I am a younger version of my dad. Ive always known that. I am him, just slightly less hateful. Im okay with that mostly, he has a lot of good qualities.
Except.
He can get pretty billigerant and racist at times without realizing it. Its not like he has room to be racist. We are native american, irish, italian, and spanish with the last name of a migrant farmworker and dark skin. Case in point:
This weekend we went to visit my grandpa. As we left mcdonalds serveral german Mennonite girls in flowery dresses walked in. His door is still open and he blurts out "look at all those goddamn nuns, a bushel basket full of 'em" i tell him they arent nuns "oh, those fucking mormons like james, huh?" (I lived in utah and his close friend james is mormon). I never could get it through to him that mormons, Mennonites, amish, and nuns were completely different things. We live in a rural area. Mennonites are far from rare. In his mind all of those 4 groups or people rode in horse drawn buggies, made their own clothes, had lavish temples for worship, and the men always worked on farms.
2 months ago his brother got divorced and came out as gay. When he told me, my response was "yeah im not really surprised, but its none of my business". And his response everytime i said that i hope he is happy or its none of my concern: "no, you dont understand, he's a gay bastard" "he's gayer than hell" or "he has gay sex with other homos".
I would probably get banned if i repeated some of the things he says about the migrant latino or african workers that are common here.
My wife says that i say similiar things sometimes and dont realize it. Im scared to be that guy.
Anyone else take after their parents terrible qualities?