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Posted: 6/15/2009 12:48:11 PM EST
What better to walk home to after a hard day of work than a note on the computer reading "Next time, delete the history"

Some backstory: I have a live-in GF, very nice girl, introduced her to shootign and got her hooked (even lurks here on arfcom, but not in GD so I'm unconcerned), we've been seeing each other for 3+ years. We both work, and sometimes our schedules don't allow 'extracirricular' activities every day. Such is life. Most days I leave for work early in the morning before her, so she's asleep when I leave, and has several hours to herself before her shift. She's part-time, so I'm almost always home before her in the afternoon.

So yesterday is a decent enough day for the weekend, we went out for a night on the town, saw a show and ate at a nice pub for dinner. We're having a good time, I'm feelin' frisky, but she is dead tired. Out like a light. "Hmm well ok babe, why don't you lay down?" She passes out on the bed. So now what do I do? "Lets check the interweb to kill some time" I find a hilarious site whose content is, how shall we saw, NSFW. Think 'do the carpets match the curtains?: the game' As the night goes on my mind starts to wander, so I start perusing the seedy underbelly of the internet. It get's late and I go to sleep.

This morning, things are normal as can be. Get up, GF is still asleep, go to work. I come home, GF is apparently working a bit later than usual. OK, no problem. I and go to use the computer & relax a bit, check GD for some shits& giggles.
" WTF is this?"
I discover the aforementioned note. Beneath it, she has opened up all the sites I peeped last night in the web browser. In an attempt to shame me? I'm not quite sure.

The kicker here for me is, I know she looks at internet porn too. We're both young, and have normal urges, so I don't even worry about it. If i get home from work, and find some naughty websites in the internet history, I just chuckle to myself (plus it usually means she's feeling into it, so bonus for me ). It's never looking at any weird shit (her or me) so it's not like I'm checking out donkey rape bukakke porn or something utterly vile, we're still in love and respect each other, so what's the harm?

She'll be home soon, and probably won't make dinner tonight
So, I wonder, how should I handle this situation when she gets back? Ignore it? call her on a double-standard? I try not to be confrontational about shit like this. But she felt the need to call me out on this instance instead of letting it slide, like I would have were the situations reversed.

What say ye?
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:49:38 PM EST
Eject?
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:50:21 PM EST
Maybe she's fine with it but does not want to see what you are looking at. If not that " call her on a double-standard".
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:51:24 PM EST
Stop.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:51:52 PM EST
confront her about it and tell her what you told us.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:04 PM EST
[Last Edit: 6/15/2009 12:52:41 PM EST by larkinmusic]
Tell her if she loses few lb's, you won't look at the porn anymore. That should do the trick.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:22 PM EST
Find some donkey rape bukakke porn and just leave the pages up before she gets home, the fun will ensue.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:39 PM EST
Originally Posted By Eazy_E:
Eject?


He already did, that's the problem.

Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:44 PM EST
so she doesn't really care if you look as porn, she just doesn't want to know about it. I vote keep her and go buy a porn and act it out with her.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:47 PM EST
Tell her those virtual ladies can't hold a candle to her?





dibs, guins & ammo....
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:50 PM EST
Originally Posted By LoganSackett:
Stop.


Screw that.

Find someone who isn't so fucking insecure about themselves.

Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:51 PM EST
Seems like a non issue.

Just forget about it and try to get some pie for dessert.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:54 PM EST
what would tom Lykis do? Ditch that bitch
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:52:58 PM EST
I didn't know there was porno on the internet.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:01 PM EST
Stop looking.

Call her hypocrisy.

Fuck like animals.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:12 PM EST
Watch it with her!
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:18 PM EST

Originally Posted By LoganSackett:
Stop.

Retarded solutions aren't helpful.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:22 PM EST
Originally Posted By The_Reaper:
Originally Posted By LoganSackett:
Stop.


Screw that.

Find someone who isn't so fucking insecure about themselves.



Seriously though.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:32 PM EST
Talk to her, communication is key.

(nothing wrong with pron btw)
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:43 PM EST
There are thousands of divorces in America because of pornography..it is an addiction that is hurting men and their families.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:48 PM EST
I need pics of the g/f to decide.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:53:54 PM EST
I would actually be a little pissed that she does it "secretly" and then calls you out on it when finding yours.

I would leave her a note that says "Sorry I'm just trying to keep up with your porn surfing"
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:54:02 PM EST
Leave raunchy porn playing on the computer for when she gets home from work When questioned, just go "oops, guess I forgot to close that..." It's better if you do it every single day you don't get laid.

I'm the passive aggressive sort sometimes...
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:54:15 PM EST
ignore it.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:54:31 PM EST
Do like I do and set up a different browser as your "surfing" media. I knew firefox was good for something......
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:54:35 PM EST
I wanna know about this "donkey rape bukakke porn"
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:54:42 PM EST
Marry her.

This sounds like just the girl to spend the rest of your life with.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:55:07 PM EST
Tell her you're going blind.....................
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:55:20 PM EST
I know what website you were perusing.



Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:55:24 PM EST
Originally Posted By LoganSackett:
Stop.


Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:55:46 PM EST
Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
There are thousands of divorces in America because of pornography..it is an addiction that is hurting men and their families.


No, there are thousands of divorces happening in America because people get married without knowing all of the pertinent information about their future spouse. Porn isn't the problem, people who never should have married in the first place are.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:56:59 PM EST
dude, you need to find the most whack porn there is and surf away... if she is going to be snooping let her find something good
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:57:53 PM EST
Say to her, "Honey, look, when I look at that stuff, it gets me all horned up and YOU get the pleasure of working it off me. So what's wrong with that? YOU'RE the beneficiary!"


I would argue that it's NOT always "harmless", though. There are enough people out there who aren't all that tightly wrapped to begin with. Some of these people, not being well grounded
in reality and having a questionable understanding of human nature, stimulus, and response, CAN be, WILL be, and sometimes ARE harmed by pornography.

Most people are fine with it but there are unquestionably a few who just shouldn't be exposed to it because they're not right.


CJ

Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:57:54 PM EST
Too many fish in the ocean.


Cull dat beaoch.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:58:54 PM EST
You guys are slacking.

SIIHPAPP!

Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:58:56 PM EST
Rookie mistake my friend. Girls never ever ever want you to look at porn without them there. Even if they do it without you, and say it's ok. It's not. What you need to do is delete your browsing history, then before you log off go look at zales.com, coach.com, modern bride, and shit like that, so when she looks she is like he's so sweet.
Works everytime.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:59:12 PM EST

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
There are thousands of divorces in America because of pornography..it is an addiction that is hurting men and their families.

Rather ironic response given your screen name, wouldn't you say?
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:59:16 PM EST
Originally Posted By The_Reaper:
Originally Posted By LoganSackett:
Stop.


Screw that.

Find someone who isn't so fucking insecure about themselves.



This. Pass on the insecure prescribed dope headcases cases

Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:59:46 PM EST
Originally Posted By Blaze415:
I wanna know about this "donkey rape bukakke porn"


Think Bestiality + ATM + waterworks.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 12:59:51 PM EST
I wonder if she may feel insecure about herself and that's why she's taking offense.

Since she likes to look at it, too maybe you can try suggesting you guys look at it together.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:01:09 PM EST
Originally Posted By Power2thePeople:
Originally Posted By LoganSackett:
Stop.




Why shouldn't she stop looking through his browser history? Her being that insecure and/or showing that lack of trust is not a good sign.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:02:03 PM EST
surf it with her dude.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:02:16 PM EST
be naked when she shows up from work. and be holding handcuffs (must be fuzzy)
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:02:52 PM EST
Leave a note in reply "You too"
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:03:22 PM EST
Originally Posted By The_Reaper:
Originally Posted By LoganSackett:
Stop.


Screw that.

Find someone who isn't so fucking insecure about themselves.



+1

With all the guys screwing around on the side, how a woman can get upset about a picture is beyond me.



Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:04:32 PM EST
Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
There are thousands of divorces in America because of pornography..it is an addiction that is hurting men and their families.



I am addicted to gun porn .
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:04:42 PM EST
My exwife was the same way.

I ejected.

Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:04:56 PM EST

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
There are thousands of divorces in America because of pornography..it is an addiction that is hurting men and their families.


The porn isn't the problem. As in this situation the OP says he was denied that is something physical that has both physical and mental aspects that need to be dealt with. Porn didn't cause it, porn didn't make it work, if anything porn brought a calm solution to mix. I guess he could have beat woman and forced her to have sex... or would porn have been the cause of that too?

If his partner would have made sure she had taken care of his needs, instead of just focusing on herself, this situation never would have happend. A selfish partner is a bigger cause of divorce than pictures ever could be.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:09:30 PM EST
Every man likes porn, she needs to realize this.

Reminds me of a scene on Friends (flame away, I like that show) where Rachel is telling the other guys that her new bf doesn't like porn.

Joey and Chandler say ,"Oh, oh, does he say that he'd rather have things left to the imagination, and that he finds it funny rather than sexy?"

Rachel: "Well, yeah!"

Joey/Chandler: "Yeah, he likes porn."

––––

Invite her to watch porn with you. If she can't get over it, EJECT
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:10:21 PM EST
If she's not comfortable with you doing that stuff, don't do it. It's like looking at other women.
Link Posted: 6/15/2009 1:10:54 PM EST
Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
There are thousands of divorces in America because of pornography..it is an addiction that is hurting men and their families.


So is Black Rifle Disease.

Is anyone going to give that up?
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