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Posted: 8/13/2011 4:53:52 PM EDT

Got an invite to my cousin's wedding in the mail recently & am curious what everybodies generic or universal wedding gift to the couple is. My cousin & I are not very close so I do not plan on giving too much. I am sure the universal gift is money, but how much for people you are not close to? If anyone has any different ideas I'd like to hear them.

Posted: 8/13/2011 4:55:16 PM EDT

[#1]

I gave a couple a Target gift card last month

Posted: 8/13/2011 4:57:19 PM EDT

[#2]

Cookware.

Posted: 8/13/2011 4:58:27 PM EDT

[#3]

ammo

Posted: 8/13/2011 4:59:03 PM EDT

[#4]

They are probably registered somewhere. Find out where and your job is done, except for coughing up the cash.

Posted: 8/13/2011 4:59:42 PM EDT

[#5]

Cash.

Seriously, I used to not give cash because I thought it was impersonal. Then I got married myself.

Cash money FTW.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:01:19 PM EDT

[#6]

cash

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:01:39 PM EDT

[#7]

When my wife and I got married, money was greatly appreciated, we were absolutely broke and had a baby on the way already.

$25 is the minimum I would consider giving, $50 was pretty standard for people we weren't real close to. But then our actual wedding was in the courthouse with only immediate family and my best friend attending, and our reception dinner was the whole extended family in a VFW hall with pulled pork, salad, and pasta for dinner. Poor folks have poor ways, I suppose. Nobody in our family is rich, a simple celebration with modest gifts was more than enough. Our marriage has been bliss.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:03:08 PM EDT

[#8]

Quoted:

Cash.

Seriously, I used to not give cash because I thought it was impersonal. Then I got married myself.

Cash money FTW.

This. Unless I'm involved enough to communicate regularly and know about something they need or would like to do. I waited until after my brother's wedding and he was doing home repairs, small stuff here and there. Got them a multi, lithium-ion, cordless power tool kit.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:03:14 PM EDT

[#9]

I've done this for a few friends. Go out with them before the wedding, somewhere scenic, and take a nice pic of them with a good digital camera. Have it blown up big, and get a nice silver ink pen. Put it on a table and have all the guests sign at the reception.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:04:00 PM EDT

[#10]

P{lace setting of china of their registry.

Actually the same as cash if they want to return it.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:04:08 PM EDT

[#11]

$50.00 cash

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:04:28 PM EDT

[#12]

Quoted:

When my wife and I got married, money was greatly appreciated, we were absolutely broke and had a baby on the way already.

$25 is the minimum I would consider giving, $50 was pretty standard for people we weren't real close to. But then our actual wedding was in the courthouse with only immediate family and my best friend attending, and our reception dinner was the whole extended family in a VFW hall with pulled pork, salad, and pasta for dinner. Poor folks have poor ways, I suppose. Nobody in our family is rich, a simple celebration with modest gifts was more than enough. Our marriage has been bliss.

I'd give cash, but consider this, the cost per plate at most weddings is going to be in excess of $25. I usually give $100 per person that I bring, so $300 if my wife and daughter attend.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:05:26 PM EDT

[#13]

Whatever the WIFE buys that I pay for and she puts OUR name on.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:05:33 PM EDT

[#14]

Gift card

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:08:13 PM EDT

[#15]

Sex Toys....

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:08:28 PM EDT

[#16]

Ammo, guarnatee they'll never forget your gift

Serious note though, find where they're registered, send your sammich making unit there, profit.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:09:47 PM EDT

[#17]

No kidding: A long time ago I knew a 300-pound+ guy who was marrying an 80-pound girl. One of the bride's friends gave the bride a snorkle as a gag gift––"You're gonna need this to breath when that fat-ass piles on top of you."

P.S.

He was rich and she was poor.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:12:41 PM EDT

[#18]

Quoted:

Quoted:
When my wife and I got married, money was greatly appreciated, we were absolutely broke and had a baby on the way already.

$25 is the minimum I would consider giving, $50 was pretty standard for people we weren't real close to. But then our actual wedding was in the courthouse with only immediate family and my best friend attending, and our reception dinner was the whole extended family in a VFW hall with pulled pork, salad, and pasta for dinner. Poor folks have poor ways, I suppose. Nobody in our family is rich, a simple celebration with modest gifts was more than enough. Our marriage has been bliss.

I'd give cash, but consider this, the cost per plate at most weddings is going to be in excess of $25. I usually give $100 per person that I bring, so $300 if my wife and daughter attend.

Obviously, I would not go to a reception with prime rib and lobster dinners and give $25. For our reception, a very very simple one, $25 was plenty. $250 of food fed 40 people with more than enough left over. The hall cost us $50 to rent.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:12:55 PM EDT

[#19]

As a newly wed just two months ago, we received, two sets of cutting knives, 3 sets of plates and glasses, 4 folding chairs, at least 20 towels, at least 15 picture frames and of course money and gift cards.

Now do I need two sets of cutting knives??? no, 3 sets of plates and glasses when we have a ton already.. no. 4 folding chairs when we have two already? ehh I guess we will use them. We already have a ton of towels, too many picture frames to hang up.

As a person who just got married i would rather have gotten money. I know I know, its the thought that counts when they buy us stuff. But, with the money, we can use it to buy stuff we don't have.

We also did the target and kohls wedding registry... and only got about 6 out of 40 items. Those were items we needed / wanted.

My advice, money or gift card or something from their registry.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:17:18 PM EDT

[#20]

My vote is for cash.

Been there, done that. Money is wonderful unless you are 'rich'.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:18:36 PM EDT

[#21]

Rabbit and a fleshlight.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:19:13 PM EDT

[#22]

Quoted:
Got an invite to my cousin's wedding in the mail recently & am curious what everybodies generic or universal wedding gift to the couple is. My cousin & I are not very close so I do not plan on giving too much. I am sure the universal gift is money, but how much for people you are not close to? If anyone has any different ideas I'd like to hear them.

A bottle of hard liquor; 2 shot glasses; a pack of condoms and two cards to a divorce lawyer

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:20:23 PM EDT

[#23]

Pre-nup papers and eject photos?

Cash is King.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:20:56 PM EDT

[#24]

Cash, if you are going to the reception, which it sounds like you are, check the venue where they are having it. The nicer the place, the more you should give. Enough to cover your plate at least.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:21:10 PM EDT

[#25]

Times are hard. 10 bucks and a bag of chips.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:21:38 PM EDT

[#26]

Cookware. Gave my best friends a panini maker and some cash when they got married last year.

They use the damn thing all the time.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:27:32 PM EDT

[#27]

Quoted:
Cookware.

A set of high-value cookware is a very good gift, but it might be a while before it's appreciated. Someone who's cooked very little won't know how awesome good cookware is.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:33:50 PM EDT

[#28]

cash

when I got married that is what the mostly got.

We did register for some stuff and got a few items but most people gave us cash or checks

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:35:08 PM EDT

[#29]

Quoted:
Sex Toys....

If you know them well, yhis is a gteat idea... Put together a nice little package with a copy of "Kama Sutra",
some oils, a can of honey dust (HIGHLY RECOMMENDED), and a bottle of Petron...!!

They'll never forget their honeymoon..!!

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:36:06 PM EDT

[#30]

Quoted:
I gave a couple a Target gift card last month

GIFT CARD

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:36:36 PM EDT

[#31]

The number to a good divorce attorney.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:36:36 PM EDT

[#32]

Cash. I would imagine that for most younger newlyweds it's not taken as impersonal, it is appreciated.
Older couples could go either way.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:37:27 PM EDT

[#33]

A nice letter opener, for the bills...

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:40:49 PM EDT

[#34]

Cash, or something off of their gift registry. Most couples will go and create a registry at a store or two.... Bed Bath & Beyond, and Target seem to be the popular ones anymore. I haven't seen many people make a registry for china.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:42:02 PM EDT

[#35]

Cash

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:43:54 PM EDT

[#36]

Gift Card or Cash

Or when people asked me what I wanted that is not on my registry I told them Zombie Protection Gear... Got weird looks.

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:49:00 PM EDT

[#37]

Condolences

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:49:54 PM EDT

[#38]

$1000 for invites like my boss's daughter or the neighbor's kid. $2500 for close friends and relatives

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:50:01 PM EDT

[#39]

200 in cash most of the time

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:52:58 PM EDT

[#40]

My first marriage was an elopement, so no gifts, no money, no nuffin... Second marriage was well, a second marriage, so I got nuffin again.

I think the whole thing is over-rated anyway.

But give em enough to cover the cost of your meal & a little extra...

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:54:23 PM EDT

[#41]

$100 gift card from any major retail store (Target, Sears, JCP).

Posted: 8/13/2011 5:55:56 PM EDT

[#42]

$87.00

Posted: 8/13/2011 6:00:03 PM EDT

[#43]

I have given the same thing for years –– a good pressure cooker, a Vita Mix, and The Joy of Cooking.

Posted: 8/13/2011 6:03:12 PM EDT

[#44]

Retainer downpayment at the local lawyers office.

Posted: 8/13/2011 6:04:27 PM EDT

[#45]

100 cash for distant friends. 200 for friends. and 500 for family

I am not married but i was engaged and i hoped for cash to help with the wedding costs as i was paying for it on my own.

Posted: 8/13/2011 6:06:45 PM EDT

[#46]

getting married next month

Even though we have a registry, we have let everyone know we will have a wishing well (cash donation box) at the wedding

Honestly hope everyone that does give us something, brings cash or a card as I would rather have some money to help cover the cost of the wedding and our honeymoon

Posted: 8/13/2011 6:06:48 PM EDT

[#47]

Figured cash would be high on the list. Considering we do not talk or see each other very often at all & we both live in the same small town of 15K it won't be a whole lot, compared to what I see some of you posting in here. Call me cheap or inconsiderate, but I really think the only reason I got an invite is to generate more gifts or funds for their wedding haul.

BTW if I ever get married can I send some of you an invite.