My soon-to-be-fiance (the stone's currently getting mounted in the setting) has no problem w/ my having guns or shooting.... she's accompanied me to a couple matches, I've gotten her to shoot a couple times, etc. But she's content w/ it being -my- thing, and I don't want to push her.
However, when I'm visiting her (she lives in a free-state, and I'm in MD), I often am carrying (legally of course), esp since it's a fairly lengthy trip and we all know free-ways are statistically some of the worse places in the country. Well a couple times we've gotten ready to go out for a walk, the mall, or whatever, and I've slipped the gun on.... and she gets sunddenly uncomfortable and I get the "sighs" and comments like "it's just the mall!"
and FINALLY, to the question.........
Can I get some feedback from the ladies on my long-term thoughts on approaching this issue??
First, when we are wed, and she's around all the time, she's going to see a pistol on my hip several times a week as I practice for matches (holster presentations, reloads, dry-fire, etc). When on the phone she often hears my dry firing while talking. I'm hoping this eventually translates into comfort with my having a pistol, hidden, when out of the house. IE something she's "used" to.
Secondly, she's not totally blind to the dangers of the world. She recently had a dream where her and I are confronted and I'm packing, I tell her to run, and when she's running she hears two shots and wakes up terrified. I want to, over time, impress how terrified she would have been had she heard shots and I was NOT armed.... 100% chance the rounds were AT me, not FROM.
3rd. She lives in small town America (litterally like 2000 people). Yet when we've been on walks there have been a couple times when she's jumped at dogs barking or starting at us, or heard firecrackers and jumped, etc. I hope to impress on her how bad things happen anytime, even on quite Sunday walks, and bad can mean dog as much as thug.
4th. I hope to discuss news events with her. I've already done this to some extent. News story in August showing 2 guys robbing bank wearing heavy winter coats to hide guns. I discuss with her if it's August and you see those losers in big coats, LEAVE. Make an excuse to the teller to go out to the car for 5 min. I plan to discuss with her how every "breaking" news story begins with "Nothing like this has ever happened here," or "it's such a nice neighborhood," etc.
I don't plan to be nagging, or always saying "see... I told you" when the news is on, etc. And I don't want to come off as paranoid, but I want her to be comfortable within the first couple of years and it not be a big deal... just like putting on the watch.
Anyone here gone through similar circumstances? Any advice on my thoughts on approaching it?
Thanks!
rvb