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Posted: 7/21/2004 6:30:11 AM EDT
...and this is what she says in an almost crying voice,
"I don't want you to say anything so I will hang up as soon as I tell you this. I still love your parents, your sister, but most of all I still love you and miss you very much." Then she hangs up. WTF? It has been almost 11 months since we split up. |
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i bet she has been wanting to tell you that since almost 11 months ago...
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Call her back and tell her about that new girl you've been banging this week. Then ask her if she still loves you.
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Ask her if she's interested in a lunch date. She's begging for closure. Never deny anyone that.
What caused the divorce, anyway? |
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she got into a relationship... dude treated her like crap... they split up and now she realizes how much worse things can be. P.S.: agree with others. DO NOT CALL BACK OR GET TOGETHER. there is a reason you guys split in the first place. |
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Don't fall for it. I have one that still pulls that crap every time she breaks up with a boyfriend and we've been divorced 9 years.
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BINGO |
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And she's pregnant. |
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so sue me but i like to believe the best in people (of course, I havent been screwed over as bad as some of the folks here).
Do some investigation, first (ask around, do some checking, has she had any relationships that just went bust, etc). Then do some thinking , like who filed for divorce originally (for example, if you were banging the little blonde chicky and you filed for divorce, it is perfectly reasonable to believe your ex still loves you), you can make sense of it all. We just don't have enough info here. |
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I filed after she dissapeard for a weekend without telling anyone. I was extermly freaking out and worried. I called police and filed missing persons report. She told me she was going to a friends house, but that friend said she never got there. So of course I was scared as hell that she had been kidnapped. I was calling her cell and leaving messages until the voicemail got full, so then I stared to erase her message I had previously left (because I knew her code) so I could leave new ones. When i was doing that I heard this, "Hey Mrs. EagleArmsHBAR, this is Name and I met you at Bar last night and had a great time. Just wanted to see if you want to hang out again tonight." When I heard that I went from being worried to down right pissed. When she arried home several days later her stuff was packed up for her.
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Let it go until she starts doing this with any type of regularity, then get lawyers involved.
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If you call her back. You will get a unwanted future.
Run Forest RUN. |
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She has been living with some guy for about 6 months, who she met the weekend we split or earlier. They are still together as far as I know but she tells me he treats her like crap. She still denies cheating on me to this day.
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Well, seeing what caused the divorce, I don't know......... My mother claims to still love my Dad after almost 15 years of divorce now. She talks about it much more during bad times, such as now, when she's finishing her SECOND divorce after him. Uhhh....anyone remember that Confederate Railroad song, "When You leave That Way, You Can Never Go Back"? Me being the weak sucker that I am, I guess I'd still give her that closure....but only if she was willing to answer any and all questions that I had about her. And I wouldn't even dream of re-starting the relationship without some serious discussions of how things had to be, why they were like they were, and so on. |
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Wow...I definitely not call her or see this woman again. Ciao Baby! Adios! |
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Amen!! |
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She's playin ya dude. She went off for a weekend and had a fling. Basically she disrespected you once and she will do it again if you give her a chance. How does the old cliche go...Screw me over once, your fault. Screw me over twice, my fault.
Yeah, she wants you back bad. She realized she lost out. I realize we are all saying the same thing, which is "Don't call her'. But most of us probably have been in multiple relationships and several marriages so we are speaking from experience. Don't let your little head think for your big head... P.S. Got any pics of her naked.... |
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call her back, lead her on a bit, tell her you still love her, but you are also in live with her mom, and do not know what to do
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Wade the shallow end first......test the water to see if it's safe. If you feel comfortable, proceed deeper until you are in over your head.
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Ok so she cheated on you while you were married. Not showing much respect or consideration to your health. God only knows what she could of brough home. 11 months after the papers were final she calls and say more or less she fucked up and wants another chance...
If you feel you need to return that call which is right out of the play book for head games. Say this " well i'mglad you realized your mistake and you're sorry. maybe the next guy won't have to go through it then" and hang up. J |
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My first ever +1. I speak from experience, as I made the mistake of calling back. Run Forest run. Typically they leave the good guy for the bad guy (personally, I'm normally the bad guy, but in this one case I was the good guy). After the badguy finally treats them bad enough to make them want to leave, they start remembering just how good you were. Then once they figure out that they've got you back on the hook & can have you anytime they want, they head back for the bad guys knowing they have you in their hip pocket. I always kind of understood this as I was usually the bad guy, but now that I've been the good guy this once, it's become crystal clear to me. Women are like monkeys, they don't want to let go of one vine until they have ahold of the next one. The vine she let go of you for has snapped, and as she's falling to the jungle floor she's reaching back to the last secure vine she knew; you. Once she's righter herself & established that you are still the stable vine, she'll swing on. |
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This is a trap......she is looking for a self esteem boost. Let's see, she's in a relationship where the other guy treats her like crap, right? She's trying to get some type of positive attention from you to make her feel better about herself. You could call and start over, but she'll just shit on you again. Trust me, I've been through it. Women thrive on positive attention and once she gets enough from you she'll just fuck you again and go back to her old tricks. Personally, I'd change my phone number and leave her where she belongs..........in your past.
-REAPER2502 |
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Swap out names as needed and send her a letter.
Here is a template: Dear Terri: I know the counselor said we shouldn't contact each other during our "cooling off" period, but I couldn't wait anymore. The day you left, I swore I'd never talk to you again. But that was just the wounded little boy in me talking. Still, I never wanted to be the first one to make contact. In my fantasies, it was always you who would come crawling back to me. I guess my pride needed that. But now I see that my pride's cost me a lot of things. I'm tired of pretending I don't miss you. I don't care about looking bad anymore. I don't care who makes the first move as long as one of us does. Maybe it's time we let our hearts speak as loudly as our hurt. And this is what my heart says ... "There's no one like you, Terri." I look for you in the eyes and breasts of every woman I see, but they're not you. They're not even close. Two weeks ago, I met this girl at the Rainbow Room and brought her home with me. I don't say this to hurt you, but just to illustrate the depth of my desperation. She was young, Terri, maybe 19, with one of those perfect bodies that only youth and maybe a childhood spent ice skating can give you. I mean, just a perfect body - tits you wouldn't believe and an ass like a tortoise shell. Every man's dream, right? But as I sat on the couch getting a hellacious barney by this co-ed, I thought, look at the stuff we've made important in our lives. It's all so surface. What does a perfect body mean? Does it make her better in bed? Well, in this case, yes. But you see what I'm getting at. Does it make her a better person? Does she have a better heart than my moderately attractive Terri? I doubt it. And I'd never really thought of that before. I don't know, maybe I'm just growing up a little. Later, after I'd tossed her about a quart of throat yogurt, I found myself thinking, "Why do I feel so drained and empty?" It wasn't just her flawless technique or her slutty, shameless hunger, but something else - some niggling feeling of loss. Why did it feel so incomplete? And then it hit me. It didn't feel the same because you weren't there, Terri, to watch. Do you know what I mean? Nothing feels the same without you, baby. Jesus, Terri, I'm just going crazy without you. And everything I do just reminds me of you. Do you remember Carol, that single mom we met at Second Baptist Church? Well, she drops by last week with a pan of "lasagna." She said she figured I wasn't eating right without a woman around. I didn't know what she really meant till later, but that's not the real story. Anyway, we have a few glasses of wine and the next thing you know we're making hot love in our old bedroom. And this broad's a total monster in the sack. She's giving me everything, you know like a real woman does when she's not hung up about God and her career and whether the kids can hear us. And all of a sudden she spots that tilting mirror on your grandmother's old vanity. So she puts it on the floor and we straddle it, right, so we can watch ourselves. And it's totally hot, but it makes me sad too. Because I can't help thinking, "Why didn't Terri ever put the mirror on the floor? We've had this old vanity for what, 14 years, and we never used it as a sex aid." (Some of this I thought about later.) You know what I mean? What happened to our spontaneity? You get so caught up in the routine of a marriage and you just lose sight of each other. And then you lose yourself. That's the saddest part of all for me. But I keep thinking we can get it back. I know we can, because I only want this stuff with you. Saturday, your sister drops by with my copy of the restraining order. I mean, Shannon's just a kid and all, but she's got a pretty good head on her shoulders. She's been a real friend to me during this painful time. She's given me lots of good counsel about you and about women in general. (She's pulling for us to get back together, Terri. She really is.) So we're drinking in the hot tub and talking about happier times. Here's this hot girl with the same DNA as you (although, let's face it, she got an extra helping of the sexy gene) and all I can do is think of how much she looks like you when you were 18. And that just about makes me cry. And then it turns out Shannon's really into the whole anal thing and that gets me to thinking about how many times I pressured you about trying it and how that probably fueled some of the bitterness between us. But do you see how even then, when I'm thrusting inside the steaming hot Dutch oven of your sister's cinnamon ring, all I can do is think of you? It's true, baby. In your heart you know it. Don't you think we could start over? Just wipe out all the grievances and start fresh? I think we can. I keep thinking that I think if you'd just try it, I wouldn't have to pressure you so much. Because who needs all that bitterness, Terri? It just tears us apart. And I can't be apart from you. Because I love you, God help me but I do, please say yes. Love, Scott |
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Uncommon wisdom. |
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DING DING DING DING!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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No...Don't call.....Don't say a thing....Move on. It's over. BTW: Change your phone number to a unlisted number. |
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+1 for the letter method... |
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The first answer you mark is usually right.
I think this is the case. Do not change it and get it wrong. |
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+2 |
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Couldn't have said it better myself. |
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Well she realized she f*cked up, and that she probably isnt going to have life like it was.
Call her up and laugh at her and just hang up |
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BTDT, if you want to get screwed over twice, then by all means call her back. If you want to move on and meet another woman who respects you, keep looking. Don't retreat, move forward. It is easy to forgive, but you'll never forget. And it will eat you from the inside out.
just my $0.02, Mike |
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Dude, that's some of the funniest shit that I've read in a while! DAMN!! |
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Uhhh...she's still with a guy and calling you telling you how much she loves you? So she cheated on you, and now she's cheating on the guy she's currently with. Remember, women are emotional creatures, so if she says she loves you and not her current man, she is effectively cheating on him. I'd avoid her like the plague. For all we know, she may literally have caught some plague. Sleeping around and all. |
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Everyone told me she wold realize one day what a dumbass she had been, and I am surprised it took her this long to actually tell me she is still in love with me. We were highschool sweethearts and were married for 5 years before the split. I still feel the same way but I don't think I could allow myself to get back together with her after the stuff she pulled.
Oh yeah, she also ran all my credit cars up to 15k and hers to 30k while we were married. I still am paying mine, as she is hers. AND she hated guns. I was told when we were first married only two guns in house , when we split I had 12 now I have 20 , and AWB is over soon so that means one million guns will soon be in my house (all AK-47s and UZIs I will pick up off the street) |
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She has never said she was in love with the other guy and he never wants to marry or have kids.
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You told your wife you agreed to only having 2 guns in the house, and had 12 when you split up? So much for keeping your word......wonder why she cheated? |
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