Mark, what size hands do you have? If you have medium to large hands, I would suggest a Beretta in .40SW. The .40 is not as powerful as the .45 but more powerful than the 9mm. I am fond of Beretta because I have one modern one and one from 1937 and the quality is consistent between both. I have shot others as well and some range instructors and law enforcement officers regard them as the greatest guns ever developed. People say that about any maker but the fact is that the US military and other countries have chosen this as their military sidearm. I have a lot of respect for a company who is coming close to its 475th birthday in a couple years- in 2026, they will have been in the firearms business for 500 years. This outstanding history, along with the intense follow of their products by owners all around should put the Beretta at the top of your list with SIG and a custom 1911.
Beretta 92FS and 96FS are maintenance guns. You need keep them clean and oiled to make them perform their best. This is not saying you can't throw one in the sand, pick it up, and fire it. This just means that it will not perform as well as say a SIG if not oiled and cleaned. You keep a Beretta cleaned and oiled well and it will outperform all other factory made guns ALONG with a SIG. SIGs are by far one of the best handguns every made, but a Beretta is definitely up there too. Consider the Beretta 8000 Cougar series in 9mm, .40SW, and I think .45ACP now. It is a shorter barrel than the 92 and 96 but uses just as much firing power. It gives you a robust and filling feeling in your hand and recoil is very controllable. The new Sig Pros are nice too. They are less than the P series (p220, p226...) but still up to SIG par.