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Posted: 1/23/2006 11:59:55 AM EDT
Help. Any good advice? This is my first kid and I think he is ready but it is going slower than I hoped.

Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:01:59 PM EDT
But you're Crappybob.

We should be taking advice from you.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:02:20 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 1/23/2006 12:02:47 PM EDT by PosterChild]
No advice here...I have 2 girls. But your username seems appropriate.


Edit to add: Beat me to it.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:08:24 PM EDT
Make a game out of it. My mother told me that I liked to try to sink the Cheerios that she put in the tiolet bowl.

Breacher
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:08:38 PM EDT

Originally Posted By Crappybob:
Help. Any good advice? This is my first kid and I think he is ready but it is going slower than I hoped.




We went thru this twice and the best advice is to just let them go at their own speed. Its no big deal. One of my sons got it right off and the other was way slow. Bodily function stuff works itself out eventually and trying to rush it slows the process down even more.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:10:32 PM EDT
In time we all learn how....


After he gets potty trained teach him this little rhyme--"Be an adult, not a kid. Hit the toilet, not the lid."
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:10:45 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 1/23/2006 12:11:05 PM EDT by SR71]
I too have a 2 year old that my wife and I are trying to potty train. From what I'm told it is harder to potty train boys than girls. That being said, we have had luck putting a few Cherios YES Cherios in the pot. hock.gif He gets a kick out of trying to pee on the Cherios. As for the other, we have not had any luck. He WILL NOT sit on the toilet. He screams, cries and kicks until we take him off. I feel he thinks that he might get sucked down with the water or something. Good luck!
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:11:15 PM EDT
We had the same issue with our son. My wife set up a reward system for him. Every time he went to the potty, he earned a marble. If he tinkled, he got one marble. If he pooped, he got two marbles. Once he filled up a plastic noodle container to a line drawn, he earned a reward. That worked great! We tried everything before that and nothing worked. Give it a shot and see what happened. Lavish praise on him as well.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:12:09 PM EDT

Originally Posted By AssaultPossum:

Originally Posted By Crappybob:
Help. Any good advice? This is my first kid and I think he is ready but it is going slower than I hoped.




We went thru this twice and the best advice is to just let them go at their own speed. Its no big deal. One of my sons got it right off and the other was way slow. Bodily function stuff works itself out eventually and trying to rush it slows the process down even more.



HUGE +1 for my son. I got all concerned and I probably added to the amount of time it took him to get it right....don't obsess over it.

Someday he'll be doing his business in the right place and time....

What did work was to tell him he could use a diaper/pull-up, but he'd have to go into the bathroom to go #2 (WHO DOES #2 WORK FOR!! Sorry, was watching Autin Powers lastnight....). I guess there is a connection made in their brains between the act and the place....seemed to help.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:12:24 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 1/23/2006 12:14:24 PM EDT by The_Macallan]

Originally Posted By Crappybob:
Help. Any good advice? This is my first kid and I think he is ready but it is going slower than I hoped.


First of all, don't stress about it. When they're ready - they're ready.

Encourage them but don't make it a power-thing. Don't FIGHT with them about it. Try working for a few days or a week and if it isn't working, back off for a while.

Relax.

- Try the reward thing. A small toy or snack. Have them in pullups and don't be all panicky when they make a mess, just take them to their toilet and let them finish or show them where they have to go.

- Making a game of it is a good idea. Tell them stories or read to them on the potty - even books about potty-training. There's lots of "I'm learning to go to the potty now" books for kids.

- Have them show by example or have them "teach" their favorite teddy bear or their Buzz Lightyear toy how to sit on the potty and pee or poop. Nobody likes being at the bottom of the totempole - and little kids will feel more pride if they can teach someone else (even if it's just a toy) something.

- Have them watch someone else - a cousin who's close to the same age. They'll respond better if they know that one of their peers can do it and they'll want to emulate them.

But whatever you do - relax. It WILL happen.

EVERYONE gets potty-trained.

Don't stress about it. Just be ready for a few messes - and tell'em it's okay and bring them into the bathroom to finish.


BTW... Boys are especially slower in potty-training.

Ours wasn't potty-trained until almost four and wasn't poop-trained until after his 4th birthday. One day, it just started happening - it was like a light went on in his head and he just felt ready.

Good luck.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:13:46 PM EDT

Originally Posted By SR71:
I too have a 2 year old that my wife and I are trying to potty train. From what I'm told it is harder to potty train boys than girls. That being said, we have had luck putting a few Cherios YES Cherios in the pot. He gets a kick out of trying to pee on the Cherios. As for the other, we have not had any luck. He WILL NOT sit on the toilet. He screams, cries and kicks until we take him off. I feel he thinks that he might get sucked down with the water or something. Good luck!



Brings a whole new meaning to "...Who pissed in your Cherrios this morning?!?!" "I did, why'd you ask?"
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:16:45 PM EDT
+1 to Macallan.
My daughter got through her phases a lot quicker than our son.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:17:49 PM EDT
I seemed to have timed my children right. When I thought they were ready I just told them to use the toilet now. They said okay and that was it. Took a week or two for my daughter but my son got it the first day.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:21:56 PM EDT

Originally Posted By sslocal:
I seemed to have timed my children right. When I thought they were ready I just told them to use the toilet now. They said okay and that was it. Took a week or two for my daughter but my son got it the first day.



Man, how did they feel wearing diapers to 6th grade?

TXL
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:22:41 PM EDT
My son, Dominic, tells us when he has to pee. He is 2.5 years old. He has a vocab of a 4 year old. He tells us only when he has to take a leak. He still is crapping in his diaper.

He'll get there, they all do. We have x-tra baths in the house, so one has a toilet seat for him and a step up fot it.

I have him singing "Floating down a river on a big black log" when he flushes.

Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:24:18 PM EDT

Originally Posted By The_Macallan:

- Have them watch someone else - a cousin who's close to the same age. They'll respond better if they know that one of their peers can do it and they'll want to emulate them.

But whatever you do - relax. It WILL happen.

EVERYONE gets potty-trained.




Hey...you mind if I try that?

It might work with a cute chickie snak sometime...."gee, I have a real problem peeing, mind if I come in and watch you?"

Yeah, I know, I'm a sick man.....
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:48:02 PM EDT
Every kid is different. Mine really got interested in going potty when he realized that running to the potty and going pee would get him out of going to bed, being punished for mischief, picking up toys, etc. HE was going pee in the potty for 2 months before we could get him to take a dump in it, it was a big deal when he did theough. Middle of the night we all got up, turned on his fave music (smashing pumpkins) broke out the ice cream and chocolate syrup and chips and celebrated.

Basically offer encouragement, make a big deal of the successes, and not a big deal of the setbacks. Also, mine watched me pee and learned what to do by example, so he just had to figger out how to do it for himself.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:53:15 PM EDT
Most boys aren't trained until after 3, often close to 4 years. It is a very bad idea to push potty training on kids too soon.

Boys will get with the program when the get a good grasp of cause and effect. In other words, when you can explain to them (and they understand) that being untrained has a social cost to them, they might get interested.

If you try to push potty training because it is inconvenient for you or your wife or the grandparents, then you are a bad parent. Children are inconvenient. If you try to make them convenient, regardless of the emotional or psychological cost to the child, you deserve to have your pecker chopped off.

At one time, almost all young parents were just plain stupid. Now, it seems that most of them are stupid and horrifically selfish.

I don't know if that is the case with you. However, good parenting means you allow your children to grow and mature in a healthy way.

Besides, who are you trying to impress?
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:53:22 PM EDT
I wish I got a reward for going #2.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 12:57:26 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 1/23/2006 12:58:12 PM EDT by LWilde]
Just let him go out in the woods.

Like I told my missus, if'n your a man, the world is your urinal!

Me---><---Miz LWilde.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 1:00:20 PM EDT

Originally Posted By The_Macallan:

Originally Posted By Crappybob:
Help. Any good advice? This is my first kid and I think he is ready but it is going slower than I hoped.


First of all, don't stress about it. When they're ready - they're ready.

Encourage them but don't make it a power-thing. Don't FIGHT with them about it. Try working for a few days or a week and if it isn't working, back off for a while.

Relax.

- Try the reward thing. A small toy or snack. Have them in pullups and don't be all panicky when they make a mess, just take them to their toilet and let them finish or show them where they have to go.

- Making a game of it is a good idea. Tell them stories or read to them on the potty - even books about potty-training. There's lots of "I'm learning to go to the potty now" books for kids.

- Have them show by example or have them "teach" their favorite teddy bear or their Buzz Lightyear toy how to sit on the potty and pee or poop. Nobody likes being at the bottom of the totempole - and little kids will feel more pride if they can teach someone else (even if it's just a toy) something.

- Have them watch someone else - a cousin who's close to the same age. They'll respond better if they know that one of their peers can do it and they'll want to emulate them.

But whatever you do - relax. It WILL happen.

EVERYONE gets potty-trained.

Don't stress about it. Just be ready for a few messes - and tell'em it's okay and bring them into the bathroom to finish.


BTW... Boys are especially slower in potty-training.

Ours wasn't potty-trained until almost four and wasn't poop-trained until after his 4th birthday. One day, it just started happening - it was like a light went on in his head and he just felt ready.

Good luck.



Yup...that's about it. And our girls were faster than the boys too.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 1:01:40 PM EDT
He'll get tired of crapping on himself. When he's ready he'll let you know.

I think 2 is young for a boy to be "trained". 3-4 seems too old. I think 2.5-2.75 years old is the norm.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 1:01:53 PM EDT
Put a tarp on the floor and walls by the kamode.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 1:34:04 PM EDT

Originally Posted By OLY-M4gery:
He'll get tired of crapping on himself. When he's ready he'll let you know.

I think 2 is young for a boy to be "trained". 3-4 seems too old. I think 2.5-2.75 years old is the norm.


Chuck was potty trained at 2.87 years.
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 1:40:03 PM EDT
I base my strong opinion on having had three kids of my own and being a part of a large extended family. I don't think you should push potty training on boys prior to age three. Now, if they decide on their own to join the ranks of the personally hygenic, that's wonderful.

Do any of you guys who advocate sub-three years have any experience with potty training kids?
Link Posted: 1/23/2006 2:58:33 PM EDT

Originally Posted By Will-Rogers:
I base my strong opinion on having had three kids of my own and being a part of a large extended family. I don't think you should push potty training on boys prior to age three. Now, if they decide on their own to join the ranks of the personally hygenic, that's wonderful.

Do any of you guys who advocate sub-three years have any experience with potty training kids?



Um yes...My 2 year old is potty trained. He still has accidents every once in a while, but he is in underwear except for when we go on long trips or for overnight. He did it mostly on his own with just encouragement. He also knows most of the alphabet, can count to 10, recognized some words, can name most of the Thomas the tank engine characters, knows his colors and shapes, knows that guns are "no-nos", and has a vocabulary that is well beyond my ability to try and quantify.

I doubt I have an exceptional child, and I seriously doubt that i am an exceptional parent of any sort. What I have learned so far is that all my pre-concieved notions of what children are capable of were wrong, and that my children can learn and apply knowledge at a rate far greater than I even imagined.
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