Excellent replies!
I have made it my policy to secure the phone number of a "seller" before I put my hard earned money in the USPS and send it to someone or someplace I know nothing about other than an screen name and email address.
About 7 times out of 10, the seller's phone number can be found by using the area code of their mailing address and dialing 1-555-1212. If the sellers number is "unlisted", I will email them and request we speak prior to exchanging money or goods.
I don't mind investing the extra nickel and CALLING that seller/buyer directly, and introducing myself as, the buyer, winning bidder, (or seller in certain high dollar transactions like complete uppers or optics.) If the item is under $200.00, and I am the seller, I just wait for the check to arrive. Believe it or not, I have had many sellers send the goods prior to receiving my payment! I dont do that ever!, unless I know the person from a prior transaction.
I NEVER accept personal checks or PayPal Visa payments without waiting for the funds to clear before I ship the goods.
If can't make personal phone connection, or find a seller's phone number, and if that person doesn't email their number to me on request, or reply to my email, it is a big "RED" flag!
When I get a "RED" flag, I hold on to the money or goods and email the other party to that effect. Also, I am cautious if the other party has a public email address, although more often than not, their email address is a Yahoo, Hotmail, some website like that, and not their ISP. Then personal contact is a must!
I flushed out bougus sellers on EBay twice when my emails were returned as undeliverable!
All that aside, I usually find a contact number, and once I speak to the person I ask if they will "give their word" that the item is as represented, also, I use the opportunity to get a comittment on delivery, type of mail carrier (USPS, UPS, Fed-Ex, Ins., etc.)In turn, I offer my committment to send the payment promptly.
I have yet to be burned when I speak person to person with someone and get their "word"!
Email is great, but it is too easy for a scum sucking fraud to hide behind in long my book of "past experiences".
To me a persons "Word" is much more believable, after a personal contact is made, plus I worry little that the person is bogus, and seldom go to my mailbox and come back disappointed!
There are other advantages to making personal contacts as well!