Generally speaking, this is true. However, as a divorced father, I would not totally agree. Our being together and constantly arguing and the tension was having it's effects on our daughter. It was pretty obvious. When we split, there were no games pulling her back and forth. We neither one badmouthed each other and not once did either of us use her as a pawn. In fact, my ex and I are great friends {for the 26 years we have been divorced), we just couldn't live together. I stayed in Michelle's life and we even occasionally did things together as a family including my ex, especially Christmas. I think Michelle was better off with her mom and I not being together, partially because we both paid a lot of attention to her after the divorce (and while we were together). Go ahead and flame me, but this is my personal experience. If more divorced parents would handle it the way we have, kids would not be as affected by it.