We are all electric here and felt the need for a generator a few years back, probably have had it about 7 years now and used it 3 times.
I got a big Honda portable, 11,000 watts continous output. An electrician frind helped install a double throw disconnect switch, one position inputs from grid power, middle is neutral, no power at all, 3rd position is generator input only with no chance of backfeed to power grid. This is between the electric meter and my breaker box.
For short term you do not need to power everything. I always turn off hot water heater and tell wife only one top burner on stove and she can use microwave or toaster but not both, and no dishwasher, or clothes dryer unless I make sure something else is off Two freezers are on as well as refrigerator. It will run the central air heat pump, but if in cold weather I make sure breakers for emergency heat strips are off. ( I do have a set of gas logs i can connect to a 40 lb propane tank)
One spring we had some strong wind take out power lines and I connected it up, AC was going, the wife cooking breakfast . We had had a med sized crype myrtle blew over and was leaning on the house. I wanted to save it so decided to cut a couple of 2x4's into heavy stakes to tie it back up. I hit the switch on my table saw, a 3hp 220 v Delta unisaw. Everything dimmed and slowed down, but the generator caught up and carried it. I was not thinking and really overloaded it temporarily and will never do that again
My sister and her husband just built a new place out in the country, and put in a permanent backup, auto system,r running on propane. Their house is bigger than mine, and has propane heat, hot water and stove. I think they went with a 17KW unit which should be more than adequate for most lighting, kitchen appliances and central air.
When you figure what you need look at the startup amps required for motor driven things such as a/c refrigerators, ect, the compressers require a lot more in the way of amperage to start than to run so your total capacity should be based on using those figures plus a percentage for reserve.
I wonder about diesel for long term as I undrrstand that there is some bacteria tht can grow in it and cause filters and pumps to clog up.
My total cost including th disconnect switch, and a 35" 6/4 power cord and connectors was about $4500, The generator came with one 50 amp plug and I had to buy a female plug end for the cord, that thing cost over $50 by itself.