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Posted: 5/21/2001 10:43:31 PM EDT
My best friends wife of 3 yrs. came on to me this weekend. I thought it was a joke .... but alas ... she was VERY serious. This guy is like my brother. He treats her like a queen , loves her to death. Think I ortta tell him ??? Whatcha think guys ?
Link Posted: 5/21/2001 10:45:56 PM EDT
That happed to me once I told my friend and his bitch old lady turned it all on me. walk softley
Link Posted: 5/21/2001 11:02:45 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 5/21/2001 11:09:19 PM EDT by M4]
Bullshit. If he's your best friend, like a brother, what the hell good is your friendship to him if you keep this quiet? He deserves to know what sort of woman he's with, and your the only way he'll find that out before he suffers any more damage. Live by a solid code, and NEVER allow anyone you're really close to suffer while you could have prevented it. In my opinion, you have no choice to make. Stand by your buddy, and do what you can to help him out. Your silence only helps her, and she's lookin' to f*ck him over. She'll just nail the next guy that comes along, who doesn't give a rats ass about your buddies feelings.
Link Posted: 5/21/2001 11:05:00 PM EDT
Agreed with Chaz. Keep it between you and her. Maybe she see's something there, maybe she's just horny as hell... who knows. It'll die back... safely. We all have our vices and weak times. Stay cool. As was mentioned before... walk softly. I'll add.... and carry a small stick. Strider
Link Posted: 5/21/2001 11:07:07 PM EDT
Somthing like that happened to me, as long as you dont cross the line and dont say anything everyone can stay "good" friends.
Link Posted: 5/21/2001 11:10:15 PM EDT
A little story that may help....or maybe not. A few years ago a long time friends wife asked me over to their house while he was at work. I said no since I have a policy of not going to married womens houses when the old man is away. She told me he would be home in half an hour. I went to their house twenty minutes later. She talked for awhile and went into the bedroom. She emerged from the bedroom a couple of minutes later buck naked and started the whole "ride me you big cowboy you" thing. I said no and left. I found out later he was working a double and she had lied to get me over there. A few days later she shows up at my house, goes in the bathroom and comes out buck naked again and begs me to screw her. I threw her sorry....but sexy ass out of my house. Two weeks later the husband comes to my house drunk and informs me that another one of our mutual friends had been screwing her. When he confronted her she admitted it but told him the guy had forced himself on her. The husband was on his way to the guys house to blow him away with a model 629 Smith. I sat him down and explained to him that the friend had not forced himself on her, she was a slut and told him what she had done with me. He confronted her again and she admitted everything, including the fact that I refused her advances. He is now still friends with the other guy and had not spoken to me since. I guess he would have been happier if I would have bounced up and down on her like a freakin' trapoline to. Go figure.
Link Posted: 5/21/2001 11:12:56 PM EDT
From your responses it looks like I ortta stay cool about it. BUT , I tend to side with M4 on this. Man I sure would want my buddy to tell me if he was in my shoes !!!!! I just dunno.
Link Posted: 5/21/2001 11:25:19 PM EDT
I say talk to her. keep it as a friend. Sometimes women are just lonely and want to talk about their problmes. Do not screw her if you care about your friend. Do not tell him unless she starts going nuts on you.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 12:24:51 AM EDT
I think you should tell him but before you do I would have a talk with the lady and tell her your not interested and that he's your best friend etc...etc..etc, and GET IT ON TAPE! If this blows up on you and she turns it to you and tells your buddy that you put the moves on her he might flip out and it could end a good friendship. I know woman make guys nuts and they will believe what they are told cuz they are puss whipped!(not all of us just some)But if you have the tape and shtf you can sit down with your buddy and play the tape and tell him this is why you taped it. Just a suggestion.... John
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 12:33:30 AM EDT
You can tell him now and let him get a head start on the rest of his life. Or you can keep quiet and he will find out what a tramp she is in a few years after they make a few kids. He is going to crash, the only question is how soon will he be able to get startd rebuilding.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 12:43:54 AM EDT
Same thing happened to me. One of my best friends who dearly loved his beautiful wife. Said wife came on to me, kissed me, tried to undress me. I just brushed her off and pretended it never happened. Thought about telling him, but I couldn't do it. She ended up killing herself a year or two later. I knew she'd hurt him one way or another.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 3:23:30 AM EDT
I HAVE *THE* ANSWER ! Might I suggest that you send her horny ass on over to Imbrog|io ?
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 3:27:55 AM EDT
Keep it between you and her. Nothing happened. Maybe she realized it was a mistake and decided not to follow through her ambitions. Why ruin a relationship over something that hasn't happened?
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Ditto.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 4:07:32 AM EDT
You need to stay out of it. The same thing happened to me, I told the guy (we were friends much longer than he knew her) and he went and confronted her about it (I had heard she screwed around with other guys but I didnt say any of that). Well, she denied it all and the guy has his face stuck between her tits, like most guys, so he believed her and thought that I wanted to do her. Well, we are no longer friends, that guy married her and she still gets drilled by other guys on a regular basis. What you have to remember is that most guys are saps who'll believe anything their girl says. When a guy is "getting it", he doesnt think logically and is willing to believe anything she says, like being hynotized or some shit like that.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 4:27:15 AM EDT
Originally Posted By ChaZ: Keep it between you and her. Nothing happened. Maybe she realized it was a mistake and decided not to follow through her ambitions. Why ruin a relationship over something that hasn't happened?
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I think if the bitch is looking around than the relationship is already ruined. A very very long time ago I had a friend tell me about a situation that almost happened. I was very grateful and we are still best friends. So, which is the real relationship, one that is honest or one that is not? [>:/]
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:33:23 AM EDT
I agree with M4. Tell your friend that you think there's a problem with his marriage. What? You think his wife isn't happy with their relationship. What? Based upon her "advances" you feel that she may be looking for affections outside the marriage and if he wants to maintain the marriage, he needs to go with her to a counselor. There's a problem somewhere in the relationship and it needs to be actively addressed NOW. The marriage may not be salvagable, but that's for BOTH parties to decide. Not just her. Would you want a "friend" to just stand back and watch you crash and burn when an early intervention could have saved everything?
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:33:53 AM EDT
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:39:26 AM EDT
Do the right thing.....tell him. Then, plan on getting crapped on by everyone involved. If he's really your friend, you've gotta tell him. Even if it means the end of the friendship. Face it, you're doing it for him, not for you, so plan on "taking a round" on this one. You'll sleep better knowing you did what you could. If he ignores you and winds up getting hurt some other way, you still did what you could.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:43:01 AM EDT
See if your wife would be interested in alittle hot tub party. [:D]
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:45:26 AM EDT
This is a tough one. As a divorcee I would tell him. Divorce is a lot easier if you have time to do same financial and other planning. Wish I would of had a heads up about my ex old lady and her wondering eyes. Sniper out!
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:50:32 AM EDT
Something very similar happened to me. I told my best friend and the truth came out, which was good. However, things were never the same between them or between me and him. We all ended up going seperate ways a few months later. All in all, I am glad I told him. At least I can sleep at night knowing that I was honest and prevented further damage later. (Nothing happened between her and I).
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:52:19 AM EDT
being that he is not my friend, give me her name and I will ride over ther on my horse and have a little set to with her....providing he is not home....eeee hawwwwww
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:55:10 AM EDT
Is she Cute?
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 7:28:06 AM EDT
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 8:50:19 AM EDT
You people are going to have serious security problems if and when the socialists put the end game into effect. If you are around friends that unfaithful, what is going to keep them from turning you in?
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 9:00:22 AM EDT
I have been on both end of the stick on this one. When my girl friend was srewing around on me behind my back, I wish someone would have told me. Because of that, when a good friends wife came on to me, I tried to tell him about it and he just seemed to not hear what I was telling him. He finally figured it out when he caught her red handed. My opinion has always been; If you are going to be married then BE MARRIED.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 12:09:55 PM EDT
You owe it to your friend to have sex with his wife (if she is hot). If you don't do it, somebody else will. Things could be okay in the relationship, but he may not be getting the job done (if you know what I mean). If you satisfy her in bed, she might stay with him. Otherwise, she may just leave him. He probably wouldn't believe you anyway, or he may be into that sort of thing. Take some pictures and post them on the internet. A while back, a not too close friends wife came on to me. I did not take her up on it, because I knew him. Later, I found out he was banging 2 other chicks (and one of them was very hot). If I had known he was cheating, I would have done his wife. It was not fair for him to use up 3 chicks all by himself, especially since I was in a drought.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 12:15:19 PM EDT
Why don't you all just vote for the democrats next time as their similar lack of morals would be more suitable representation.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 12:21:48 PM EDT
Originally Posted By M4: Bullshit. If he's your best friend, like a brother, what the hell good is your friendship to him if you keep this quiet? Your silence only helps her, and she's lookin' to f*ck him over. She'll just nail the next guy that comes along, who doesn't give a rats ass about your buddies feelings.
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I agree with M4, that silver tongued devil!! [}:D] Friends are friends - she is nothing to you. But DO be careful. If he truly loves her, he may be unwilling to believe she'd do such a thing. Remember the old motto - no good deed goes unpunished.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 12:25:31 PM EDT
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 1:14:44 PM EDT
Let me add this, a suggestion from another post on this thread. Yes, without question I'd tell him, but cover yourself at the same time, then the only loser is the wife and nobody else. As it should be. Talk to her, TAPE THE CONVERSATION. Get her to fess up to her peeling her clothes off and begging you to f*ck her. Then approach your buddy with what you know. If it were me in his shoes, and you did as I just said, I'd be grateful beyond words.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 1:17:38 PM EDT
BROs before HOEs, this rule has saved my ass a few times. I have had a few friends violate it and get really burned.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 2:33:02 PM EDT
dizzy: sure you would want to tell. lets say you did, would he leave her? If not things would never be the same again, for everyone.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 3:03:53 PM EDT
Originally Posted By SILVER SURFER: dizzy: sure you would want to tell. lets say you did, would he leave her? If not things would never be the same again, for everyone.
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Things wouyld be the same between the guys involved if he did as I suggested above. The only person lookin' for new friends would be the ho, and that's what she deserves.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 3:55:47 PM EDT
Women don't stray if they are being satisfied. She is not getting satisfaction. Whose fault is that? His! If he can't or WON'T, somebody else will.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 4:30:21 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 5/22/2001 4:33:56 PM EDT by paspecops]
What M4 said, with tape. You may even try taping phone sex. If I was him, I'd want to know. This marriage is over already, gives him a chance to cover his a$$. You'll probably lose a friend over this, but it is right - bro's before ho's. Women don't come on to their husband's friends because they are just horny. This b!tch has serious problems, and is gonna burn hubby sooner or later. Tell him.
Link Posted: 5/22/2001 5:09:03 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 5/22/2001 5:19:50 PM EDT by SKSseven]
I guess that all depends, does your friends wife look like this [img]http://www.xaviersite.com/babes/sarah-michelle-gellar/pc/0006.jpg[/img] or like this! [img]http://www.2topstars.com/pictdir/actresses/gallery/rosie/rosie11.jpg[/img] Seriously you should go deep cover on this one, get one of those phone recorders from radio shack and try and get a phone call between you and his wife on tape, then your ass is covered! Remember always CYA!
Link Posted: 6/29/2001 12:52:29 PM EDT
Link Posted: 6/29/2001 1:03:52 PM EDT
Originally Posted By mejames: You owe it to your friend to have sex with his wife (if she is hot). If you don't do it, somebody else will. Things could be okay in the relationship, but he may not be getting the job done (if you know what I mean). If you satisfy her in bed, she might stay with him. Otherwise, she may just leave him. He probably wouldn't believe you anyway, or he may be into that sort of thing. Take some pictures and post them on the internet. A while back, a not too close friends wife came on to me. I did not take her up on it, because I knew him. Later, I found out he was banging 2 other chicks (and one of them was very hot). If I had known he was cheating, I would have done his wife. It was not fair for him to use up 3 chicks all by himself, especially since I was in a drought.
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Just what part of marriage don't you understand? Your wife is just that, not someone else's sex toy to dally with and toss out.
Link Posted: 6/29/2001 1:29:13 PM EDT
You only have your character. It is all of the things that are you. Not only does the world judge you by it, but you judge yourself by it also. It is your call to make. Don't cheat yourself by having someone else make the call for you. And, hold your head high!
Link Posted: 6/29/2001 1:50:43 PM EDT
Originally Posted By lousyshot: You only have your character. It is all of the things that are you. Not only does the world judge you by it, but you judge yourself by it also. It is your call to make. Don't cheat yourself by having someone else make the call for you. And, hold your head high!
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Some people have no morals/character. Call it sorry raising by parents, society in general, or whatever. Good reply by you.
Link Posted: 6/29/2001 6:37:48 PM EDT
If her "man" wasn't a friend, it would've been different, but whenever it's a friend's girl, I've got an obligation to let him know she's coming on to me. Except for once, I've always narked off the woman. I'd want to know if my woman was doing that to me. [b]Bro[/b]s before [b]ho[/b]s.....
Link Posted: 6/29/2001 6:57:28 PM EDT
KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT ABOUT IT!!!! It happened to me and I told my best friend what happened..........well the little bit@h turned it all around and guess who he beleived? Not me that's for sure. They never spoke to me again but I don't give a flying f@ck anymore.
Link Posted: 6/29/2001 7:16:31 PM EDT
Originally Posted By paspecops: What M4 said, with tape. You may even try taping phone sex. If I was him, I'd want to know. This marriage is over already, gives him a chance to cover his a$$. You'll probably lose a friend over this, but it is right - bro's before ho's. Women don't come on to their husband's friends because they are just horny. This b!tch has serious problems, and is gonna burn hubby sooner or later. Tell him.
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Jumpin'Judy! A man with a plan. That's right. If the tape is admissible in court, as in divorce court, perfect... Take this to your buddy and tell him you're doing it to save his ass, and everything will be OK. If they split, he's covered and got you to thank for it. Then again, what do I know?...I write letters to the President.
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