.
A GF cheated on me twice, though.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:48:43 PM EDT
[#34]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Before the hubby and I became Mr. and Mrs., we once had this one-month separation thing going on.  The one-month was for (especially him) to think about whether or not he wants to make me become his Mrs.
During that one month, we didn't see and speak to each other.  That was very hard for me to deal with that
kind of situation.

While waiting for him to give me an answer, I went out with this other guy just to relieve the hurting feeling
inside me.  We went on a few dates here and there.

Do you think what I did was cheatin'?  





If you guys PLANNED on it being a one month separation then yes. If you guys broke up and saw other people and then a month later said lets try it again then no it was not cheating

ETA: The next paragraph is intended to the author of the thread and NOT m Jacobs wife

Problem is that you didnt clarify what kind of cheating? You know that a person can cheat emotionally too right? Lets say if a couple married or not drift emotionally and one of them starts hanging with someone of the opposite sex and just going out, having a good time, starting to have feelings for each other. Its still cheating. Even though a sex act has not been committed, just the simple fact that the person falls in love with another can be devastating to a relationship.

Ask me how I know.


To me the dating part can be fixed but the sex part is hard to forgive. That's just me.
Link Posted: 1/29/2006 11:53:40 PM EDT
[#35]
not on this one
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 12:40:08 AM EDT
[#36]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Before the hubby and I became Mr. and Mrs., we once had this one-month separation thing going on.  The one-month was for (especially him) to think about whether or not he wants to make me become his Mrs.
During that one month, we didn't see and speak to each other.  That was very hard for me to deal with that
kind of situation.

While waiting for him to give me an answer, I went out with this other guy just to relieve the hurting feeling
inside me.  We went on a few dates here and there.

Do you think what I did was cheatin'?  





If you guys PLANNED on it being a one month separation then yes. If you guys broke up and saw other people and then a month later said lets try it again then no it was not cheating

ETA: The next paragraph is intended to the author of the thread and NOT m Jacobs wife

Problem is that you didnt clarify what kind of cheating? You know that a person can cheat emotionally too right? Lets say if a couple married or not drift emotionally and one of them starts hanging with someone of the opposite sex and just going out, having a good time, starting to have feelings for each other. Its still cheating. Even though a sex act has not been committed, just the simple fact that the person falls in love with another can be devastating to a relationship.

Ask me how I know.



How do you know?
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 12:44:49 AM EDT
[#37]
What if your spouse comes home with some disease you never heard of ?

Link Posted: 1/30/2006 12:48:13 AM EDT
[#38]

Quoted:
Before the hubby and I became Mr. and Mrs., we once had this one-month separation thing going on.  The one-month was for (especially him) to think about whether or not he wants to make me become his Mrs.
During that one month, we didn't see and speak to each other.  That was very hard for me to deal with that
kind of situation.

While waiting for him to give me an answer, I went out with this other guy just to relieve the hurting feeling
inside me.  We went on a few dates here and there.

Do you think what I did was cheatin'?  





One whole month?
Try going for six months to a year without seeing your spouse.
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 12:50:24 AM EDT
[#39]

Quoted:
What if your spouse comes home with some disease you never heard of ?




Might be time for The Papers.
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 12:53:31 AM EDT
[#40]

Quoted:
I'm not saying either one if right, I'm just saying theres a big damn difference between sitting there enjoying it and putting someone genitals in your mouth man.





I'm not big on signatures, but do you mind if I use this in mine?
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 1:02:32 AM EDT
[#41]

Quoted:

Quoted:
I'm not saying either one if right, I'm just saying theres a big damn difference between sitting there enjoying it and putting someone genitals in your mouth man.





I'm not big on signatures, but do you mind if I use this in mine?



Its all your man.

All i ask if change the if to is, cause my typing aint so guid late at night
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 1:05:52 AM EDT
[#42]

Quoted:
Its all your man.

All i ask if change the if to is, cause my typing aint so guid late at night



Done!  Shweet.
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 1:05:57 AM EDT
[#43]
Was cheated on once, I would never do it to some other one.
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 1:06:20 AM EDT
[#44]
I've been cheated on twice, so I know what it feels like.. I won't cheat on a woman i'm with for the simple reason that I don't think I could handle the look of hurt/dissapointment on their face when they find out. If I am with a woman it's because I care about her... Any temporary thrill/pleasure with another woman could never be equal to the guilt I'd feel hurting someone I loved.

As for couples being ok with their partner sleeping around, I've never been in a relationship mature enough to handle it if the interest was there. My last relationship would have been perfectly ok with it but I wouldn't have. I only know of one marriage where that kind of thing worked out over the long term, and the dude is an ARFCOM'er! He and his wife started swinging in their second year of marriage, and while they aren't open about it and everything stays on the downlow they are both cool with it and have a happy marriage.

A lifetime is a long time to spend with one partner-it's not for everyone, that's for sure.

Dave
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 1:21:38 AM EDT
[#45]
I wonder how many wives are reading this.
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 7:18:48 AM EDT
[#46]

Quoted:
Never, and I never will.  I consider it one of the worst things you could do to another person.



+1


I get enough out of the opportunity without having to cheat. The offers are nice, I won't lie.


+1 to that too..  

Been single for a while now, but my ex and I used to joke about our offers

Unfortunately The one she failed to mention was the knife in my back.  B****

Although karma is a real mf sometimes, cause it has happened to her several times since

ETA, Still kicking my own ass for not going after this one girl, she and I knew eachother for a long time, and it was always that our timing was off.  Last time I seen her was when it was pretty much over with my ex, but not officially.  So I didn't go for it.
Link Posted: 1/30/2006 7:27:43 AM EDT
[#47]
One time I played yahtzee with loaded dice.
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