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Posted: 1/19/2015 5:41:20 PM EST
your wife/husband? Our daughter will be 21 in the spring of 2016 (my wife turns 40 I month before our daughter so it'll be like celebrating both birthdays) and she wants her mom and I to go out to a club with her. We saw a nice looking club in downtown San Diego the day before yesterday. We saw it by accident, we weren't really looking for it but it was a club that a friend had recommended and my daughter had already told my wife that she wanted us to go with her there next year. When she saw the outside of it in person she got even more excited and said she definitely wants to do it next year.

I'm flattered that she would rather go with her mom and I than with some friends. She also mentioned that her boyfriend can go with us next year if they're still together. What would you folks rather do?
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:42:32 PM EST
I went out with my dad and just a few friends.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:42:54 PM EST
We have rules round here
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:43:03 PM EST
I went to a titty bar with my dad on my 21st.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:43:52 PM EST
Good for her.

There is no way in hell I would have tagged along with my girlfriend's parents on her 21st birthday. Or my parents on mine.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:44:49 PM EST
I had been drinking and playing darts on dad's team for a year and half before I turned 21. My birthday made it easy to scratch and change the date on my DL.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:46:40 PM EST
[Last Edit: 1/19/2015 5:49:34 PM EST by focus8]
Pics of wife and daughter?
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:46:48 PM EST
I walked to the bars, had a birthday shot, walked back to my apartment and continued studying for finals.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:47:00 PM EST
If I drank today like I did on my 21st birthday I would die of some issue. Microwaved burboun shots, cement mixers, prairie fires, god that shit was awful that people bought.

I also railed my girlfriend like I was leaving for the peace corps for 2 years. How I managed to do that I have no clue after all that alcohol. I could never repeat that today without a handful of cialis and blow.

What this offers as an answer, I have no clue.

However, keeping your daughter safe and out of a car on her 21st has to be a good option, plus she enjoys spending time with mom and dad so you have that as well. I say celebrate with her.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:50:51 PM EST
[Last Edit: 1/19/2015 5:52:55 PM EST by tc2k11]
She should go out with her female friends, provided they can be trusted to keep her safe.

If she's miserable the next day, it'll be a lesson well-learned, as some lessons are best learned through personal mistakes.

ETA: I posted before reading past the title... If she prefers to go out with you and mom, do that.

«tc2k11»
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:52:51 PM EST
She is an adult, its her decision. If she asks you and your wife to go with, do it.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:53:30 PM EST
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Originally Posted By splitbolt:
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I have a ltitle girl but if I had a boy that is something I would like to do.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:54:04 PM EST
I spent my 21st on Bourbon St.....with my mom. None of my friends had any money and I wanted to go. So I called my mom and asked if she wanted to go. We went to Memphis, New Orleans, Dallas, St. Louis and then home to Ohio.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:54:22 PM EST
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Pics of wife and daughter?


I think someone here asked my husband for pics of her and she said no so he didn't post them.


Originally Posted By watchwatch:
We have rules round here





This is me.







Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:54:48 PM EST
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yeah? what rule would that be?
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:55:01 PM EST
Most kids that go out drinking at 21 have been out drinking enough times before that.

That said, mine landed on the local bars golf tournament day, and I was on the same team as my dad.

Talk about a drunken birthday.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:56:05 PM EST
Originally Posted By LinggrrLonggrr:
your wife/husband? Our daughter will be 21 in the spring of 2016 (my wife turns 40 I month before our daughter so it'll be like celebrating both birthdays) and she wants her mom and I to go out to a club with her. We saw a nice looking club in downtown San Diego the day before yesterday. We saw it by accident, we weren't really looking for it but it was a club that a friend had recommended and my daughter had already told my wife that she wanted us to go with her there next year. When she saw the outside of it in person she got even more excited and said she definitely wants to do it next year.

I'm flattered that she would rather go with her mom and I than with some friends. She also mentioned that her boyfriend can go with us next year if they're still together. What would you folks rather do?
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hopefully by that point she'll be grown up enough to not get blasted. So it won't matter.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:58:19 PM EST
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Didn't expect them to actually get posted



Well, kinda
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:58:30 PM EST
good for her being family aware. I like the cut of her jib.


My own 21st was just to be a quiet night out for a couple drinks, I didn't even tell my college friends it was my birthday. It was just a night out until we got to a bar on Syracuse's Armory Square and the bar tender checked our ID's and said "happy birthday, first one's on the house" . I got punched by one of my friends, called an asshole for not fessing up and never bought another beer that night.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 5:59:00 PM EST
Whichever she feels more comfortable with. Make sure that she has money for a cab.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:00:43 PM EST
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Goes out with mom and dad on 21st birthday.
Dad gives her money for a cab.


«tc2k11»
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:03:02 PM EST
Hopefully she wouldn't go drink anywhere.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:04:06 PM EST
I was raised up drinking a sip or a beer since 4 years old and would go to the bar with my dad at 16 so when our daughter was 14 it was no big deal for her to buy me a beer in the Bahamas. at 17 she told me I could not go with her and her friends to DMB, her friends got wind of it and ditched her. she apologized and the next year she bought my ticket for DMB. having said that it is a good daughter that wants to celebrate her 21st with her parents
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:05:15 PM EST
My mom worked at a small local bar when I was 21, we had my party there, it was a shitload of drunks who had known me for many years and a I caught a professional booster eating spinach dip out of the bowl with his bare hand. I didn't tell anyone because I hate spinach dip.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:08:11 PM EST
If my daughter had some hot friends I'd rather go out to the club with them.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:08:29 PM EST
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The club is about 6-7 blocks from the hotel where we usually stay and there's a shitload of pedicabs riding around.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:09:15 PM EST
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I think someone here asked my husband for pics of her and she said no so he didn't post them.







This is me.
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Originally Posted By GaslampLJShores:
Originally Posted By focus8:
Pics of wife and daughter?


I think someone here asked my husband for pics of her and she said no so he didn't post them.


Originally Posted By watchwatch:
We have rules round here





This is me.
http://i.imgur.com/y3ZoDWI.jpg

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rules followed!!
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:15:38 PM EST
I would hope to have raised her well enough that she would choose not to drink at all.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:17:31 PM EST
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Drinking is good clean fun.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:24:20 PM EST
You haven't had "quality time" until you've had 3 generations of your family drinking in the same French Quarter bar

Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:24:58 PM EST
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Nothing against non drinkers but to say this makes it appear you are saying the OP raised his daughter poorly.
BTW I am taking mine to Vegas for her 21st next summer.
Do I need to go to some kind of parenting classes ?

Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:26:55 PM EST
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Nothing against non drinkers but to say this makes it appear you are saying the OP raised his daughter poorly.
BTW I am taking mine to Vegas for her 21st next summer.
Do I need to go to some kind of parenting classes ?

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Originally Posted By Nick710:
I would hope to have raised her well enough that she would choose not to drink at all.



Nothing against non drinkers but to say this makes it appear you are saying the OP raised his daughter poorly.
BTW I am taking mine to Vegas for her 21st next summer.
Do I need to go to some kind of parenting classes ?


Some people avoid alcohol to prevent being in a situation that could lead to causing harm. Alcohol messes with your head, and kids make bad decisions sometimes. I was raised to not fool around with alcohol, and that's how my kids will be raised. It's just something that isn't worth the risk.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:31:03 PM EST
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Some people avoid alcohol to prevent being in a situation that could lead to causing harm. Alcohol messes with your head, and kids make bad decisions sometimes. I was raised to not fool around with alcohol, and that's how my kids will be raised. It's just something that isn't worth the risk.
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Originally Posted By Nailcrusher:
Originally Posted By Nick710:
I would hope to have raised her well enough that she would choose not to drink at all.



Nothing against non drinkers but to say this makes it appear you are saying the OP raised his daughter poorly.
BTW I am taking mine to Vegas for her 21st next summer.
Do I need to go to some kind of parenting classes ?


Some people avoid alcohol to prevent being in a situation that could lead to causing harm. Alcohol messes with your head, and kids make bad decisions sometimes. I was raised to not fool around with alcohol, and that's how my kids will be raised. It's just something that isn't worth the risk.

The "risk" is avoidable with even the slightest amount of planning and self-control.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:31:43 PM EST
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Some people avoid alcohol to prevent being in a situation that could lead to causing harm. Alcohol messes with your head, and kids make bad decisions sometimes. I was raised to not fool around with alcohol, and that's how my kids will be raised. It's just something that isn't worth the risk.
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Alcohol is pretty much responsible for human civilization and American freedom, some risks are worth it and sometimes alcohol helps people take those risks.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:35:37 PM EST
I. Uh. Huh. Don't even remember what I did for my 21st. Good for her if she wants to go out with you.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:37:23 PM EST
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Originally Posted By pointman12:

Some people avoid alcohol to prevent being in a situation that could lead to causing harm. Alcohol messes with your head, and kids make bad decisions sometimes. I was raised to not fool around with alcohol, and that's how my kids will be raised. It's just something that isn't worth the risk.
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Originally Posted By Nailcrusher:
Originally Posted By Nick710:
I would hope to have raised her well enough that she would choose not to drink at all.



Nothing against non drinkers but to say this makes it appear you are saying the OP raised his daughter poorly.
BTW I am taking mine to Vegas for her 21st next summer.
Do I need to go to some kind of parenting classes ?


Some people avoid alcohol to prevent being in a situation that could lead to causing harm. Alcohol messes with your head, and kids make bad decisions sometimes. I was raised to not fool around with alcohol, and that's how my kids will be raised. It's just something that isn't worth the risk.


I don't have a problem with someone raising their kids not to drink and not drinking themselves. I agree that alcohol can cause certain people problems. That dosent make it right to insinuate that people who drink or let their kids drink raised them wrong and are making bad decisions in life.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:38:02 PM EST
I went out with relatives as my birthday falls during the annual big family vacation.

My friends have never gotten me so drunk.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:39:56 PM EST
If that's her birthday wish, I see no problem with it.

I went out with a few friends at midnight when I turned 21, had a few, went to class the next morning, and then drove home after lunch and pops paid for my ccw.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 6:52:12 PM EST
If that's what she wants, I say go with her.

When I turned 21, I had dinner with my folks and brothers then went out with my buds and GF after.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 7:26:11 PM EST
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As said above, if that's what she wants- so be it.

My family always had wine for Christmas and Thanksgiving, so my daughter drank alcohol most of her life. Now at 26 she hardly drinks at all.
21 is just an arbitrary number.

I am more impressed she wants to hang with you guys. Well done! That there is awesome. Party on, Dudes!
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 7:32:58 PM EST
I don't know about the club thing. But a fine restaurant with a good bar would be a valid option.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 7:36:36 PM EST
I have 2 daughters ages 18 & 20. They have been drinking since age 15 or 16. Now they are university students, older one in law program. Just let her get drunk with her friends
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 9:47:50 PM EST
Only thing I ever got from alcohol is the best son (and grandson) a person could dream to have. Seriously, if you raise your kid right then alcohol is no big deal. If you don't raise your kid right, then sobriety wont save them.

My son is grossed out by beer. And his first beer will be very dark, very skunky, and very warm.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 10:46:49 PM EST
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Originally Posted By RogerBall:
As said above, if that's what she wants- so be it.

My family always had wine for Christmas and Thanksgiving, so my daughter drank alcohol most of her life. Now at 26 she hardly drinks at all.
21 is just an arbitrary number.

I am more impressed she wants to hang with you guys. Well done! That there is awesome. Party on, Dudes!
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That floored me that she would rather hang out with us than her friends.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 10:48:32 PM EST
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I have 2 daughters ages 18 & 20. They have been drinking since age 15 or 16. Now they are university students, older one in law program. Just let her get drunk with her friends
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If that's what she would've wanted, both my wife and I would've been totally fine with it. She still has time to change her mind, it's over a year from now.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 10:57:31 PM EST
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I took both our sons to an Irish pub on their 21st birthdays. Murphy's Irish Stout and Bushmills 21 yo Single Malt. It was great both times.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 11:02:34 PM EST
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This, plus my mom. We ended up in the strip club, but mom was passed out in the car for that portion of the night.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 11:03:28 PM EST
I spent my 21st 1,145 miles from home in a BWW with a guy I had only met that day. We were there for training. My friends made up for it when I got back to town.

If your daughter wants you to go with her I'd do it. Sounds like you guys have a great relationship and that's awesome!
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 11:05:44 PM EST
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Originally Posted By Poop3rscoop3r:
I spent my 21st 1,145 miles from home in a BWW with a guy I had only met that day. We were there for training. My friends made up for it when I got back to town.

If your daughter wants you to go with her I'd do it. Sounds like you guys have a great relationship and that's awesome!
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You spend your 21st in a Big White Woman with a guy you met that night? Sounds like a blast.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 11:12:17 PM EST
I was working when I 'officially' turned 21. However, I went on vacation a week or 2 after and bought a bit of booze.
Link Posted: 1/19/2015 11:17:35 PM EST
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Congrats, you're that guy.

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