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Posted: 6/29/2015 3:15:00 AM EDT

So I have two male cats, both fixed. One is about 12 the other about 3. My girlfriends cat is female and around 11.

Tomorrow she is moving her cat in with me due to a number of reasons but mainly in anticipation of us moving in together in a few months. My cats have never shown aggression to any other cat. Both mine and hers have all lived with other cats.

So what are we in for?  We read all the stuff online. I'm expecting her female to establish dominance as she's a bit more "feisty" and mine are so easygoing. I've read that cats mainly identify by smell. We've been dating 7 months so I'm sure they've all had ample time to smell each other on my and hers clothes. Does that sound right?
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 3:31:51 AM EDT
I've read to keep them separated in different rooms for a couple days for them to get used to the smells then let them check each other out supervised.



They'll likely scrap or be pissy at each other for a while until they get used to each other.
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 3:34:53 AM EDT
Pics of paws?
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So in your opinion, do you think it'll be any easier if they've been smelling each other for the past 7 months?
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 3:45:07 AM EDT
I guess an all in death match is a non starter?
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Yeah that would be a bad time.
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I've read to keep them separated in different rooms for a couple days for them to get used to the smells then let them check each other out supervised.



They'll likely scrap or be pissy at each other for a while until they get used to each other.

So in your opinion, do you think it'll be any easier if they've been smelling each other for the past 7 months?


I guess they might be less agitated as the smell is familiar, but they'll still be agitated as it's an incursion into your cats home turf. As long as they have their own "places" and they're not crammed into too small an area it shouldn't be bad.



Having a separate litter box for your girlfriends kitty in a different spot may be a good idea for a while though.



 
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 4:06:11 AM EDT
After all the threads about failed relationships on this site, your choosing to move not 1, but 2 pussies into your house? good luck with that
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I guess they might be less agitated as the smell is familiar, but they'll still be agitated as it's an incursion into your cats home turf. As long as they have their own "places" and they're not crammed into too small an area it shouldn't be bad.

Having a separate litter box for your girlfriends kitty in a different spot may be a good idea for a while though.
 
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I've read to keep them separated in different rooms for a couple days for them to get used to the smells then let them check each other out supervised.

They'll likely scrap or be pissy at each other for a while until they get used to each other.




So in your opinion, do you think it'll be any easier if they've been smelling each other for the past 7 months?

I guess they might be less agitated as the smell is familiar, but they'll still be agitated as it's an incursion into your cats home turf. As long as they have their own "places" and they're not crammed into too small an area it shouldn't be bad.

Having a separate litter box for your girlfriends kitty in a different spot may be a good idea for a while though.
 


Yeah separate boxes and food for now
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do the right thing and at least buy some cat size paper plates for your 2 cats
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 4:37:10 AM EDT
Is your girlfriend's cat fixed?  Having an intact female around can still be a pain, even if your males are fixed.  Dunno at 11 though... might not be a problem any more.
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 5:26:43 AM EDT
Keep the guys and girl secured in separate rooms for awhile but give her access to common areas while the guys are in lockdown,
Allow them to investigate each other from underneath a closed door or behind glass like a patio door.
Give the new arrangement a week or so or the guys will attack her for invading their space.
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They'll likely scrap or be pissy at each other for a while until they get used to each other.




So in your opinion, do you think it'll be any easier if they've been smelling each other for the past 7 months?


Maybe, but keep them separated for a few days.
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 5:49:16 AM EDT
Cage match.Loser goes for a ride in the dryer?
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 5:59:37 AM EDT
Hard to take serous a thread about pussies from someone with pink toenail polish in their avatar
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Kitty needs the nails trimmed.

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I've read to keep them separated in different rooms for a couple days for them to get used to the smells then let them check each other out supervised.

They'll likely scrap or be pissy at each other for a while until they get used to each other.





So in your opinion, do you think it'll be any easier if they've been smelling each other for the past 7 months?

I guess they might be less agitated as the smell is familiar, but they'll still be agitated as it's an incursion into your cats home turf. As long as they have their own "places" and they're not crammed into too small an area it shouldn't be bad.

Having a separate litter box for your girlfriends kitty in a different spot may be a good idea for a while though.
 


Yeah separate boxes and food for now


As a long-time cat owner, I can vouch for all the above. Give 'em a little time to adjust, and they'll be fine. Cats are naturally scrappy anyway.
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 6:13:30 AM EDT
In our case, there were never any issues between the female cat we brought in as a stray and the two males we already had.  

OTH, after a brief and peaceful intro between the two fixed males a few years earlier, we had nothing but trouble between them.

There's a saying, "A cat can ignore anything but another cat". Good luck.
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This.

I have cared for many, many felines.
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dude, it is common courtesy to give a warning.

before posting any pictures of rosie o'donnell.

Link Posted: 6/29/2015 6:53:06 AM EDT
When I bring home a new feline master, I set the cage down in the living room floor and open it up. There's usually some hissing but things settle down fairly quickly.
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K thanks bye


I love you people bitching about the avatar. It's a females feet. I'm a guy, I like girls, I really like their legs and feet. My avatar is something I love. So in short, nobody gives fuck what you think coldair, I've never seen you post anything earth shaking before either.
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All are fixed. Today is the day!
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I believe he has already addressed that issue.


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I introduced two new cats using this method, except I prolonged it out to nearly a month.  They had a long time to realize they were in the house together.  No major problems.
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 5:59:35 PM EDT
Cat intro soon. Will update later with possible pics. Wish us luck!
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 6:10:42 PM EDT
No matter what anyone else tells you, you won't know for sure until they get together.
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 6:14:50 PM EDT
Our vet recommended putting a drop of vanilla extract on each cat's forehead during introductions.

That way all the cats can smell is vanilla. By the time it wears off, everybody is friends.
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 6:18:35 PM EDT
Just throw them together and ignore them. They'll work it out.





I'm not a big fan of tip-toeing around such introductions.







I remember when I brought my rescue cat home for the first time. We had two dogs.. The cat waltzed in, swatted the first dog that came too close ("Don't fuck with me"), and made himself comfortable.






Afterwards, there was mutual respect, and they were all good friends.


 
Link Posted: 6/29/2015 6:23:44 PM EDT
It's not a smell thing, it'll be a territory thing.

Seven whole months? How come y'all aren't married yet? Good luck.....
Link Posted: 6/30/2015 6:16:34 AM EDT
There IS a proper way to introduce a 'new' adult cat to established cats. It would take a LONG time to type up.



Google it. If you introduce cats improperly, they will ALWAYS hate each other. If you do it right, they will be best buddies.



Don't fuck this up.
Link Posted: 6/30/2015 6:29:23 AM EDT
Cammie, the starving, orphaned kitteh found in a dumpster didn't have much trouble with Kibbles, the old diabetic cat...

Link Posted: 6/30/2015 6:36:12 AM EDT
You might want to get some Feliway from Petsmart it calms them down.

Hide the catnip too...
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Well so far so good. There's been some growling and hissing on her cats part but nothing crazy. She seems comfortable. Mine are mostly like meh, just going about their business.
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