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Posted: 7/19/2008 11:31:39 PM EDT
So I just got done watching this show on VH1 that was called
"Women on Women: A Bisexual Journey." or something like that.
In the show, couples go to one of those hedonist places where the
women can act on fantasies of being with another woman. There are
many couples, but the show focused on 4 couples.

One of the ladies was married, but had actually fallen in love with this
girl they had met the previous year. The men are also at this place, but
do not get to participate in any of the woman activities. The husband of
this lady had no problems with it, or so he said.

So what do you say? Would you let your wife or girlfriend have a girlfriend?

I honestly don't know how I feel on the subject, those things tend to get
ugly from what I hear. I guess I would be allright with it, as long as I was
always there, and it happened nowhere else but our house.
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:33:47 PM EDT
Only if I can have one too..........
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:33:51 PM EDT
As long as she lets me watch

But no, really...I'd be fine with it.
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:39:31 PM EDT
Nope. I dated a Lesbian for a while. Long story, don't ask.
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:46:57 PM EDT
No, I doubt it. Frankly I'm probably too much for her sexually. I would consider having a harem if it was feasible.
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:49:31 PM EDT
I might let her experiment...

But who knows.
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:49:58 PM EDT

Originally Posted By 2Hessians:
So I just got done watching this show on VH1 that was called
"Women on Women: A Bisexual Journey." or something like that.
In the show, couples go to one of those hedonist places where the
women can act on fantasies of being with another woman. There are
many couples, but the show focused on 4 couples.

One of the ladies was married, but had actually fallen in love with this
girl they had met the previous year. The men are also at this place, but
do not get to participate in any of the woman activities. The husband of
this lady had no problems with it, or so he said.

So what do you say? Would you let your wife or girlfriend have a girlfriend?

I honestly don't know how I feel on the subject, those things tend to get
ugly from what I hear. I guess I would be allright with it, as long as I was
always there, and it happened nowhere else but our house.


No...

Of course, anyone I marry is going to be of my same religious persuasion...

'God would not approve.... See Biblical position on homosexuality...' End of discussion...
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:50:19 PM EDT
Only if i get to play too.
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:53:12 PM EDT
Link Posted: 7/19/2008 11:54:02 PM EDT
no
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 12:53:15 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Nutro:
Nope. I dated a Lesbian for a while. Long story, don't ask.


+1

I had a friend who was in a similiar situation. He was happily married for a couple of years and his wife had a cute little "friend" she had met at her work. The wife and her for go out to lunch etc. come over for dinner etc. Nothing unusual...at first.

Fast forward a couple of months and his wife started dropping hints about possibly having a threesome with another woman etc. The guy said sure knowing it was highly unlikely it would happen.

Fast forward another month and the other woman was invited over for dinner and movies. During dinner the girls began drinking wine and were starting to get giggly. Eventually the women began making out and he watched. It eventually turned into a threesome.

Fast forward another couple of weeks and the girl comes to live with them. He said the sex was incredible for the next few months but he began to notice the girls were becoming very jealous of one another when he was the partner. I eventually got to the point where he was not allowed to participate.

He was finally put out of his own house and he eventually divorced his wife because he didn't "understand her needs anymore"



Link Posted: 7/20/2008 1:08:36 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 7/20/2008 1:08:58 AM EDT by 70satvert]
Someone I'm just kinda having a "fling" with, sure. Someone I actually loved and potentially marry? Negative.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 1:11:47 AM EDT

Originally Posted By 2Hessians:
So I just got done watching this show on VH1 that was called
"Women on Women: A Bisexual Journey." or something like that.
In the show, couples go to one of those hedonist places where the
women can act on fantasies of being with another woman. There are
many couples, but the show focused on 4 couples.

One of the ladies was married, but had actually fallen in love with this
girl they had met the previous year. The men are also at this place, but
do not get to participate in any of the woman activities. The husband of
this lady had no problems with it, or so he said.

So what do you say? Would you let your wife or girlfriend have a girlfriend?

I honestly don't know how I feel on the subject, those things tend to get
ugly from what I hear. I guess I would be allright with it, as long as I was
always there, and it happened nowhere else but our house.


As long as she keeps the sex coming, and doesn't do another guy, I don't care what she does.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 1:14:53 AM EDT
Mine was into that when I met her, how could I protest it if she still wanted to do it?
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 1:19:21 AM EDT
The general rule is dependant on how you view marriage or your relationship with that person.

If it is viewed as a temporary gig and you are fine with getting divorced, etc, then I would say that it is workable....but odds are it will end very badly.

If you view the marriage as life long, then no, it would be a bad plan.

Generally, perversions are based on negative experiences at an early age and the stronger the experience (abuse in many cases), the more perverse and overt the perversion will be.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 1:27:12 AM EDT
No and hell no.

My home =/= Sodom and Gomorrah.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 1:28:28 AM EDT
Sure. The religious fanatics don't know what they are missing out on. But to each their own.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 1:56:55 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Nutro:
Nope. I dated a Lesbian for a while. Long story, don't ask.

But, but......come on, share........

Lived with a couple in Sacramento decades ago. Strange bunch.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 2:05:33 AM EDT
No .
I already lived the life once , and I don't want it anymore .
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 2:57:20 AM EDT
sure
then she could have pay bills right along with me
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:09:35 AM EDT
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:10:22 AM EDT

Originally Posted By tc556guy:
Sure. The religious fanatics don't know what they are missing out on. But to each their own.




Or maybe we do.

Has it occurred to you that not all of us "fanatics" were always so? That we didn't always walk the straight-and-narrow?

What's being proposed here is a short-term pathological fling. Love triangles are generally messy affairs, and that's independent of your stance on the morality of it.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:13:31 AM EDT

Originally Posted By ACOGless:
Mine was into that when I met her, how could I protest it if she still wanted to do it?


I was banging multiple girlfriends when I met my wife. How could she protest if I still wanted to?
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:15:47 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Martlet:

Originally Posted By ACOGless:
Mine was into that when I met her, how could I protest it if she still wanted to do it?


I was banging multiple girlfriends when I met my wife. How could she protest if I still wanted to?


I suscribe to sterotypes so I don't see your statement as relevant. Sorry.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:18:32 AM EDT

Originally Posted By sprayandpray:
Only if I can have one too..........

Yep, this.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:21:41 AM EDT

Originally Posted By TheGrayMan:


Or maybe we do.

Has it occurred to you that not all of us "fanatics" were always so? That we didn't always walk the straight-and-narrow?

Most of the worst of the religious fanatics I know were raised that way and wont allow themselves to even consider any alternatives. I know there are also some who lapse into a state of religious delusion for whatever personal reasons.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:35:15 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 7/20/2008 3:37:57 AM EDT by TheGrayMan]

Originally Posted By tc556guy:

Originally Posted By TheGrayMan:


Or maybe we do.

Has it occurred to you that not all of us "fanatics" were always so? That we didn't always walk the straight-and-narrow?

Most of the worst of the religious fanatics I know were raised that way and wont allow themselves to even consider any alternatives. I know there are also some who lapse into a state of religious delusion for whatever personal reasons.




ETA: believe whatever you want... it's curious to me that you're consistently so abrasive and such an a** about what other people believe.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:35:34 AM EDT
My wife has had a few girlfriends, It doesn't bother me. Sometimes I get to join, sometimes I don't. If I wanted to I could have a g/f, but my wife is enough of a pain in the arse for me!
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:39:33 AM EDT

Originally Posted By sylvan13:
My wife has had a few girlfriends, It doesn't bother me. Sometimes I get to join, sometimes I don't. If I wanted to I could have a g/f, but my wife is enough of a pain in the arse for me!


impossable..... a love triangle CAN NOT last ... just ask all the experts here.....
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:53:17 AM EDT
Personally I would prefer my wife kept her attentions for me alone.

With that said I know a few couples that have done the three people in the relationship thing. If the original couple is married and agrees before hand that no matter what happens they will work things out to save the marriage then it can work.

One couple tried it and the female fell in love with the other female. Well they eventually kicked out the "3rd wheel" and after a couple of years of marriage counseling they have a happy marriage again.

Another couple had their fun for a while and then when the "3rd wheel" got to clingy they kicked her to the curb.

Both of these couples have said that they were glad for the experience and MAY do it again if the right person came along.

I think it depends on the original couple as to whether or not their relationship is strong enough to stand the stress of having someone else around that you both have feelings for.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:54:19 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Dave_A:

Originally Posted By 2Hessians:
So I just got done watching this show on VH1 that was called
"Women on Women: A Bisexual Journey." or something like that.
In the show, couples go to one of those hedonist places where the
women can act on fantasies of being with another woman. There are
many couples, but the show focused on 4 couples.

One of the ladies was married, but had actually fallen in love with this
girl they had met the previous year. The men are also at this place, but
do not get to participate in any of the woman activities. The husband of
this lady had no problems with it, or so he said.

So what do you say? Would you let your wife or girlfriend have a girlfriend?

I honestly don't know how I feel on the subject, those things tend to get
ugly from what I hear. I guess I would be allright with it, as long as I was
always there, and it happened nowhere else but our house.


No...

Of course, anyone I marry is going to be of my same religious persuasion...

'God would not approve.... See Biblical position on homosexuality...' End of discussion...


My religion commands that my woman have a bisexual lover. Who am I to argue with my God. Besides he is an angry God who will smite my member if I don't follow his commands.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 3:56:12 AM EDT

Originally Posted By TheGrayMan:
[
ETA: believe whatever you want... it's curious to me that you're consistently so abrasive and such an a** about what other people believe.

I'm not as ass about what people believe in general , but having grown up in a conservative Baptist home and attended a conservative Baptist church til I left home, I am quite familiar with the delusions of conservative Christians and their unwillingness to even consider that they might be wrong. I'm an ass when they wont admit that all they have is faith to stand on, no proof of anything, but they label that faith "the Truth". Its NOT "the Truth", its what they BELIEVE is the "truth", no different than anyone in the past thousands of years who thought THEIR religion was "the truth". I'm an ass when some Christians think they have the right to impose their faith on others. I'm also an ass when some Christians wont own up to the members of their faith who have committed injustices throughout history in the name of their religion.

To me, thats saving being 'an ass" when I need to be one.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 4:05:21 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Nutro:
Nope. I dated a Lesbian for a while. Long story, don't ask.


Yep, done that. When its over you will look like this. Stay the fuck away. You think normal women are crazy, you aint seen nothing yet.

Oh yea, forgot to add, the sex was great. Porn star sex. Thats what makes it so hard to escape.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:02:30 AM EDT
No.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:13:05 AM EDT
You'd probably look back at some point in your life, and think: Man, I wish I hadn't done that".
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:16:30 AM EDT

Originally Posted By magnumtc:

Originally Posted By Nutro:
Nope. I dated a Lesbian for a while. Long story, don't ask.


+1

I had a friend who was in a similiar situation. He was happily married for a couple of years and his wife had a cute little "friend" she had met at her work. The wife and her for go out to lunch etc. come over for dinner etc. Nothing unusual...at first.

Fast forward a couple of months and his wife started dropping hints about possibly having a threesome with another woman etc. The guy said sure knowing it was highly unlikely it would happen.

Fast forward another month and the other woman was invited over for dinner and movies. During dinner the girls began drinking wine and were starting to get giggly. Eventually the women began making out and he watched. It eventually turned into a threesome.

Fast forward another couple of weeks and the girl comes to live with them. He said the sex was incredible for the next few months but he began to notice the girls were becoming very jealous of one another when he was the partner. I eventually got to the point where he was not allowed to participate.

He was finally put out of his own house and he eventually divorced his wife because he didn't "understand her needs anymore"


Yes but what a ride!

efxguy



Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:21:49 AM EDT

Originally Posted By sprayandpray:
Only if I can have one too..........




Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:28:42 AM EDT
we have the rule that neither one of us can play unless the other can play, at the same time, same place.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:35:42 AM EDT

Originally Posted By TheGrayMan:

Originally Posted By tc556guy:
Sure. The religious fanatics don't know what they are missing out on. But to each their own.




Or maybe we do.

Has it occurred to you that not all of us "fanatics" were always so? That we didn't always walk the straight-and-narrow?

What's being proposed here is a short-term pathological fling. Love triangles are generally messy affairs, and that's independent of your stance on the morality of it.


Bingo.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:51:11 AM EDT
I'm not a religious fanatic... I just know those folks on Jerry Springer got there somehow.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 5:54:14 AM EDT
No
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:08:47 AM EDT

Originally Posted By tc556guy:
Originally Posted By TheGrayMan:
[I'm an ass when some Christians think they have the right to impose their faith on others.


I am so sick of hearing this.

If someone can "impose" their faith on you, then you are weak willed, and can't think for yourself. Faith, is a belief. You cannot make someone believe what they don't want to believe. You can only present your beliefs, and let them make up their own mind.

Obviously, you have already made yours.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:16:18 AM EDT

Originally Posted By sprayandpray:

Originally Posted By sylvan13:
My wife has had a few girlfriends, It doesn't bother me. Sometimes I get to join, sometimes I don't. If I wanted to I could have a g/f, but my wife is enough of a pain in the arse for me!


impossable..... a love triangle CAN NOT last ... just ask all the experts here.....


I've read enough threads on here where people say that. Before my wife and I got married we knew how we wanted our relationship to be. We are both comfortable with the arrangement. Been married 5 years so far, and we have had a g/f for 3 of those years. We have yet to have any troubles, no baby mamma drama's and no jealousy. Well OK, maybe a little on my side, but my wife makes up for it by psychicly knowing when I need a beer.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:17:35 AM EDT
My wife is between girlfriends right now. I have NEVER had a problem with her having someone to go shopping with and do crap that I have no interest in. She comes home in a better mood, and occasionally brings someone with her that puts BOTH of us in a better mood.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:20:50 AM EDT
That's what I need, someone else to spend more money and talk on the phone more.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:21:58 AM EDT
No, never. I'd bail out.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:23:20 AM EDT
If i was single & had a girlfriend, why not. But definitely not with my wife.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:23:26 AM EDT
Stupid Question!!Period.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:23:51 AM EDT
Yep same here..

I love the thought of it, but alas I am not allowed

Sorry the wife and I are happy in the sex department anyway

FREE



Originally Posted By Dave_A:

Originally Posted By 2Hessians:
So I just got done watching this show on VH1 that was called
"Women on Women: A Bisexual Journey." or something like that.
In the show, couples go to one of those hedonist places where the
women can act on fantasies of being with another woman. There are
many couples, but the show focused on 4 couples.

One of the ladies was married, but had actually fallen in love with this
girl they had met the previous year. The men are also at this place, but
do not get to participate in any of the woman activities. The husband of
this lady had no problems with it, or so he said.

So what do you say? Would you let your wife or girlfriend have a girlfriend?

I honestly don't know how I feel on the subject, those things tend to get
ugly from what I hear. I guess I would be allright with it, as long as I was
always there, and it happened nowhere else but our house.


No...

Of course, anyone I marry is going to be of my same religious persuasion...

'God would not approve.... See Biblical position on homosexuality...' End of discussion...
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:24:11 AM EDT

Originally Posted By ACOGless:

Originally Posted By Martlet:

Originally Posted By ACOGless:
Mine was into that when I met her, how could I protest it if she still wanted to do it?


I was banging multiple girlfriends when I met my wife. How could she protest if I still wanted to?


I suscribe to sterotypes so I don't see your statement as relevant. Sorry.


Of course you don't. Ignoring the obvious is a great way to sustain an illogical belief system. Millions of liberals use that method daily.
Link Posted: 7/20/2008 6:33:27 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Martlet:

Originally Posted By ACOGless:

Originally Posted By Martlet:

Originally Posted By ACOGless:
Mine was into that when I met her, how could I protest it if she still wanted to do it?


I was banging multiple girlfriends when I met my wife. How could she protest if I still wanted to?


I suscribe to sterotypes so I don't see your statement as relevant. Sorry.


Of course you don't. Ignoring the obvious is a great way to sustain an illogical belief system. Millions of liberals use that method daily.


Lighten up Francis!
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