Found it Sunday.  Went in today for mammo.  They ordered an ultrasound in addition.  Doc looked at ultrasound and body language was unnerving.  Said we wont know until the biopsy results.  Could be benign, but just not sure.  Microcalcifications, but not a lot of them.

Lump is tender to the touch and moves/ not stationary.

Lump is 3 CM x 2CM

Cant get biopsy before Friday at the earliest.  May take a week or more to get results.  We are going to try to win an Oscar in front of our kids and not tell them at all for now...scared to death inside.  This can't be happening.

HER SISTER DIED AT 46 from breast cancer.  Wife is 44.

We believe in prayer.  Yours are appreciated.

UPDATE#1 : Went for biopsy today. Ultrasound tech said that the margins appeared to be round and the microcalcifications are very small. We hope to have pathology results by Friday.

This has by far been the hardest week we have had in a long time, but we are doing ok and a whole lot of folks are praying for us. Thanks guys.

UPDATE#2
Confirmed HER2- , estrogen receptive, ductile carcinoma.

We are in shock. First planning session next week.

UPDATE #3

The past 7 days have been the hardest, emotional, roller coaster we've ever been on.  Here's the latest and it's mostly good:

- On Wednesday we met with our surgeon, radiology oncologist, and medical oncologist.  All three were very positive about our odds of beating this.  "Very likely" and "90%" were both thrown out.
- On Friday, we went in for her CT scans, MRI, and bone scan.  ALL CAME BACK WITH NO SIGN OF METASTASIS OR LYMPH NODE INVOLVEMENT!  PRAISE GOD!
- The MRI did show a possible smaller tumor 1.5mm from the primary issue, so that will be biopsied as well next week.  The docs think it's 50/50 cancer or nothing.  If it is cancer, the odds of them pushing for mastectomy are higher, so we are praying it's nothing so she can keep the breast.
- After clinical staging as Class IIA and scans confirming that staging, here is the plan:

8 weeks of AC chemo
break 2 weeks
12 weeks of T chemo
break 2 weeks
Breast conservation surgery (lumpectomy)
break 2 weeks
5 weeks of radiation

My wife is turning the corner from shock to fight, but the past week I have seen terror and grief in her on a horrific scale.  Now, her main concern is the chemo/hair loss, not that she may die.

We have adopted a battle cry "NOT MY STORY!"...her reference point of a sister who was diagnosed at the same age with a similar tumor and then lost that fight is the lens she can't help but see through.  BUT...God says that there is a unique story written for each of our lives before we are even born, and we are holding on to the truth that "HER STORY IS NOT MY STORY" and that she will be healed.

Thanks for your continued prayers.  War has been declared, and we hit the beaches of Chemo on the 19th or 20th of this month.

Prayers out.

Prayers on the way, my friend.

Prayers, Brother.

Stay strong for your wife.

Can do.

I'm praying! Please try not to worry too much just yet. So many times it's a cyst or benign or something.

God performs miracles all the time, and the prayers of many can make a big difference.

Prayers my friend

Prayers OP

Prayers out. Sounds like a cyst to me. I'm not a DR. but I didn't think cancerous lumps were painful to the touch. Hope I'm right.

Prayers coming your way

Praying for your family OP. Keep us updated.

my wife's mother died of breast cancer. My wife has had lumps on two separate occasions, both times was not cancer.  I'm just a stranger on the internet trying to advise you to try not worrying until you hear something.

Prayers out.

Stay strong for your wife.

Prayers sent

Praying for you all! God works in great ways!

Prayers outbound.

Prayers sent. Went through this about a year ago with my wife, scared the hell out of us and it was just a cyst. Hopefully, your wife's is something harmless.

Cripes. Prayers sent OP. My wife's family has an extensive cancer history (her sister alone has had breast cancer twice... but beat it both times). So we live under the shadow of my wife's yearly mammograms and paps. Her lumps thus far have turned out to be cysts. Hang in there.

Prayers inbound OP

Prayers out for your wife. My mom just had her second dose of chemo for breast cancer. Scary as shit at first, but they have a solid plan in place. It seems like it took forever to get things moving. Just be patient, trust the doctors and pray. Stay strong!

Hopefully turns out to be nothing.

Prayers out. 

Whatever happens, have her get the cancer gene test.  Good luck.

My mother found lumps 10+ years ago. Did chemo for several weeks. Enrolled in the possible placebo program that might include very spicy (habanero spice) as a possible assist. She complained to me that the pills gave her heart burn. I explained that there was no way to tell if *she* had the actual spicy pills. They do not taste spicy.

Now, at the tender age of 99. She is still cancer free.

Have hope, tell the story. Cancer is now the least of her problems or maybe mine. She is still pretty sharp.

Also, my father was diagnosed with prostrate cancer at the tender age of 85. He died of pneumonia at 92.

Sorry to hear that op. You have a big extended family in Texas on this site. Let us know if we can do anything

Prayers sent brother.
Wife had same.
30 years ago.
Benign.

Prayers sent.

Lost my mom and sister to breast cancer.

Fuck cancer

If its not stationary maybe it can be cut out. Good luck brother. Just remember it can be beat even if it is cancer

You and your wife are in my prayers.

Prayers sent.

Prayers sent. Looking forward to hearing back that everything will be fine.

Easier said then done but don't stress yourselves out until there is definitely something wrong. Worrying won't help at all.

Remain positive. I know it's hard but don't dwell on the negative. It can be defeated and that needs to be your mindset.

Best wishes and prayers for you both.

Prayers sent. Tag for updates.

You, and your wife are in our prayers. Feel free if you need to message me if you need to talk to someone who's wife is currently battling it. I know exactly how you feel, I've been there myself and don't wish it upon anyone.

Bummer.

But at least this gives us a reason to listen to some Presidents of the United States.

Prayers for you and your family brother.

Stay strong.

Prayers up homie

WTH??? I dig that song... but that's in VERY poor taste.

Prayers sent.

Prayers up.  My wife is a two year breast cancer survivor.  Let us know if you need anything.

Don't stress out over it; that won't help anything.  Just remember that there is a good chance that it will be benign, and even if it's cancer, the success rate for breast cancer is very high (especially when found early).  Driving in a car every day has a chance of death, but you don't worry about that, right?

Prayers to you friend.

Prayer for her and your family OP.

I pray on occasion, and this is the type.

I have a few for tonight, and your wife and family will be included.

My grandmother had a double mastectomy when she was 35.

She died last year at the age of 96!

Stay positive, and never give up hope!

Done sir.


Best luck to your wife and family.

You're looking at this all wrong.

If it's nothing, cool. Worst case scenario, she gets a double mastectomy...and then the best bolt ons money can buy. When she's 80, she'll still be sag-free.

It's a win-win deal.

FUCK CANCER. Best wishes to you and your family

Hope you get good news.  It's a concern in our house too.  MIL and wife's GM both had it.

God bless, been there with two sisters, my GF and her sister.

It doesn't have to be catastrophic.

Chris