from some people that don't know me and have no reason to be biased toward a family situation Im in.
I will be as objective as possible.
Background: My dad died 2 years ago. His mother(grandma) died 6 months later. His father(grandpa) is 85 and in failing health.
I moved back home 2 years ago to help with my mom. This move was to be a temp one, but due to my grandfather's health, I've stayed. I currently do his shopping and take him to appointments 2 or 3 times a week. I see to it that he gets a home cooked meal at least 5 times a week. I live on the same street as him, as do 2 other of his children.
Since, my grandma's death, my uncle(the executor of grandpa's will) has persuaded grandpa to change the will. They tried to do this at social services and SS refused them. I was told they were refused because when my grandpa was asked what changes he wanted to make he said"what ever they want". My Uncle, along with my Aunt then rewrote the will and had my grandpa sign it in front of a notary at my uncle's employer.
This new will gives my uncle my granpa's house. My aunt gets his car. My grandpa's life savings are to be split between my mother and 2 aunts. The house was appraised at 80k. Financially, my grandpa has about 70k.
The original will that my grandma and grandpa had done by an attorney(it's long gone) had all assets to be devided equally. 4 children, each getting 1/4.
I tried to keep my mouth shut, and did, for almost a year. The other night I asked him why he wanted one of his children to recieve over 1/2 his assets. He told me that my uncle had never cost him anything and mentioned medical bills he paid for my dad when he was in a wreck at age 18. I asked him why didn't he reflect that in the will he wrote with grandma...no response. I then told him that it was wrong and unfair. He said, you're greedy".
The next morning I told my uncle about the exchange of words. I told him that the will shouldn't have been changed. I told him that I was no longer doing a damn thing for grandpa and that Uncle needed to revise the will again and write my mom out of it completely. My uncle said he couldnt change the will, that he was only the executor.
Today, Im going to tell my grandpa this to his face. I'm also telling him that if he doesnt amend the will to it's original state, he needs to write my mom out of it completely, or I will donate everything she gets to Al Sharpton.
My mom is behind me 100%....
Do you guys think this is the right thing to do? There has been so much back stabbing (yeah, Ive got blood on my hands.....but In my opinion the others are covered head to toe). I'm just tired of the games and the BS... I know, without myself or mother helping him, his life will be shortened....Im just tired of this cluster fuck.
That said, I have one aunt (his oldest child) in Tx that is crazy as hell and a millionaire....she'd love to take this to court.
Feedback is appreciated...if the post isn't entirely coherent, ask and I'll tell.
Thanks,
-HS