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I was planning to take 3 weeks with my first, but went back after 2 because another week of my mother-in-law's shit would have had me living in a van down by the river. For the second, I stayed home until I was sick of the mother-in-law and went back to work again.
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I am just trying to understand how someone does that and then can pick up right where they left off 4 months later.
Sooooo many factors to consider, but I could never do it. Wouldn't even consider it if it was on the table. Everyone is different and to each his own, so it's not like I have anything against this guy. |
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My company does 3 months for both maternal and paternal leave, it's a great benefit.
Eta: I should specify, this is paid leave. Been in place for over a year now and we've not had any hiccups, definitely makes for a happier workforce. FWIW this is at a Fortune 100 so we have a pretty large workforce. No idea how this would work at a smaller business. |
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Good work if you can get it.
I took two weeks off for each of my kids. By the end of week 1, I was in the way. |
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Yeah, Wells Fargo gives 16 weeks paternity leave.
That's insane. |
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I am just trying to understand how someone does that and then can pick up right where they left off 4 months later. Sooooo many factors to consider, but I could never do it. Wouldn't even consider it if it was on the table. Everyone is different and to each his own, so it's not like I have anything against this guy. View Quote I once had some extended time off. Came back better than ever..... hit the ground running. Was more productive and sharper than I had been before I left. It doesn't take long to come back up to speed if that is what you want. |
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Quoted: Yeah, that sounds real smart ...... real smart. Most families today are having an average of what ? 2 children? So maybe fuck a stellar employee because he chooses to take advantage of a benefit AND maybe, just maybe it is necessary at times to take the time Ioff. It may happen just twice lets say in decades of employment but yeah, fuck that guy for thinking of his family. I'd tell you to go fuck yourself. Is this Cass Sunstein ? Fuck the rules and " nudge" people to do what you wish. BS. View Quote |
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My guess is that you’ve never really held an authority position so your opinion doesn’t matter. With an attitude like that you’d make a shitty person to work for. My company and company leadership encourages taking time off with family. My coworker is taking 4 months off beginning in December. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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There is a guy who would never advance in any organization I ever had authority over. I would actively look to make sure anything important, time sensitive, or valuable never got placed under his responsibility or control. You can not fire them, but you do not have to leave big boy decisions in his hands. Someone else is doing stay @ home daddy's job and a very good possibility not getting paid stay @ home daddy's wages for it. My company and company leadership encourages taking time off with family. My coworker is taking 4 months off beginning in December. |
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If he is a stellar employee a company just got hosed for 1/3 year and some else is going to have to do a stellar job for him and still cover his own work load. Which in reality is two jobs not getting the full attention of an employee. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
Quoted: Yeah, that sounds real smart ...... real smart. Most families today are having an average of what ? 2 children? So maybe fuck a stellar employee because he chooses to take advantage of a benefit AND maybe, just maybe it is necessary at times to take the time Ioff. It may happen just twice lets say in decades of employment but yeah, fuck that guy for thinking of his family. I'd tell you to go fuck yourself. Is this Cass Sunstein ? Fuck the rules and " nudge" people to do what you wish. BS. I am glad that management at my company told me " take everyday that you need just please come back 100% we need you." AND, that was with no policy in place. They made out like bandits and were smart enough to know this. Your vision / logic is short sighted. |
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There used to be a time where if a new father took advantage of FMLA for his newborn, he could kiss goodbye any chances of advancement.
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Quoted: If a company can do without you for 4 months you should start looking for another job, because someone is going to notice. View Quote Regardless, a lot of times, those people aren’t truly 100% away from their jobs. They often still answer emails, field phone calls, do some telework stuff, and keep abreast of goings on. They just aren’t physically present. Some companies realize the importance of family and make allowances for that in order to recruit better, more talented, happier employees. Those companies tend to be able to hire better, more talented, happier employees. If it wasn’t a successful program, it wouldn’t be growing as much as it is. |
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I took some when we had our kids. It comes out of our sick leave that we get to sell back at 50% of our pay at time of retirement. I worked with my employers and came in to work when someone needed time off or they were short handed. When I came back I made sure to be considerate of my fellow employees when it came time to bid for holidays off. No one had an issue with it. I did know a couple of married officers who both took off for 12 weeks right when summer started which totally screwed the guys they worked with from taking summer vacations with their families and caused a lot of hard feelings and discontent. I enjoyed being with my kids the first few weeks but I can also understand the resentment of other employees who end up carrying more workload. The amount of time off should probably be revisited and shortened or broken up so as to not put as much of a hardship on the employer and employees.
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We get four weeks paid (160 hours), and it doesn’t have to be taken consecutively. We can do half days for like 2 months, or take off every Monday & Friday for 10 straight weeks, or every Friday for 20 weeks, etc
My wife is due in mid-December with our first. I plan to take off the 2 days she’s in the hospital, another day or two at home (working from home, too) once she’s sent home, and then I’m going to work half days. I can’t afford to miss more than 3-4 days completely off the work grid or my projects will suffer. |
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My boss gave me shit for taking two weeks off. Said I could go FMLA unpaid but later approved. Came out of my vacation time.
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Damn that’s pretty sweet, I got two weeks and wife gets 6-where’s this guy work??? Applications inbound!!!
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If a company can do without you for 4 months you should start looking for another job, because someone is going to notice. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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There is a guy who would never advance in any organization I ever had authority over. I would actively look to make sure anything important, time sensitive, or valuable never got placed under his responsibility or control. You can not fire them, but you do not have to leave big boy decisions in his hands. Someone else is doing stay @ home daddy's job and a very good possibility not getting paid stay @ home daddy's wages for it. My company and company leadership encourages taking time off with family. My coworker is taking 4 months off beginning in December. ANY company can do without anyone for any length of time. It's just a matter of how they will get on without certain personnel in place. No one is indispensable but some are extremely hard to replace and make a big difference when they are present. It isn't a question of " we don't need you because you were gone for 4 months and we survived "........... The question is what the person brings to the table and how much value they add to the company when they are present. There is ALWAYS a good, better, best option. |
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Hey, if the company allows him to take it or if its in his contract then more power to him. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
Hey, if the company allows him to take it or if its in his contract then more power to him. Quoted:
If his company offers it and he takes it who are we to judge. Our company offers three months parental leave, and some of these assholes turn out kids so fast they basically get a quarter off every 13-14 months. Quoted:
We get four weeks paid (160 hours), and it doesn’t have to be taken consecutively. We can do half days for like 2 months, or take off every Monday & Friday for 10 straight weeks, or every Friday for 20 weeks, etc |
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Y’all do realize that people take that much time and more for other things, right? Like chemo, heart surgery, etc. We just had one lady take almost 6 months after her 11 year old committed suicide. Regardless, a lot of times, those people aren’t truly 100% away from their jobs. They often still answer emails, field phone calls, do some telework stuff, and keep abreast of goings on. They just aren’t physically present. Some companies realize the importance of family and make allowances for that in order to recruit better, more talented, happier employees. Those companies tend to be able to hire better, more talented, happier employees. If it wasn’t a successful program, it wouldn’t be growing as much as it is. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
Quoted: If a company can do without you for 4 months you should start looking for another job, because someone is going to notice. Regardless, a lot of times, those people aren’t truly 100% away from their jobs. They often still answer emails, field phone calls, do some telework stuff, and keep abreast of goings on. They just aren’t physically present. Some companies realize the importance of family and make allowances for that in order to recruit better, more talented, happier employees. Those companies tend to be able to hire better, more talented, happier employees. If it wasn’t a successful program, it wouldn’t be growing as much as it is. What about the importance of the family (ies) of the other employee(s) who have to take up the slack when some jackwaggon takes 1/4 a year off? I am sure they were pretty happy to cover the extra work and all that comes with it except for the extra $$$. I worked in the corporate cubicle farm and ran a small business. If someone is not there someone else's day just got longer and/or more hectic. |
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In the military I took three weeks after every kid.
My first wife was in the military and only got 6 weeks. |
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Yeah, fuck that, if you're on a team and people rely on you. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Our company offers three months parental leave, and some of these assholes turn out kids so fast they basically get a quarter off every 13-14 months. View Quote Saw somewhere that a French police chief hadn't been to work in like a decade thanks to child leave policies. That's called a dream job. If suckers want to be exploited, oblige them. |
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My coworkers wife took of 9 months for each of their three kids. It wasn’t all paid, but her work happily welcomed her back.
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Quoted: Hate the game, not the player. Saw somewhere that a French police chief hadn't been to work in like a decade thanks to child leave policies. That's called a dream job. If suckers want to be exploited, oblige them. View Quote |
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Does that cancel out vacation, personal and bereavement time?
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There is a guy who would never advance in any organization I ever had authority over. I would actively look to make sure anything important, time sensitive, or valuable never got placed under his responsibility or control. You can not fire them, but you do not have to leave big boy decisions in his hands. Someone else is doing stay @ home daddy's job and a very good possibility not getting paid stay @ home daddy's wages for it. View Quote Take 4mo of and get all the easy job. Some managers make me shake my head. |
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Quoted: You are comparing taking 4 months leave when your wife has a normal pregnancy and a healthy child to someone who has a life threatening illness that could render them dead. What about the importance of the family (ies) of the other employee(s) who have to take up the slack when some jackwaggon takes 1/4 a year off? I am sure they were pretty happy to cover the extra work and all that comes with it except for the extra $$$. I worked in the corporate cubicle farm and ran a small business. If someone is not there someone else's day just got longer and/or more hectic. View Quote As for the other employees, it’s likely part of their benefit package as well (the paid leave and the paternity leave). If they choose not to exercise those benefits, that is a choice they are making. If they choose to exercise those benefits, they are placing just as much burden on papa to be as he is on them. I get that you don’t like it and don’t approve. Regardless of your personal opinion, companies are realizing that your way of thinking doesn’t lend itself to recruiting and keeping quality employees. The days of making fathers second class citizens in their children’s lives are coming to an end. Perhaps this will follow to the family courts. |
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When my son was born, I cut the umbilical cord at 0330 AM monday morning.... 0830 I was driving delivery truck. View Quote People that can be replaced by someone walking in off the street don't. It's really that simply. |
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Meh, I guess this is a good time to mention something that I have been hearing on and off for the last 10 years or so.
My daughter just had a baby bout 5 months ago. She had several nurses take care of her during the week she was in the hospital . She had some complications. A couple of the nurses she had came here from Poland. They were excellent nurses in their late 20's and early 30's. Wife ( who is a nurse ) and I got to talking to them . I asked them how they liked the US and they both said they liked it but were moving back to Poland and couldn't wait to get back home. I thought this was kind of odd so I asked them why they were leaving. They both at separate times said " Americans live to work I want to go back to working to live." Bottom line, they thought the way Americans worked and how they looked at Work VS. Family was screwed up. Their values were entirely different from the values of the average American. They put free time, family time, leisure time far above work time and material possessions. They could not wait to get back to their grandparents and parents..... could not wait to have their children grow up in a different setting. I have heard this sentiment expressed more than a few times over the years. Something many people don't realize or think of. One of the main reasons foreign auto manufactures come to the US is because of the workforce we have in place here and because of employee costs. In a nutshell , it costs all the major manufactures less to build cars in the USA than it does in their home countries. I'm talking about comparable first world countries. They pay out more benefits / have more employee costs in their home countries. WE have been conditioned here in the US to put our jobs above everything. To do what is necessary to keep your job. I have often said over the years that in the US , the mindset of people concerning Jobs VS. Family is completely reversed.... it isn't that way in many other countries. Our values are screwed up.... we put material objects over family and relationships. Someone here said " don't hate the player hate the game ". That pretty much sums it up I guess. If a fellow co- worker values his family above work, deal with it. Don't expect everyone to give everything in their lives up for a job. I have worked for companies that operate on as few employees as humanly possible and push those employees to the max in order to realize max profit...... all else be damned. Sometimes, a company gets burnt when they operate this way. As long as a policy / benefit is available to every employee, it's GTG. Don't like a co- worker taking maternity leave? Go knock someone up and take advantage of the policy. Don't hate on someone who has different priorities than you...... this is America. |
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Quoted: If he is a stellar employee a company just got hosed for 1/3 year and some else is going to have to do a stellar job for him and still cover his own work load. Which in reality is two jobs not getting the full attention of an employee. View Quote We can accrue up to 500 hours of PTO before it drops off. People used to be able to take it. Now we have a piss poor manager that can't plan for shit. We have employees leaving giving months notice, as in pleural months, plenty of time to train a new person. In addition to that, we are micromanaged to death, nitpicked over stupid shit like writing with a pen in a color she doesn't like. . I wish I was making it up. But the incompetent manager sits with her thumb up her ass sucking whatever she had to suck to get that job. So now employees are just walking off the job. Highly unusual in my field. Never expected the last one to do that. So now we don't have enough people to do the job. My field is in high demand due to lack of qualified people. It's not the best paying field but it's got to be one of the most secure. Most hospitals try and retain employees because it's hard to find new ones. The point is, some places are able to retain employees and keep them happy, some are not. If you look closely, there is a reason some are half staffed and some are fully staffed and allowing people to use the benefits that was promised to them when they are hired is the managers problem. Skilled people can always go elsewhere. And they do. |
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Do you not take your contractually agreed upon paid vacation time every year?
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I took my 10 days and was glad for it. I'd have taken more if it wouldn't have come out of my leave.
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My company just started offering 4 months paid maternity and paternity leave. My boss told me i'd be stupid not to take advantage of it when my first kid is born in a few months.
If you are a valuable employee, they will work with you and know that you won't totally disappear for the time. |
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Meh, I guess this is a good time to mention something that I have been hearing on and off for the last 10 years or so. *snip* Don't hate on someone who has different priorities than you...... this is America. View Quote Let me be clear: I'm not saying I don't *understand* it, I'm saying there are tradeoffs to be made that shouldn't be discounted. |
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Quoted: And why do you think America is the most prosperous and advanced nation in history? Because people took three months off work to have a kid? Let me be clear: I'm not saying I don't *understand* it, I'm saying there are tradeoffs to be made that shouldn't be discounted. View Quote |
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Meh some people stack vacation time to take time off for kids. If your company lets you roll it over its not hard to find yourself with a ton of time you can take off.
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Yeah...I worked and my wife stayed home. I was out maybe a day or two for the first two kids...third kid maybe a day. Just got this message from someone employed at one of our clients: I will be out of office for parental leave, as I’m expecting my first child November 26th, 2018 and will be out for 16 weeks. Please reach out to XXXXXXX in my absence as he will be filling in as the interim relationship manager. Office hours are 08:30am-5:00pm Eastern Standard Time. FOUR MONTHS I guess take it if you can, and I get it....trust me I get it....I don't miss games, recitals, or the 30min Thanksgiving skits in my kids classroom mid day. So I prioritize my kids, but FOUR MONTHS! I don't think my wife got 4 months combined for all three kids. View Quote I'd also probably go back after week 2 when I got bored |
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If the job won't miss you for 4 months do they really need you at all??? View Quote I wouldn't do that to my coworkers, and the people who willingly schedule their elective surgeries so they get the entire summer off tick me off. |
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Quoted: Immense natural resources and geographic protection from any real threat of war from other countries? View Quote I feel like there's a deliberately contrarian element here just trolling. |
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You get a 15 minute smoke break, I get a 15 minute coffee break. You get a 4 month paternity leave, I get a 4 month coffee break.
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I have 8 weeks of paternity leave available at half salary.
I have no opinion of the guy in the OP. If it’s in his contract, good for him. |
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There are countries in Europe that give you 2 years of paid maternity leave.
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Both of which would mean jack shit without people spending their time to make something of them. I feel like there's a deliberately contrarian element here just trolling. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
Quoted: Immense natural resources and geographic protection from any real threat of war from other countries? I feel like there's a deliberately contrarian element here just trolling. Would you rather work at a company that offers 0 hours PTO, or one that offers 160 hours PTO? All other benefits are the same with the same pay. |
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Quoted: Yes, and you know what makes people work better? A good working environment. Unless you believe in beatings until moral improves. Would you rather work at a company that offers 0 hours PTO, or one that offers 160 hours PTO? All other benefits are the same with the same pay. View Quote The parent's morale isn't the only morale that matters, the employees left behind to carry the workload and then spend another month getting their ass up to speed after the fact are affected, as well. |
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