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Posted: 6/20/2016 7:32:42 PM EDT
She has been through hell. Alcoholism, several visits to rehab, is currently outpatient rehab, and relapsed on booze last night. Today we were texting and she was typing all sorts of stuff that didn't make much sense. Then she says she took a bunch of ambien, then said oh it was only 4. I have tried to contact her several times now and don't know what to do. I do know she is staying with her mom, and I could contact her mom thru facebook, but I am unsure of what to do. If she really only took 4, she will probably be ok and she will probably be pissed at me if I notify her mom. If she took more than that, she may die. This is a messed up situation man.
Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:07:35 PM EDT
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I'm not sure posting about it here will help her.

Contact her Mom or authorities for a welfare check if you think she's in danger.

ETA: I don't know much about ambien. Can you OD on ambien?
Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:08:55 PM EDT
Well, thats a tough one. Follow your gut.
Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:15:47 PM EDT
Where is she located ? If she took 4 Ambien she will have a long sleep ahead
Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:18:08 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By wiseanhyzer:
I'm not sure posting about it here will help her.

Contact her Mom or authorities for a welfare check if you think she's in danger.


ETA: I don't know much about ambien. Can you OD on ambien?
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The struggle I have is how to proceed. I don't know the address, so Im down to calling her mom. I think that is the best. I'll just ask if I can speak with her.




Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:18:44 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By whiskerz:
Where is she located ? If she took 4 Ambien she will have a long sleep ahead
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Alpharetta. I know some people will take several and stay awake. It can make you really chill.
Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:22:32 PM EDT
Was about to call her mom, then she finally texted me back saying she was ok. I need to get her address STAT
Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:24:57 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By wiseanhyzer:
I'm not sure posting about it here will help her.

Contact her Mom or authorities for a welfare check if you think she's in danger.


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Absolutely.

OD can cause seizures that can be difficult to manage.

Some of the biggest risk factors for suicide are previous attempt, and threat.

I wouldn't hesitate to call 911 and give them her address. She needs help.

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Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:27:50 PM EDT
If you know her moms name, and her mom owns the house, you can likely find her address by searching the GIS data for whatever county she lives in. It would be on the counties website, more specifically the tax assessors site.

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Link Posted: 6/20/2016 8:33:43 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By MedicOC:
If you know her moms name, and her mom owns the house, you can likely find her address by searching the GIS data for whatever county she lives in. It would be on the counties website, more specifically the tax assessors site.

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You know, you're right. I am going to do that now. Thanks MedicOC. This site is a blessing. I was freaking out and didn't even think of that, even though I know I can do the GIS search.
Link Posted: 6/20/2016 9:28:43 PM EDT
Call the local LE, explain the situation. They can follow up. Yes you can od on Ambien. Its a non benzo sedative but binds to the same receptors as benzos. Luckily it has a short half life, but is mainly excreated by the kidneys so it can cause kidney damage. The drug really has no legitimate purpous other than to make a shit ton of money fir the drug companies.
Link Posted: 6/21/2016 7:47:03 AM EDT
I guess I'm going to be the oddball here. It's sounds to me like attention-seeking behavior. Personally, I wouldn't get wrapped up in it. I'd contact the mom at a minimum or call 911 and let them handle it. Who cares if she gets mad? I've got too much other stuff to deal with to mess with that BS too.
Link Posted: 6/21/2016 8:49:41 AM EDT
Sounds vaguely familiar to a past experience of mine
Link Posted: 6/21/2016 9:56:16 AM EDT
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Originally Posted By Ytka:
I guess I'm going to be the oddball here. It's sounds to me like attention-seeking behavior. Personally, I wouldn't get wrapped up in it. I'd contact the mom at a minimum or call 911 and let them handle it. Who cares if she gets mad? I've got too much other stuff to deal with to mess with that BS too.
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She wants him back in her drunken/drugged life,and he's going to oblige her.
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Originally Posted By dryvalleyboy:

She wants him back in her drunken/drugged life,and he's going to oblige her.
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Originally Posted By dryvalleyboy:
Originally Posted By Ytka:
I guess I'm going to be the oddball here. It's sounds to me like attention-seeking behavior. Personally, I wouldn't get wrapped up in it. I'd contact the mom at a minimum or call 911 and let them handle it. Who cares if she gets mad? I've got too much other stuff to deal with to mess with that BS too.

She wants him back in her drunken/drugged life,and he's going to oblige her.
Uh, NO. I'm not going to do that. She has some serious issues. I've been texting her just checking on her for the last few months. Didn't text her one day and she went off, cursing, "f you mfer, you suck, you're a POS". That was just the beginning. So there is NO way possible that I will ever be in a relationship like that with her. I am separated and single now, and l aim to stay that way. I don't need relationships that last longer than a few hours.
Link Posted: 6/21/2016 3:03:33 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By ricky_45:
Uh, NO. I'm not going to do that. She has some serious issues. I've been texting her just checking on her for the last few months. Didn't text her one day and she went off, cursing, "f you mfer, you suck, you're a POS". That was just the beginning. So there is NO way possible that I will ever be in a relationship like that with her. I am separated and single now, and l aim to stay that way. I don't need relationships that last longer than a few hours.
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Originally Posted By ricky_45:
Originally Posted By dryvalleyboy:
Originally Posted By Ytka:
I guess I'm going to be the oddball here. It's sounds to me like attention-seeking behavior. Personally, I wouldn't get wrapped up in it. I'd contact the mom at a minimum or call 911 and let them handle it. Who cares if she gets mad? I've got too much other stuff to deal with to mess with that BS too.

She wants him back in her drunken/drugged life,and he's going to oblige her.
Uh, NO. I'm not going to do that. She has some serious issues. I've been texting her just checking on her for the last few months. Didn't text her one day and she went off, cursing, "f you mfer, you suck, you're a POS". That was just the beginning. So there is NO way possible that I will ever be in a relationship like that with her. I am separated and single now, and l aim to stay that way. I don't need relationships that last longer than a few hours.


"A few hours", eh? lol
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Originally Posted By ricky_45:
Uh, NO. I'm not going to do that. She has some serious issues. I've been texting her just checking on her for the last few months. Didn't text her one day and she went off, cursing, "f you mfer, you suck, you're a POS". That was just the beginning. So there is NO way possible that I will ever be in a relationship like that with her. I am separated and single now, and l aim to stay that way. I don't need relationships that last longer than a few hours.
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Originally Posted By ricky_45:
Originally Posted By dryvalleyboy:
Originally Posted By Ytka:
I guess I'm going to be the oddball here. It's sounds to me like attention-seeking behavior. Personally, I wouldn't get wrapped up in it. I'd contact the mom at a minimum or call 911 and let them handle it. Who cares if she gets mad? I've got too much other stuff to deal with to mess with that BS too.

She wants him back in her drunken/drugged life,and he's going to oblige her.
Uh, NO. I'm not going to do that. She has some serious issues. I've been texting her just checking on her for the last few months. Didn't text her one day and she went off, cursing, "f you mfer, you suck, you're a POS". That was just the beginning. So there is NO way possible that I will ever be in a relationship like that with her. I am separated and single now, and l aim to stay that way. I don't need relationships that last longer than a few hours.

Allow me to stand corrected.You HAVE obliged her by reinserting yourself into her life.
Link Posted: 6/21/2016 9:07:40 PM EDT
I would agree. You ARE in a relationship with her, whether you think so or not. And if it keeps up, this behavior will continue, too. I would do your part to make sure she's not harming herself, then cut ties. Like, block her number kind of cut ties.

If you keep it up, you will ruin future relationships. And we won't have an ounce of sympathy, because we all warned you. Most of us have either been through this exact thing, or had friends who have. Many of us have run the 911 calls on these sorts of drama fests.
Link Posted: 6/22/2016 7:25:19 AM EDT
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Originally Posted By footrat:
I would agree. You ARE in a relationship with her, whether you think so or not. And if it keeps up, this behavior will continue, too. I would do your part to make sure she's not harming herself, then cut ties. Like, block her number kind of cut ties.

If you keep it up, you will ruin future relationships. And we won't have an ounce of sympathy, because we all warned you. Most of us have either been through this exact thing, or had friends who have. Many of us have run the 911 calls on these sorts of drama fests.
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^ nailed it
Link Posted: 6/22/2016 11:08:58 AM EDT
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Was about to call her mom, then she finally texted me back saying she was ok. I need to get her address STAT
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Originally Posted By ricky_45:
Was about to call her mom, then she finally texted me back saying she was ok. I need to get her address STAT

You need to change your number STAT.

Originally Posted By footrat:
I would agree. You ARE in a relationship with her, whether you think so or not. And if it keeps up, this behavior will continue, too. I would do your part to make sure she's not harming herself, then cut ties. Like, block her number kind of cut ties.

If you keep it up, you will ruin future relationships. And we won't have an ounce of sympathy, because we all warned you. Most of us have either been through this exact thing, or had friends who have. Many of us have run the 911 calls on these sorts of drama fests.

This.
Link Posted: 6/22/2016 1:28:12 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By footrat:
I would agree. You ARE in a relationship with her, whether you think so or not. And if it keeps up, this behavior will continue, too. I would do your part to make sure she's not harming herself, then cut ties. Like, block her number kind of cut ties.

If you keep it up, you will ruin future relationships. And we won't have an ounce of sympathy, because we all warned you. Most of us have either been through this exact thing, or had friends who have. Many of us have run the 911 calls on these sorts of drama fests.
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Yup. She was testing you, and you fell for it.

Bail out, cut ties, change/block numbers, etc.
Link Posted: 6/22/2016 10:47:07 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By footrat:
I would agree. You ARE in a relationship with her, whether you think so or not. And if it keeps up, this behavior will continue, too. I would do your part to make sure she's not harming herself, then cut ties. Like, block her number kind of cut ties.

If you keep it up, you will ruin future relationships. And we won't have an ounce of sympathy, because we all warned you. Most of us have either been through this exact thing, or had friends who have. Many of us have run the 911 calls on these sorts of drama fests.
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Yep....Bear in mind that just because she is a former GF doesn't mean you are responsible for her.....You are responsible for you, let her take control (or not) of her own life or you WILL be drug into her drama.....repeatedly.....
Link Posted: 6/23/2016 3:09:27 AM EDT
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