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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:34:34 AM EDT
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[b]Do you really want to know?[/b]
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:36:15 AM EDT
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Quoted: [b]Do you really want to know?[/b] [stick] [b]YES![/b] [;)] |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:39:17 AM EDT
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Do these pants make my butt look big?!?
ByteTheBullet (-: |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:39:35 AM EDT
[#4]
How are you today, Hawkeye? [;D]
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:40:18 AM EDT
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Whats the question here? I'm feelin great btw. Or was it why some people cant listen to what you tell them? hu what was that [;)]
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:41:41 AM EDT
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Girl) Can't we just be friends?
Me)Ummmmm.....NO. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:47:15 AM EDT
[#7]
Quoted: How are you today, Hawkeye? [;D] [banghead] |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:51:25 AM EDT
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When people ask questions like "Did you have a good weekend?" it's not an invitation to have someone spend 5 minutes bemoan about trivial problems. After a weekend they figure you will say "Oh yea! Had a ball", or "It was ok, didn't do a thing" It's just a polite question so they can acknowledge your presence during the day, & their not looking to make you feel bad about your weekend. Just trying to be polite, & say Hi.
Of course this is not the same as if a co worker is also a close friend who really does have a genuine concern for how your doing, & wants to cheer you up from a bad weekend. I had a friend at work, & we would take turns talking the other one out of quitting when something would fall apart, or just be sounding boards for each other. It was usually done over our break time though, because management would frown on long personal conversations during work hours. So how you doing man? |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:55:15 AM EDT
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Because people are idiots. And oftentimes they don't know that they don't really eant to hear the answer to their question until after they hear it.
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Posted: 5/5/2003 5:58:11 AM EDT
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Quoted: When people ask questions like "Did you have a good weekend?" it's not an invitation to have someone spend 5 minutes bemoan about trivial problems. After a weekend they figure you will say "Oh yea! Had a ball", or "It was ok, didn't do a thing" It's just a polite question so they can acknowledge your presence during the day, & their not looking to make you feel bad about your weekend. Just trying to be polite, & say Hi. No, they want an answer. If I just repsond with HI, or Good morning, then they ask again. If someone wants to say HI, then say HI danggit. is it sucha big deal anymore for people to say what they mean, and mean what they say??? Is it too much??? |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 6:03:50 AM EDT
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"Uh oh... sounds like..." [url]http://www.vibeplanet.com/office07.wav[/url] |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 6:06:15 AM EDT
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Quoted: Quoted: When people ask questions like "Did you have a good weekend?" it's not an invitation to have someone spend 5 minutes bemoan about trivial problems. After a weekend they figure you will say "Oh yea! Had a ball", or "It was ok, didn't do a thing" It's just a polite question so they can acknowledge your presence during the day, & their not looking to make you feel bad about your weekend. Just trying to be polite, & say Hi. No, they want an answer. If I just repsond with HI, or Good morning, then they ask again. If someone wants to say HI, then say HI danggit. is it sucha big deal anymore for people to say what they mean, and mean what they say??? Is it too much??? Yes,it is too much for people to say what they mean and mean what they say. Cause if it was just easy to tell people how your weekend really was. You might not get away from that person. Cause they will tell you everything that happened in their weekend. this is why people keep it short and as positive as they can. Mona just hit them with a [stick] and have a nice cup of [coffee] . It'll be okay! |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 7:56:32 AM EDT
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Well, on the up side, it's only 3 weeks until the next FDCC shoot! (My neighbors are looking at me sorta funny when I run around in my back yard...finger OFF the trigger...pieing the corners, but they haven't asked how I am feeling) :-)
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:05:42 AM EDT
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[lolabove] No, & I doubt they will either!
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:06:08 AM EDT
[#15]
Soooo . . . how's it hangin', [b]Hawkeye[/b]?? [lol]
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:06:58 AM EDT
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Silly Hawkeye, don't you know the sheeple have become accustomed to being lied to and they like it !!
They are lied to every day by just about everyone. It's become acceptable to them and they they have come to expect a "sugar coated" response to tricky questions because to hurt someones feelings by telling them the truth is PURE EVIL in todays society. Diogenes's search continues. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:24:03 AM EDT
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It's an interesting cultural question.
"How are you" is an phrase that really means "greetings I acknowledge your presence" rather than asking for an answer to how you are. "How are you feeling" is the question that looks for an answer. I always reply with "better than most, not as good as some" or just "fine thank you". In my wife's native language the casual greeting is "where are you going/where have you been?" to which they don't answer locations but return with "how are you feeling". |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:25:03 AM EDT
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Premise: One of the Language Theories states that every conversation is just an attempt for each person to say what they wanna say, regardless of what the other person is saying (I thogh this was bullshit until I actually took the time to study the subject properly)
Co-worker #2 wanted you to say something else so he could use that as a base to say what he wanted to say on the first place (ie, talk about HIS week-end). Since you just blurted a "just ok", he didn't have the grounds to talk you about HIS experiences. Co-worker #1 probably wanted to do the same but felt that he would go to a risky road based on your answer (by definition, people want to have a pleasant time, and the posibility of you talking about the reasons for your feelings of crappyness weren't too promising...) Now, I guess no one talked you about the weather on an elevator, right? NsB |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:26:33 AM EDT
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I hope that we have all helped you, as we are all caring people who really do want to help.[rolleyes] So tell us, How was your weekend? & don't leave out any details, as I wouldn't want to miss a thing!........[sleep]
If you want someone who expect all the details, pay a therapist $60.00 to $100.00 an hour to listen to you tell them , or much cheaper just smile when asked, say little, & tell people who are closer to you like a good friend, or family member, who are more likely to really want to know, & not just trying to make small talk, after a weekend. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:46:38 AM EDT
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Quoted: Just trying to be polite, & say Hi. Then why don't they [b]just be polite and say 'Hi??'[/b] I have made it a personal policy to say only "Good Morning" or a suitable variant because I don't want to know about how a person is etc. It's a riot because I say "Good Morning" and the response is usually "Great! How are you?" I just ignore it... Scott |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:51:50 AM EDT
[#21]
* HI = greeting.
* Hello = greeting. * How was your weekend = a question asking for an answer in repsonse. * How are you this morning = a question asking for an answer in response. Why then, in the past, when I have experimented with the thoughts some of you have mentioned, and have answer the question "How are you this morning" with "Fine thanks", when I obviously wasnt, I was greeted with the reply "You dont look like everything is ok.."?????? Let me rephrase the question. Do you ask questions of someone that you do not want a truthful answer in reply? If so, WHY? Why would I want to ask a personal question of someone, such as how they are, and not expect a truthful response? Did I miss something in the past? Are we supposed to lie when asked a question? If your not concerned with how I am doing, then why ask me?? |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:53:29 AM EDT
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Quoted: Soooo . . . how's it hangin', [b]Hawkeye[/b]?? [lol] [buttkick] |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:54:15 AM EDT
[#23]
Quoted: Silly Hawkeye, don't you know the sheeple have become accustomed to being lied to and they like it !! They are lied to every day by just about everyone. It's become acceptable to them and they they have come to expect a "sugar coated" response to tricky questions because to hurt someones feelings by telling them the truth is PURE EVIL in todays society. Diogenes's search continues. You may be on to something here. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:54:37 AM EDT
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Uh-oh. Sounds like somebody's got a case of the [i]Mondays[/i].
[:)] |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:56:40 AM EDT
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Quoted: Quoted: Just trying to be polite, & say Hi. Then why don't they [b]just be polite and say 'Hi??'[/b] I have made it a personal policy to say only "Good Morning" or a suitable variant because I don't want to know about how a person is etc. It's a riot because I say "Good Morning" and the response is usually "Great! How are you?" I just ignore it... Scott [b]FINALLY!!![/b] Someone gets it! |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 8:58:37 AM EDT
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Quoted: Do these pants make my butt look big?!? ByteTheBullet (-: I heard that one coming once. I headed it off with "Take those pants off. They make your perfect, tight littla ass look about 3 axe handles wide." Ouch. You CAN'T win. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 9:06:29 AM EDT
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Quoted: It's an interesting cultural question. "How are you" is an phrase that really means "greetings I acknowledge your presence" rather than asking for an answer to how you are. "How are you feeling" is the question that looks for an answer. I always reply with "better than most, not as good as some" or just "fine thank you". In my wife's native language the casual greeting is "where are you going/where have you been?" to which they don't answer locations but return with "how are you feeling". I Korean chick I hung around with in college complained about this all the time. She said most of the Americans seemed fake to her because they always asked how she was feeling or doing and then never really wanted an answer. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 9:11:51 AM EDT
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This is my typical conversation in this situation.
Me: Good morning, how was your weekend? Them: Crappy! Me: Aw that's a shame,or that's to bad, sorry to hear it. I on the other hand had a good weekend. Better luck next time, there's always next weekend, hopefully it will go better for you[:D] as I turn to go to my desk to start work. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 9:14:57 AM EDT
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Quoted: This is my typical conversation in this situation. Me: Good morning, how was your weekend? Them: Crappy! Me: Aw that's a shame,or that's to bad, sorry to hear it. I on the other hand had a good weekend. Better luck next time, there's always next weekend, hopefully it will go better for you[:D] as I turn to go to my desk to start work. Perfectly acceptable and normal response. What I cant figure out is why some seem to be offended if the response is not an automatic WONDERFUL, regardless if it is true or not. |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 9:33:23 AM EDT
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Not trying to hijack your thread, but the one that gets me is when I say I love you to a close friend or family member, & they say "Ya, me too." If it's goes like that more than a few different times, I will usually say back.That's good! You should love yourself![:D]
I do get what your saying by the way. Now get back to work you slave!![;D] |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 9:42:19 AM EDT
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Let's see;
1) Are you really that concerned about something like this? If so, I envy you. You have everything else in the world and your life so buttoned up that the only thing you have to worry about is whether or not others care if you had a good weekend or not? Wow 2) Since you brought it up....that other guy was right, it's really just a lure so they can tell you about THEIR weekend, and brag about the chick they banged or the cool thing they did. 3) My stock response to "how are you" is "I can't complain, and nobody listens when I do anyway. 4) If it's not a lure, then its just a greating. You never say "what's up?" to anyone? Do you really give a shit what they're up to? Or what about "howdy", a version of "how do you do?", do you really give a shit how they do? |
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Posted: 5/5/2003 9:50:02 AM EDT
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I learned quickly to avoid people that dont want to share details about their private lives. I call them associates as opposed to friends. Generally when someone asks me about my weekend, I know them well enough to understand the difference between genuine concern and casual greeting. Therefore, I show them simple courtesy by letting them know the short version. If they want more, I will continue. I dont mind spending a minute talking to someone that asks a simple question.
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