That said, the best advice I can give you for the light stands is pretty easy. Go to the hardware store and pick up 40 (you should only need 36, but if you lose some) thin white number 12 nylon washers. The self lubricating ones that are about 1mm thick. You'll want to take apart the bottom two joints on each leg of the light stand and put them between the arm and legs of the stand, then use the crappy steel washers you removed to put under the screws on the outside.
Hit each joint with a drop of triflo or wd-40 and then open/shut the stand a few times. Basically stiffens them up to where they'll stick when you set it up, but will still slide smoothly without bullshit.
That and I took some paracord and made a soft shackle knot on it with some extra, and epoxied it onto the rubber caps for the light stand. Once cured, I looped the paracord around the top of the stand where it tapers down, so when I unscrew the caps to put lights on them, I don't have to worry about losing the little bastards.