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Posted: 12/22/2005 8:24:27 AM EDT
Soo around a month ago I was getting pie fairly regularly from a chick, she is decent looking and had just bought some new lingerie. I had just gotten my new digital camera. Soo she says to me why don't you take some pics, obviously who am I to refuse this request. Anyways long story short she ims me and says I don't think we should see each other anymore, I want to get back together with my ex. Out of the nowhere she Ims me yesterday because she wants to talk, because things aren't going so well with her current b/f and she wants to hook up with me again, she is not a girl I would have any interest in any kind of relationship (think gold digger). My response too bad I am sorry you had your opportunity, I don't care to hear about your boyfriend problems, I have moved on and found about 6 other girls. Which I can tell is driving her nuts, (this whole I dont give a damn thing really works).


Soo anyways, long story short she says I want you to delete those pictures of me. My response we'll see now I am thinking that technically, the pictures are my property, and I have no reason to delete them, I will not be posting them anywhere or sharing them with anybody but what say ye, shall I hang onto them as a trophy or in case she gets all psycho on me?
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:26:16 AM EDT
You should let her come back for a serious ass pounding and then get pics of that too.

And lose the memory card. Maybe in a college computer lab.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:26:24 AM EDT
This post is worthless with out pics. We will help you decide if you should give them back or not.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:26:55 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 12/22/2005 8:29:38 AM EDT by Gravity_Tester]
You could IM them to me for evaluation and safekeeping...



Is this the ".22 and a .38" chick?


ETA: 25 pages and then a thread in Team...
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:27:46 AM EDT
Unlike most of what walks around today that self-describes themselves as "Men" - try and act like you have at least a modicum of honor and grant this reasonable request.

(after you IM a link of the photos to me - please!)
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:28:53 AM EDT
I have lots of pics and vids of Ex's... Only one has asked them to delete them. I told her I did...
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:29:30 AM EDT
Just delete 'em, dude. Move on....and let her go bug some other guy.....and you'll have a free conscience later in life.

Have a very convoluted conscience, I can say this with utter certainty. There is NOTHING...AND I MEAN NOTHING....more expensive than regret. Trust me.

Do the right thing....erase 'em.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:29:44 AM EDT
Delete them and move on to the next model.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:29:52 AM EDT
Of all the threads ever posted... c'mon!

It needs more cowbell!
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:31:02 AM EDT
Sounds like she's already going psycho on you.

As long as you NEVER show them, or distribute them, she legally speaking, doesn't have much of a case.

As for keeping them "in case," a couple problems jump to mind:

She's NUTS, the threat of photos aren't going to discourage her from whatever she is doing

You could find yourself in hot water if you threaten to distribute the photos, think blackmail

Anyway, do you REALLY think you're the first guy to snap photos of that, especially since it was her idea?

My advice, TELL her they are deleted and break all further contact.

Good luck.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:34:22 AM EDT
ignore them dude

post photos of the hog here for us all to enjoy
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:34:28 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Gravity_Tester:
You could IM them to me for evaluation and safekeeping...



Is this the ".22 and a .38" chick?


ETA: 25 pages and then a thread in Team...



Yep this is .22 and .38 chick. She was pretty cool all of the time until I shot her down and told her that I had moved on and found other people and that I wasn't sticking around for her bullshit. The only reason that I haven't actually deleted them as of yet is because, I didn't feel like fucking with it as they are on CD with some other files ( I recently had to do a reformat and reinstall) also she pissed me off by trying with weak attempts to insult me.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:35:15 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 12/22/2005 8:35:39 AM EDT by SigSaurP228]

Originally Posted By TheAmaazingCarl:
ignore them dude

post photos of the hog here for us all to enjoy




Sorry man these are not COC passable.


Plus me keeping the pics is kind of my final Fuck you
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:37:00 AM EDT
She not only consenteed to you taking the pics, she suggested it. You didn't force her to let you take them.

The pics are your property and you can do with them as you please.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:37:34 AM EDT

Originally Posted By California_Kid:
She not only consenteed to you taking the pics, she suggested it. You didn't force her to let you take them.

The pics are your property and you can do with them as you please.




That is what I was thinking
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:37:45 AM EDT

Originally Posted By SigSaurP228:

Originally Posted By TheAmaazingCarl:
ignore them dude

post photos of the hog here for us all to enjoy




Sorry man these are not COC passable.

Plus me keeping the pics is kind of my final Fuck you



IM button still works though, dude!
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:42:07 AM EDT
Just tell her you deleted them. Say anything she needs to hear to get her to leave you alone.

Oh, and I searched your origianl post for the PPWOP and couldn't find the link. WTF, man?
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:42:21 AM EDT
Burn them to CD, tell her you took the pics off your computer. Start posting them all over the internet.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:43:24 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Dolomite:
Unlike most of what walks around today that self-describes themselves as "Men" - try and act like you have at least a modicum of honor and grant this reasonable request.

(after you IM a link of the photos to me - please!)






Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:48:20 AM EDT
She is the chick that almost caused a firearms disaster in my house a couple of weeks ago
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:52:34 AM EDT
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Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:53:47 AM EDT

Originally Posted By CITADELGRAD87:
Sounds like she's already going psycho on you.

As long as you NEVER show them, or distribute them, she legally speaking, doesn't have much of a case.

As for keeping them "in case," a couple problems jump to mind:

She's NUTS, the threat of photos aren't going to discourage her from whatever she is doing

You could find yourself in hot water if you threaten to distribute the photos, think blackmail

Anyway, do you REALLY think you're the first guy to snap photos of that, especially since it was her idea?

My advice, TELL her they are deleted and break all further contact.

Good luck.



+1

How hard is it to say, "Yea, ok, I deleted them."
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:54:01 AM EDT
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:55:24 AM EDT
Say you deleted them and then post them on the internet.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:56:06 AM EDT

Originally Posted By vanilla_gorilla:

Originally Posted By SigSaurP228:

Originally Posted By TheAmaazingCarl:
ignore them dude

post photos of the hog here for us all to enjoy




Sorry man these are not COC passable.

Plus me keeping the pics is kind of my final Fuck you



IM button still works though, dude!



And if you go to team...

There's always photoshop...
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:56:27 AM EDT
"I deleted them, but my roommates still have them too."
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:57:56 AM EDT
Keep them but tell her you deleted them. They are your trophies plus as you said they could come in handy if she goes pyscho on you.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:58:27 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Dolomite:
Unlike most of what walks around today that self-describes themselves as "Men" - try and act like you have at least a modicum of honor and grant this reasonable request.

(after you IM a link of the photos to me - please!)



+1

What good are they anyway if you believe what you're selling, that you'll never use them wrongly. Just dump them. Otherwise you got pictures of some piece of tail you got but ain't getting anymore. Big deal. If you've "moved on" as you say then the choice is simple.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 8:59:47 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 12/22/2005 9:02:37 AM EDT by SigSaurP228]
None of this shit would have ever been a problem until she all of a sudden got pissed off because I told her that it was going to be one way or the other, and that I wasn't going to listen to her bitch about her loser boyfriend. Then all of a sudden when she realized that there would be no more of me taking her out, and doing all of the shit that we did before she got pissed.


Eta it is also pissing her off that she sees a new truck and a new boat and a new gun in my house, however when she sees her boyfriend all she can think of is his illegitimate child with another woman. Which I also feel is another good Fuck you
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:01:09 AM EDT
I would keep them.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:01:40 AM EDT
Yet another thread that futhers my faith in ARFcom.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:13:52 AM EDT
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:15:51 AM EDT
"OH, you said DELETE them? I thought you said DISTRIBUTE them.......Sorry"
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:23:22 AM EDT

Originally Posted By shotar:
Delete the pics. Why would you want them around for a later gf to find. Unless she signs a release, the pics are hers, not yours. In addition, posting them without her knowledge or consent is just plain low.




Exactly.

You act like she did you wrong or something. From what you said in your post, the "relationship" you had with her was nothing more than casual sex. You weren't dating her. So why does it matter if she went back to her ex? You try to make youself sound all innocent, when you're no better or worse than she is. You both sound screwed up to me.


Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:23:59 AM EDT
Delete the pics. Eventually, you'll get bored looking at them anyway.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:26:13 AM EDT
you realize you'll be banging her again within two weeks, right?



Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:26:18 AM EDT
Send them to me, I'll delete them for you.


Honestly, just delete them. There is plenty of porn on the internet.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:49:13 AM EDT
imagine that she had written you love letters. they were to you and for you, and became yours as soon as you received them. they were gifts, so to speak. if she asked for them back, you'd tell her to fuck right off, as well you should. this is exactly the same thing.

what she is doing is to try to get a reaction out of you. if you want to keep them, fine. tell her they're yours. be respectful of her fears that you might publish them, as you've already mentioned, but don't lie to her. and don't treat them like trophies--you'd be lowering yourself to do so.

being a gentleman is good, but it doesn't mean that you have to give up everything you want.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:49:38 AM EDT
The only logical response is for you to tell her the pictures were deleted, and then post them here on arfcom for the rest of us.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:51:30 AM EDT
tell her you deleted them so she'll go away ...

this isn't brain surgery.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:54:24 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 12/22/2005 9:56:52 AM EDT by napalm]

Originally Posted By shotar:
Delete the pics. Why would you want them around for a later gf to find. Unless she signs a release, the pics are hers, not yours. In addition, posting them without her knowledge or consent is just plain low.




How does this sort of thing jive with professional photographers owning the copyrights to all photos they take?

Just made me wonder after hearing that rumor about the Wal*Mart employee refusing to duplicate family photographs made by a professional photography studio (and then supposedly shredding them).

SigSaurP228,

This begs another question... even if you DO delete them, how is she supposed to know? Is she going to take your word for it, or demand some sort of 'proof' that doesn't exist then rant and rave about this nonexistent 'proof' when it isn't forthcoming? (Since there's no way to prove that copies weren't made)
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 9:59:20 AM EDT
Let me reframe your question; Should I be a stand up guy, or should I cause someone who trusted me distress?

The answer looks pretty straightforward to me.

As far as telling her you deleted them without actually doing so, are you usually a liar? If not, why start now? I guess I was raised differently than a number of the other posters on this thread were.


Delete the pics and drive on. Anything else isn't being a stand up guy. We get to decide what type of person we are every single day. Make good decisions, ones you can be proud of. Pretty effen basic.

Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:08:16 AM EDT
Hey, if you lie to her about getting rid of them, say something like "sombody stole the CD they were on" or whatever.

Then one day when you're doing the 12-step program, you'll have something to make amends for. Not sure what you could do by then to fix it, but by then, she'll probably be glad someone remembers her when she was good looking. And had 4 kids, and gained 80 pounds, and lost her front teeth.

Pass 'em around. Teach her a valuable lesson = Ask for the pictures first, then break up.

C97
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:25:58 AM EDT
All right I am going to post a poll keep in mind I am not going to publish them, under any circumstances nobody on this website is getting pics. I am usually a stand up guy, I don't usually do this shit but as of late, I have had a I could really care less attitude, but I will not let her insult or berate me and then ask me to do something for her.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:31:22 AM EDT

Originally Posted By SigSaurP228:
All right I am going to post a poll keep in mind I am not going to publish them, under any circumstances nobody on this website is getting pics. I am usually a stand up guy, I don't usually do this shit but as of late, I have had a I could really care less attitude, but I will not let her insult or berate me and then ask me to do something for her.



Sounds like you have let her drag you into the mire.

Get up, dust off, and delete them.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:32:12 AM EDT
OK, she's a blond right? Just send the pics to her as an attachment to an email and tell her you just couldn't bring yourself to delete them so you're returning them to her.


Works every time!
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:37:24 AM EDT

Originally Posted By VTHOKIESHOOTER:
Burn them to CD, tell her you took the pics off your computer. Start posting them all over the internet.



+1!

Starting with my IM box. hehe
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:42:17 AM EDT
Tell her that you need a security photo of her with a bucket on her head saying that if you don't delete them she will get the clique mob after you and the govenor to dead you for having her nesty pix.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:42:51 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 12/22/2005 10:47:01 AM EDT by tommytrauma]

Originally Posted By SigSaurP228:
All right I am going to post a poll keep in mind I am not going to publish them, under any circumstances nobody on this website is getting pics. I am usually a stand up guy, I don't usually do this shit but as of late, I have had a I could really care less attitude, but I will not let her insult or berate me and then ask me to do something for her.



So far, she's in the wrong, and you're the stand up guy. Why change that? Is she worth your surrendering your ethics?

We aren't defined by other's actions. We're defined by our own actions. Specifically, we're defined by our actions under stress, temptation, pressure... Anyone can do the right thing when it's easy. Doing the right thing when you're cold, or tired, or scared, or broke and tempted, or frustrated and pissed... that speaks the loudest about one's character.

I've done breakups poorly. I've done them well. Doing them well honestly involved taking a long look at who I wanted to be. I try to be that person every day now, especially in the times when it's most difficult to do so.

Do you really want to have to admit to yourself that you're a stand up guy except when it's most important to be one? That your ethics, your personal code, is dependent on others?
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:46:13 AM EDT
Always keep black mail material you never know when it will come in handy.
Link Posted: 12/22/2005 10:49:17 AM EDT
Tell them they are being held in escrow with a bunch of wacky guys on the internet.
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