Both Wilson and CMC PowerMags are top notch. I use Wilson as I've always used them, and I have some loyalty to them. However, the PowerMags are great. You can't go wrong with either.
Grips are completely subjective. I've had VZs, used Gunners, and have owned just about everything else. Gunners have to be about the most popular out there, but I'll take the VZs any day. It's really just personal preference. If you like those kinds of grips, look at Davidson's grips too.
davidsonknives.com/grips/grips.htmAs far as replacing parts go, Wilson and Ed Brown are both great, so go with what you like, whether that's from a looks standpoint, cosst, or reputation. I would caution you about an extended slide stop. Without getting into it too deeply, they usually cause more harm than good. Unless you have half a thumb or something, they are an unneccesary addition that can cause premature slide lock, and to many they are the mark of an amateur. I'm not saying this to flame, but most would agree.
As far as guide rods go, full length rods, 1 piece or not, really only have the advantage of adding additional forward weight. The Operator is already a pig in the weight department, especially upfront. Also, some feel the gun cycles smoother or locks up tighter. Cycling smoother is an illusion. You no longer feel the spring rubbing the dust cover inside the gun, but it still rubs the rod. It's no better or worse. Most aftermarket rods are bigger in diameter than a GI unit, which can take some slop out of the barrel/frame/slide fit. Most times it's no big deal, but sometimes the head is too big, causing sluggish slide velocity and leading to FTF or FTE.
Replacing the hammer and the slide stop a re a good idea, since they are MIM, and in my opinion prone to breakage a little more in high impact or high stress areas. MIM is not by nature a bad thing, but I prefer not to have MIM hammers or slide stops.
Replacing the rest depends on you. The factory trigger is not fitted neary as tight as it could be, as it's basically a drop in unit. The ejector is MIM, and I suppose the extended finger could pbreak prematurely, but I have not seen it myself. The extractor is MIM, but it's not a high stress part, and MIM extractors work quite well if properly tensioned. I've had three SA mim FP stops break over the last ten years, and no others. All three were on guns that got a fair share of dry fire. They all cracked on one corner, and were still functional long after they cracked.
Anyway, by the time you replace all those parts, you spend a lot of money. Consider getting a Rock River Arms gun. It will cost less in the long run.
As far as lights, it's a standard Picatinny rail, though many eraly Operators were out of spec, with too wide of lugs. Anyway, I use a Surefire X200A, and anything they make that fits a weaver rail will work.
Good luck. Let us know what you get, and remember, pictures are a good thing.
ETA: In the latest edition of Combat Handguns, they have a small piece on the HRT Operator. It's not available to the public yet. Here's a pic of my Operator with the X200A.