Quoted:OP, don't let the negativity get to you.
10 years ago, only a few guys on the board cooked. then guys like subnet started getting into the idea, and posting their learning experience. fast forward to now, and suddenly everyone is a chef who somehow never needed to learn and therefore mocks anyone who asks a question. some thoughts:
cooking smoke is most often the result of heating fat past its
smoke point. cooking a steak, you're going to want a high-heat oil. i use avocado oil, which has a very high smoke point and is also very heart-healthy.
what most people do in most situations is to heat a pan, then add fat to the pan, then add the steak to the pan. if you're using a low-smoke-point oil like extra-virgin olive oil to a very hot pan, it's going to smoke a lot, because there's a ton of fat sitting on hot metal. as an alternative,
oil the steak, not the pan. you're still going to get some smoke, but far less of it.
a final thought is to broil the steak, using the broiler in your oven. the broiler cooks with radiant heat, making it basically an upside-down grill. i keep meaning to try this, but have never gotten around to it. so if you try, let us know how it goes.