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Posted: 12/17/2010 7:59:37 AM EDT
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We're going to her parents Christmas Eve, my parents Christmas morning.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:00:24 AM EDT
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If its all about equal and there isn't a particularly good reason to bias toward one, I let my wife decide.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:01:00 AM EDT
[#3]
Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:01:54 AM EDT
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We bought a big house and then invite everyone to our place for Christmas. It's an absolute three ring circus. Our home has become the centerpiece and gathering place for both of our extended families. We blend the families together for all intents and purposes. A good time is had by all. Oh, and we take in strays too.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:04:15 AM EDT
[#5]
We're doing Christmas Eve at her parents, Christmas Morning at our place, and Christmas Evening at mine.
 When I was a kid, Christmas Eve was celebrated with mom and dad, and Christmas Day was set between the two sets of grandparents. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:08:47 AM EDT
[#6]
Once I had kids, it was holidays at my place. You want to see the little skilletlickers, you come to our house.
Traveling with little dudes is a lot harder than the in-laws driving a few hours. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:09:59 AM EDT
[#7]
Too far between family locations to do both. Tried it one year and it ended up just being a waste of gas
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:11:39 AM EDT
[#8]
Quoted: Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness. This answer for the win. We went through a bunch of shit with both sets of parents plus out own guilt. We decided when we got married that we were doing Christmas Eve and Day alone at our house, and it was first come first serve in regards to weekend before and after. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:16:06 AM EDT
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Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness. Good idea. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:17:59 AM EDT
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Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness. Good idea. This. 
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:18:58 AM EDT
[#11]
Split between Thanksgiving and Christmas. We just talk it out. We have been having Christmas eve with her fam, Christmas morning with mine, and this year we are doing dinner at hers.
When I was a kid we always had Thanksgiving at dads and Christmas with moms. Its even easier if her family is beginning to drive her nuts like in our case. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:21:38 AM EDT
[#12]
Go wherever she wants. She's pregnant...and pregnant wimmenz be crazy.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:21:39 AM EDT
[#13]
Christmas eve with her parents/family at FIL's place
Christmas day with my parents at our place We have done it that was for 5 years now and works out well I think. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:23:33 AM EDT
[#14]
She's your wife; you're not her husband. If that makes any sense.
Xmas eve at her family's, Xmas proper at yours. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:24:32 AM EDT
[#15]
We just used to alternate. Christmas eve at one place, Christmas day at home, and Christmas day night at the other place.
But all the grandparents lived within 15 minutes of each other. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:24:53 AM EDT
[#16]
Wow, you didn't waste anytime in reproducing. I thought you just got married.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:25:28 AM EDT
[#17]
Neither. We spend Christmas at home with our own family. We visit family at other times of the year, but Christmas is just for us.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:26:00 AM EDT
[#18]
My brother goes to her family for Thanksgiving and mine for Christmas. Her family is in Pittsburgh, my family is in Colorado and they live in St. Louis.
When my wife's dad was alive, it was his house in the morning and my parents in the evening, talk about stuffed. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:26:46 AM EDT
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Too far between family locations to do both. Tried it one year and it ended up just being a waste of gas Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Alternate Christmases or tell them to organize at one or the others' house. It pisses me off that families have expectations of everyone stopping in and visiting when they put no effort into it themselves. Christmas for me is vacation time, not stress-out-because-of-family-bullshit-time. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:28:09 AM EDT
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Make them come see you. You already have one kid and another on the way, explain to them that travel is too much of a hassle.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:28:39 AM EDT
[#21]
Her parents are close by and come over for brunch. My parents are about 45 minutes away and we head over their for dinner. Been doing that for 9 years and it works pretty good.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:31:13 AM EDT
[#22]
At times like this I am glad my parents live 2,200 miles away and I already established with my folks that I am never flying into the Atlanta airport at Thanksgiving or Christmas.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:32:06 AM EDT
[#23]
In HI, neither. When we lived in VA, we alternated Thankgiving and Christmas between the families. In laws in CA, mine in NJ. Now we are in OK, so neither. And our boy is 2.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:34:19 AM EDT
[#24]
Quoted: Quoted: Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness. This answer for the win. We went through a bunch of shit with both sets of parents plus out own guilt. We decided when we got married that we were doing Christmas Eve and Day alone at our house, and it was first come first serve in regards to weekend before and after. This FTW. We spend Christmas at home. I'll be driving to my Mom's this weekend for early Christmas, and to my Dad and Grandparent's for New Year's. Thanksgiving was @ the in-laws. That's as equitable as we've been able to make it, and previous to this year, we've lived in Alaska or 1/2 the country away since we've been married. This is our first "close to home" holiday season since I joined the Air Force. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:36:18 AM EDT
[#25]
Neither! Go to the BOL!
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:37:15 AM EDT
[#26]
we just compromise...and at the end of the day I don't really care. It's fun Christmas parties regardless of where we go so I just enjoy the season instead of worrying about whether I got my due time with my family...after all, I have a new immediate family now
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:38:34 AM EDT
[#27]
Invite them all to your house?
Every family is different. You have to consider travel times and a million other things. When in doubt, let the wife make the call. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:45:11 AM EDT
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We're going to her parents Christmas Eve, my parents Christmas morning. Yup, going on 27 years now. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:45:37 AM EDT
[#29]
I have a buddy who solved that problem by just taking the wife and kids to Florida for Christmas every year. His wife thought it was the greatest idea ever until she discovered the real reason for his insistence on going out of town. You see, her family is totally raving nuts so bad it would make Jerry Springer blush. He knew the only way to avoid getting dragged into the epic drama was to just not take part at all.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:48:03 AM EDT
[#30]
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We're going to her parents Christmas Eve, my parents Christmas morning. FIrst post nailed it for me, this is exactly what we do. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:50:19 AM EDT
[#31]
The wife and I have a soon to be 3 year old. We told/tell both families, "This is what we are doing and this is when we are doing it. Your choice to be there." My parents will probably be there. In-laws probably won't be. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:51:25 AM EDT
[#32]
you must do both -
or come up with a plan to alternate every year this assumes that both sets are located reasonably close together |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:53:13 AM EDT
[#33]
Mine. My family is close-knit and relatively close in distance. She is an only child, her parents are divorced and live farther away. Also, they kind of suck.
ETA: Our first child is due in May.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 8:57:12 AM EDT
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Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness. Good idea. This. This free advice is worth millions. Follow it. One other option––tell the parents they are free to come to your house to see your child open up the gifts under your tree. Make them come to you (unless there's health/mobility issues, of course). Going ANYWHERE with a child under the age of five requires the same logistical efforts as moving supplies ashore on D-Day; the two financially-established, grown adults with a small suitcase between them can travel cheaper, easier and quicker than you can, especially in the wintertime. One of the things we discovered being in the military is that everyone expects YOU to go to THEM, since you're the one living away. Visits back home got so bad with us running around to everyone else's house that we needed a couple of days afterwards to recover from the vacation. Set the expectation now that you're happy to entertain visitors but aren't traveling; otherwise, you're going to make yourselves––and your newborn––miserable. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 9:00:58 AM EDT
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She's your wife; you're not her husband. If that makes any sense. Huh? |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 9:03:56 AM EDT
[#36]
We spend Christmas Eve and morning at home with our kids, our various relatives drop by during the day.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 9:07:50 AM EDT
[#37]
We make the decision from year to year. However, due to my strong aversion to traveling in winter conditions, we travel to my parents' home less often in the winter and more often in the summer.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 9:10:35 AM EDT
[#38]
They come to you now.... let them decide who gets there and on what day,
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Posted: 12/17/2010 9:46:04 AM EDT
[#39]
I personally don't have kids but when I was growing up Christmas Eve was with my grandparents (mother's side), Christmas morning home, and Christmas evening my other grandparents.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 10:01:04 AM EDT
[#40]
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Mine. My family is close-knit and relatively close in distance. She is an only child, her parents are divorced and live farther away. Also, they kind of suck. ETA: Our first child is due in May. MAY 8 HERE Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 10:06:30 AM EDT
[#41]
Which do you feel more comfortable with? that you can talk and relate with? I can't relate or talk with my siblings, so i don't even get together with them for the holidays. they have always treated me like shit,so one year I just said FU and never went again.
my wife's family treats me fairly and I can relate to them. So we spend the holidays with them. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 10:11:51 AM EDT
[#42]
It was an easy decision for us this year, my family is in Ohio and his is only two hours away. Well, that was the plan until I screwed up a flight and since he's working Christmas Eve now we'll just spend Christmas together at our house. We'll go spend New Year's with his family this year
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Posted: 12/17/2010 10:54:34 AM EDT
[#43]
we rotate years...
2008- Thanksgiving her folks, Christmas at mine 2009 Thanksgiving my folks, Christmas at hers 2010, Thanksgiving her folks, Christmas at mine. you get the idea |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 10:59:48 AM EDT
[#44]
LOL, welcome to one of the dirtiest surprises of marriage when you have kids. No matter what you do, somebody will be pissed off. Same goes for Thanksgiving. I hope for you neither family gives a shit.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 11:03:55 AM EDT
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Mine. My family is close-knit and relatively close in distance. She is an only child, her parents are divorced and live farther away. Also, they kind of suck. ETA: Our first child is due in May. MAY 8 HERE Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Sweet! Ours is due on the 6th. We should find out if we are having a boy or a girl next Wed. and hopefully we can tell my family on Christmas Eve. Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl yet? Are you planning to find out? |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 11:06:01 AM EDT
[#46]
All our family is 2000+ miles away. With that said, we're flying to NY to spend the holiday with my wife's family.
Most of my remaining family is in Italy, and I just got back from spending 5 weeks there - last year we spent Christmas there. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 11:06:20 AM EDT
[#47]
Girl....pray that you don't see three white lines
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Mine. My family is close-knit and relatively close in distance. She is an only child, her parents are divorced and live farther away. Also, they kind of suck. ETA: Our first child is due in May. MAY 8 HERE Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Sweet! Ours is due on the 6th. We should find out if we are having a boy or a girl next Wed. and hopefully we can tell my family on Christmas Eve. Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl yet? Are you planning to find out? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 11:07:13 AM EDT
[#48]
We take turns. One year my family. Next year her family. Every year the other is upset we are not there.
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Posted: 12/17/2010 11:09:17 AM EDT
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Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness. Good idea. This. This free advice is worth millions. Follow it. One other option––tell the parents they are free to come to your house to see your child open up the gifts under your tree. Make them come to you (unless there's health/mobility issues, of course). Going ANYWHERE with a child under the age of five requires the same logistical efforts as moving supplies ashore on D-Day; the two financially-established, grown adults with a small suitcase between them can travel cheaper, easier and quicker than you can, especially in the wintertime. One of the things we discovered being in the military is that everyone expects YOU to go to THEM, since you're the one living away. Visits back home got so bad with us running around to everyone else's house that we needed a couple of days afterwards to recover from the vacation. Set the expectation now that you're happy to entertain visitors but aren't traveling; otherwise, you're going to make yourselves––and your newborn––miserable. Read the above post. Now read it again. Now follow the advice. Your welcome. |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 11:15:00 AM EDT
[#50]
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Neither. Tell all the folks that it is now time to start your own holiday traditions with the child on the way. Set up days on either side of the big day to spend with each set of the parents. Hopefully avoids a lot of butthurtedness. This is the wisest course of action. Otherwise alternate years. |
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