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Posted: 10/7/2005 8:02:20 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 10/7/2005 8:13:08 PM EDT by Wash-Ar15]
When we got married we paid for it all. Standard american tradition is for the brides side to pay for it right? But my wife parent are'nt well offand could not afford it.  

is it still tradition/normal to pay brides side to pay for the wedding?Do you intend to pay for the wedding of your daughter? i tell ya I don't intend to pay for my daughters wedding.

I actually think it that if the bride and groom can't afford it the parent should split 50/50
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:03:08 PM EDT

My wife and I paid for it.  


Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:03:10 PM EDT
My wife and I paid for it.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:04:12 PM EDT
Holy crap!  Exact same response, 2 seconds apart.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:04:28 PM EDT
I'm still paying for it.



Eric The(Ouch)Hun
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:05:17 PM EDT
I did.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:05:23 PM EDT
My wife and I.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:05:42 PM EDT

Originally Posted By dalesimpson:
Holy crap!  Exact same response, 2 seconds apart.



GET OUT OF MY HEAD !!!!


Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:06:44 PM EDT
my inlaws paid.  My father in law offered us 5,000 dollars to not have a public reception - wish I'd taken it ;-).
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:07:13 PM EDT

Originally Posted By DK-Prof:
My wife and I paid for it.  





Me, Myself and I lol
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:09:53 PM EDT
Me, cost $35.  21 years later it is still the best 35 bucks I ever spent.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:11:15 PM EDT

Originally Posted By JosieWales:

Originally Posted By DK-Prof:
My wife and I paid for it.  





Me, Myself and I lol



When my sister-in law got married, inlaws gave her a $20,000.00 wedding and $20,000.00
for a house down payment.

Needless to say that was the last time we talked.
When they send Christmas presents we refuse delivery--Fuckem with a big black prison dick lol
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:11:37 PM EDT

Originally Posted By Wash-Ar15:
When we got married we paid for it all. Standard american tradition is for the bride to pay for it right. But my wife parent are'nt well offand could not afford it.  



Really?

That's good to hear.....
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:12:17 PM EDT

Originally Posted By PanzerOfDoom:
Me, cost $35.  21 years later it is still the best 35 bucks I ever spent.



Dude,  you pulled all the stops and splurged
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:13:58 PM EDT
I have a feeling that whenever I get married, my future husband and I will be paying for our wedding.  My father has always talked about paying for my wedding but we just started talking after almost 2 years of silence...so I doubt he would pay.  As for my mother, I'd like to think she would help...but I'm not so sure.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:37:33 PM EDT

Originally Posted By JosieWales:

Originally Posted By PanzerOfDoom:
Me, cost $35.  21 years later it is still the best 35 bucks I ever spent.



Dude,  you pulled all the stops and splurged


'Aint about the money spent on the wedding, it's about the work required to make a marriage work for 21+ years.  Preacher said the same thing to my wife and I as he did to those who spent 20 grand. Shit I was an E-4, $35 bucks was big money for me in 1984.

Seems like people focus on BS that means nothing ie. big wedding and lose track of what important, ie. being married.  If I had it all to do again I would not change a thing.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:39:07 PM EDT
I paid for my own wedding, We didn't want any help from the parents
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:40:35 PM EDT
I did.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:42:12 PM EDT
My ex-FIL.

Next time around, it will be so small and simple I'll be able to pay for it with whatever cash I happen to have in my wallet at the time. I'll never spend money like that again, and our little party was SMALL.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:43:03 PM EDT
I paid for mine. We had it at my parents house. There were seven people there including the Justice of the Peace. Probably cost me $40 tops. We've been married over 27 years now.

I have seen those big 20-30,000 weddings. The marriage rarely out lasts the payment plan.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:45:23 PM EDT
Stealths mom and dad did.. It was so nice of them!!
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:47:25 PM EDT
My wife and I did the magistrate(JP) deal. My parents threw a "reception" party for us about a month later. Cost was around $3000.00(the bar bill was over $900 )

My mother , to this day, still claims she never got to eat anything at the party. Of course she almost had to be carried out the door. Poor woman can't drink on an empty stomach.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 8:58:29 PM EDT
My wife and I.  Her parents were too cheap to pay.  I was really pissed when they payed for her older sisters wedding a year after ours.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 9:00:02 PM EDT
My wife's family.  We had the ceremony and reception at their house.  About two dozen people, total.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 9:00:20 PM EDT
My wife and I paid for our own wedding.  Of course we didn't invite anybody, so I don't think anybody else should have paid for it.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 9:02:15 PM EDT

Originally Posted By arowneragain:

Originally Posted By Wash-Ar15:
When we got married we paid for it all. Standard american tradition is for the bride to pay for it right. But my wife parent are'nt well offand could not afford it.  



Really?

That's good to hear.....




Sorry to piss in your cornflakes, but the groom gets to suck up the bill for the honeymoon.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 9:08:24 PM EDT
My wife and I paid for it....Vegas with some close friends/family
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 9:19:14 PM EDT

Originally Posted By PanzerOfDoom:
Me, cost $35.  21 years later it is still the best 35 bucks I ever spent.

My first one cost that.  I paid for  it.  Second one cost about 5 grand.  Trip to Jamaica.  She paid for it.  She's paying for the divorce too.
Link Posted: 10/7/2005 9:24:28 PM EDT
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 4:22:06 AM EDT
We did. IMHO, I don't feel that it was up to the parents to spend for our happiness. It was our day and I always thought of a wedding that had to be materialistic there was something wrong. I always believed that what was important is the start of two people being together for rest of their lives in bliss. I would rather spend on a wonderful honey moon and have memories to last a lifetime.
Perhaps I'm an old romantic but I don't believe it takes money to make a statement if you feel something from the heart, all it takes is your voice. Just my opinion
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 4:24:16 AM EDT
We paid for our own wedding. That way no one could say shit about how it should be. I would have been happy to do the whole J.P. thing, but, you know how women are!
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 4:24:54 AM EDT
I paid the whole $25. myself.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 4:26:26 AM EDT
I paid for my wedding. In SOOOO many ways.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 4:40:07 AM EDT
We paid for our wedding.  I'm sure not paying $20k+ for each of our girls to get married.  Ours cost about $1k.  Half of that was to take everyone to Outback.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 5:17:49 AM EDT
Did most all of it ourselves.Didn't want to ask for help.We were saving $$$ anyway.Still are.Just our mindset.
My sister bought me a Sears suit as a wedding gift (I didn't have one) Maybe $99.Wife bought a white gown and added all the lace,beadwork,etc herself.Maybe $150.$20 gold bands.Other brothers/sisters sprung for liquor,flowers,etc
Got married at a little (and I mean LITTLE),200+ year old church,overlooking the river/marsh.Immediate family only-place was so small,wouldn't have held many more anyway.Then had our reception at a nearby county park,at a pavilion on a hill overllooking the river.Had our families do the cooking-sort of like a big pot luck.Had maybe 150 folks there,and everyone had a good time,even when a storm took out the power towards the end.Heck,it was down a 3/4 mile dirt road.A half dozen trees fell across it.Good thing some of my family/guests had chainsaws with them.Heehee.
Coming up and 20 years and still going good.Had the kids out crabbing Friday evening right in front of the church.
A friend (best man) got married a few weeks before at a cathedrial/country club.Bride's folks probably dropped 30 grand.Dress was 10!K alone! He said he had more fun at ours!

IT ain't about the ceremony/reception.Dave
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 5:29:00 AM EDT
What shocks me is the people that spend thousands upon thousands on a wedding.  My uncle married a chinese chick. It turned out it was chinese custom to for the groom to pay for the wedding.  Then it turned out to be chinese custom to have a big wedding.  My uncle blew 40k in savings on his wedding.  I was 13 at the time and was not invited, yet all the neices and newphews on the communist side were.  Fuck him.

I just never saw the point in spending thousands on a wedding.  I belive in spending some dough on a honey moon but not the wedding.  The wedding is about 2 people.  It does not matter how nice the limos are, or how expensive a meal at the reception is.  I wouldn't marry a chick that wanted a big wedding.  It means she has no idea what a dollor is worth.  I make decent money know.  But i used to have to bus my as for 12 hours to make 100 bucks.  Now i make that much in an hour sometimes, but i never forget how hard i used to have to work to make it.

Matt
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 5:30:50 AM EDT
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 5:48:01 AM EDT
My in laws paid.  It was important to my wife and thus to them that it be a big to do.  I really didn't care, I would have preferred a smaller more casual reception but as my wife knew exactly what she wanted I compromised and let her have at it.   They'd been planning and saving for that day forever, they were happy.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 5:55:01 AM EDT

Originally Posted By VoodooChile:
My wife and I paid for it....Vegas with some close friends/family



Same thing here.  I think with airlines, hotel and everything it was about $1k.   Luckily, I won 1k the next day waiting on my Heinekin at Harrah's.  
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 5:58:10 AM EDT
My wife and I paid for our wedding---small, church wedding.  My sister and my wife's mom helped out a little.  Monetary wedding gifts paid for our honeymoon in Key Largo.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 6:10:12 AM EDT
I did, the divorce too.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 6:16:12 AM EDT
I paid for my wedding myself.  I made my wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses, I made the cake and most of the food served at the reception.  My husband paid for the tuxes and for the beer/wine.

My parents have never given me a dime for anything.

When my kids get married - I'll be here [within reason] for them regardless.  I do not want them to have the stress I did - however life isn't going to be a bed of roses for them either.

Patty
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 6:16:47 AM EDT
We won most of it by attending bridal shows, her dad paid for some of the rest and my dad bought the booze for the reception.
We even got the honeymoon free, two nights in a local haunted hotel. Still married 19 years last week.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 6:19:22 AM EDT
If you marry a women whoe insists on a $30,000 dollar wedding, no matter who pays for it, you're gonna have trouble down the road.
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 6:19:52 AM EDT
I did. $40 dollars at the Justice of the Peace in Vegas.

Best $40 bucks I ever spent. She is a keeper. Going on
15 years.

Link Posted: 10/8/2005 6:25:52 AM EDT
My wife and I paid for it.  
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 6:47:33 AM EDT
What's a wedding?
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 7:27:12 AM EDT
Her parents paid for the wedding... but I paid for the honeymoon (two weeks in Jamaica).
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 7:35:14 AM EDT
Ex-father in law paid about $30,000. I felt sorry for him, they had 10 children, 7 of them girls.  
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 8:03:51 AM EDT

Originally Posted By Wash-Ar15:
Standard american tradition is for the brides side to pay for it right?



I think this was a tradition/practice loooong before there ever even was an America
Link Posted: 10/8/2005 8:47:48 AM EDT
We paid for our own. It cost around 3K for EVERYTHING to include the reception, the dress, the ring, [about 150 bucks for her ring] preacher, we paid CASH for everything, it is amazing how handing over CASH makes one tighter with money. The honeymoon cost us around 1K, and we drove to Fla, and went deep sea fishing everyday for almost a week.

Large weddings are only to stoke the brides ego, and parents are idiots to spend their retirement funds on a brat. They should give a set amount and tell them "you want more, it's your problem, spend your own money.
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