1. Respect for the relationship.
2. I have very strong morals and standards on the subject.

working 70+hr a week

Quoted: Respect for one's own integrity.

Ditto.

Marine qualities.

Semper Fi

For me, the reason not to cheat is......My childrens.  I love them dearly and it will not be fair to them.

I had my fun. When I was single I dated, slept, danced, and partied with the most beautiful, sexy, women and bithches I could find.

Now, I just want to settle down and have a family......


.....And I like to stay on that course.  

Fearand the Will to Live.

My own personal honor.

Right now, that's about it.

Quoted: Quoted: I agree with everyone about why not to cheat, with the exception of the "Godly" reasons. If anyone ever is contemplating cheating, just think about how you would feel if it was done to you. That would truly suck. Funny, God has similar thoughts on the matter.   Matthew 7:12 KJV (12)  Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

True. But I do the right thing because it is the "right" thing in my eyes. Not because "God says so" That was my point.

Two reasons:

I took a vow. That's most important.

WHY any man would want more than one woman is beyond me.  That's just self-abuse. -Rod-

1.  I love my wife and would never want to do anything that would hurt her feelings or disrespect her.

2.  I made a promise in front of God, our families, and our friends to "forsake all others".

One thing Ive noticed, no one could come up with anymore reasons to cheat, & no one has posted that has cheated, or sat least said they did

I know one poster came up with a scenario of what could cause one to loose intrest in their wife, but that's about it.

Some of you came up with a few new ones I didn't have like fear if Bobbitization, or having your balls detached.

Quoted: Quoted: Yeah, yeah I do love my wife.   But, 1.- I do not want any damage to my balls done. (by my wifie) 2.- I am too much in love with my money, I am not giving 50% away. At least YOUR telling the truth....amazing how many high and mightys we have here when over 50% of marriages end in divorce. My wife and I both talk about "one day" when we are divorced...we know the statistics are aganist us.

I've always been curious as to how much of that 50% is caused by adultery.  Is cheating the result of a bad marriage or vice versa?

Quoted: 1. Respect for the relationship. 2. I have very strong morals and standards on the subject.

Me too.

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Yeah, yeah I do love my wife.   But, 1.- I do not want any damage to my balls done. (by my wifie) 2.- I am too much in love with my money, I am not giving 50% away. At least YOUR telling the truth....amazing how many high and mightys we have here when over 50% of marriages end in divorce. My wife and I both talk about "one day" when we are divorced...we know the statistics are aganist us. I've always been curious as to how much of that 50% is caused by adultery.  Is cheating the result of a bad marriage or vice versa?

Immaturity

Holy crap!  I can't stand the woman I have...why would I want another?

Quoted: My own personal honor. Right now, that's about it.

Boy, that sounds about right. The older I get, the few reasons i seem to have.

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Yeah, yeah I do love my wife.   But, 1.- I do not want any damage to my balls done. (by my wifie) 2.- I am too much in love with my money, I am not giving 50% away. At least YOUR telling the truth....amazing how many high and mightys we have here when over 50% of marriages end in divorce. My wife and I both talk about "one day" when we are divorced...we know the statistics are aganist us. I've always been curious as to how much of that 50% is caused by adultery.  Is cheating the result of a bad marriage or vice versa?

Neither. Cheating is the result of a character flaw.
Shouldn't surprise us that the rate of infidelity approximates that of the divorce rate. Think about THAT.
And you never know. I see people ocassionally who have been married for 30 or more years. Done. Fini. You just have to wonder how you could make it through the hardest years and then give up.

And that is the bottom line, Wolfpak. Ya can't give up.
The ONLY reason I would EVER divorce my wife would be infidelity. We've been thru way too much together and that has made our marriage strong. All that hard shit early in your marriage, kid problems, money hassles....They only make your marriage stronger AFTER you survive it all.

After 18 years, I rarely think she's perfect for me anymore. I sometimes suspect she's not even right for me anymore. But she loves me more than anything and would do anything for my happiness. I could never live with myself if I caused her that kind of pain from that kind of betrayal.

If I thought she wouldn't care, I'd be in Amsterdam every other weekend.

easy...



it's called love

Quoted: If I ever meet a college cheerleader with a fetish for middle-aged fat guys, I'll let you know whether or not my personal integrity is worth a damn.

LOL. Actually, LMAO.

Cheating on my wife would be the crime of the century on many levels.

In this day and age most people are only as available as their options. Except for the bible thumpers, their indoctrinated by a book.

Quoted: In this day and age most people are only as available as their options. Except for the bible thumpers, their indoctrinated by a book.

because when i think about the pain that her cheating on me would cause, I could never wish it upon her

Because I love and respect my wife.  Does there need to be any other reason?

Quoted: Quoted: Because I love and respect my wife.  Does there need to be any other reason? Yea, half your money.

It's the other way around.  She makes about 12K-13K more a year than me.

So you would come out with the spousal support!

Serously though, it's not worth losing a marrage over even if you got millions from a wife.

My EX cheated on me.  I would not wish that pain on my wife or anyone.

Two reasons, her M4 and her XD40 Subcompact........

But really, she is my serenity in this unstable world we live in.

What kind of fool would be out of his mind enough to want to deal with more than one woman? One is more than enough.

Reasons not to cheat
-I love my wife.
-Her wedding gift from me was a 0.45
-I hope to treat my wife the way I want Jesus to treat me (Hint: The church is the bride of Christ)
-The mistress would have to pay for the dates, my accountant wife does not give me a big allowance.
-If I did cheat, that event would be forever a source of guilt, and definitely not worth it.
-Divorce is expensive.
-I love my wife.


Reasons to cheat
-Recapture youth

I find it a pleasure to look at other women, and it's fine to dream about a quickie.  Next I see the lying relationship to get that quickie.  Frankly I just don't want to scam someone, which is how I perceive it.

One big hassle.

No interest in other women is a good one. Yeah, the packaging might looks good, but odds are once you unwrap them and find out what makes them tick you'll see it wasn't worth the trouble.

- If someone is that bored with their wife that they would think of cheating, it's time to leave before they hurt people.

- Cheaters are liars and liars are scum.

- Why cheat.... just surf internet porn.

- If the thought seriously crosses your mind (particularly if the oppurtunity is there) gfet a damned divorce before you do it... other wise you'll be paying for it when you lose the divorce trial.

Marrital aid for men

I haven't read all 86 posts yet, but since

I am married 7 years today

I figured I should get in.

I knew some of what I was signing up for when I got married.  A good friend put it this way:

Marriage is one-third better than anything you ever dreamed,
One-third worse than anything you ever feared,
And one-third about what you expected.

I have found this to be true.  A friend of mine who got married four months ago has also found it to be true.

Why don't I cheat?  <insert lust=adultery rant here>  Having said that, I don't pursue other women for these reasons:
1.  It's wrong.  I promised myself to Wifey, including the "forsaking all others" part.
2.  It's wrong.  God made it very clear how marriage is to work.  I strongly believe that marriage is a picture of God's relationship with his people (cf. Ephesians 5).  If I cheat on Wifey, than I'm basically saying it's okay for God to cheat on me.
3.  It's wrong.  I'd be in a near murderous rage if someone convinced Wifey to do this, and, according to "do unto others", I shouldn't provoke someone else's "near murderous rage".
4.  Let me give you the list of people who would completely and totally slap me into next week:
  a.  Wifey
  b.  Her parents
  c.  My parents
  d.  Her sister
  e.  The guy who helped me become a Christian
  f.  The 4-month guy above
  g.  His wife (who is a Belarussian girl who is NOT to be trifled with
  h.  His sister (who is a good friend of Wifey and me)
  i.  The other guy who helped me become a Christian, who also just completed Army Chaplain School and is stationed somewhere in Kentucky.  He gets two weeks because of his Hooah power.
Twelve weeks total so far.  Not to mention the "virtual" slapping when it comes out here.
5.  I made a vow.  An oath.  This didn't have an implied "if it's convenient" or "when I get to it", but rather "in sickness", "for poorer", "for worse".  My vows EXPLICITLY included terms to cover the keeping of them when it was inconvenient.  If I can't keep that promise, nothing else I say is worth anything.
6.  In thirty or forty years, even the current BOTD will be either old and wrinkled (and no longer a BOTD), or so full of plastic to be obviously fake.  I don't want a "trophy wife", and I have some disdain for old men who divorce their wives (often of many years) for a young hottie who, were it not for the money, wouldn't give him the time of day.
7.  Oh, yeah.  I'm a recovering nerd.  No one is more surprised than I am that I'm married at all.  So it's not like I have a chance with someone else anyway.  Why screw up the only shot I have received - which is a good one, BTW.

To me, the better question is:
For those who are married or in a serious relationship, why would you cheat?

Quoted: My EX cheated on me.  I would not wish that pain on my wife or anyone.

Exactly...  (well ex gf of 5 years + mother of my 6yr old (1 1/2 at the time)   That was 4.5 years ago, I am still a single dad (I have custody).  During our relationship, I had a few oppertunities to do so, two of which were women that I was trying to hook up with before I met my ex, but I value sticking to my morals more than pretty much anything in the world.   Even knowing how it would turn out, I still would not have jumped on the said oppertunities.

I do not believe in cheating. I do not believe in "open relationships".   I even have mixed feelings about "f..k friends"

Because I heard that if I am faithful here on earth...I can have 72 virigns in heaven! Hooah!

Personal honor and the fact that she 'keeps me tired' :)

2 reasons:

1) I'm not going to give up 10 years of happiness (and counting) for 30 minutes (ok 5, whom I kidding) of "happy sweat".
2) The statement my brother-in-law made to me on my wedding day - "I only have 1 bullet in my gun and it's for my sister's ex-husband"!

M590man

I love my wife...I couldn't imagine myself cheating on her. It is just not worth the damage it would cause.

My 'ol lady is a pretty good shot, reason enough.

I guess fear of death wasn't on my list.

I love my wife and would never cause her pain.

I am surpriezed that no one got on this topic & gave more reasons to cheat! That's a good thing though!

working 70+hr a week, this is also a good one, to tired to cheat.

I also liked the one about 1 woman being to much at times. I know what ya mean!

1) I’m a Christian.

2) I know it would hurt all the people I love.

3) There are STD’s out there that I don’t want to have.

4) I know I could not cheat without feeling guilty and that I would have to ask my wife to forgive me to make it right.

5) It would devastate my children who look up to me.

6) I decided a long time ago that being a man had nothing to do with how many women I have slept with. A real man has enough self control and self respect to control his sexual desire for more than one sex partner.