my personal favorite is to compare the "chances" of getting raped (as illustrated by the "1 in 4" statistic i think) to the lifetime chance of having breast cancer (last time i check it was 1 in 9).
most women focus on breast cancer because the media exposure of cancer in general and breast cancer specifically is far greater than the exposure of rape occurences.
i think it really hits home to a gal that she's got a greater statistical chance of being the victim of rape than she does of having cancer.
also mention the physical factor: unless she's Chyna or Xena: warrior princess most women aren't physically capable of warding off an attacker when it's reduced to strength against strength.
and the one that makes them think: ask them how they would plan to defend themselves in the following situations....
1.you're home alone with the kids and you hear someone breaking in your back door
2.you're out shopping with the kids and someone tries to kidnap one while you're loading the groceries in the car
3.someone tries to carjack you on your way home at night
4.some jerk on the road starts driving aggressively (tailgating, hitting the brakes in front of you)
9 times out of 10, they'll respond with call 911. then i love to tell them that a) you can't be sure the response time will be sufficient to stop the intruder from gaining access to your house b) police have no legal obligation to stop a crime in progress (though most will try, of course) and c) how can they physically call 911 when they're trying to get their baby back or they're trying to ward off an attacker?
basically, the self defense issue is generally the biggest motivator for women (that darn emotional thing). but it wouldn't hurt to read some good quotes of the founding fathers stressing the importance of firearm ownership rights.
of course, have the crime vs. gun ownership stats handy too. some one will inevitably bring up higher crime because of gun ownership. my favorite example is to ask which states have the highest crimes. then ask which states (cities too) have the strictest gun laws. take it a step further by asking which states have the highest per capita rate of gun ownership and comparing those states' crime stats with those of the aforementioned states with strict laws.
i think it's great that your doing this. i'd say that most of my suggestions after the self defense issue (since that will hit them the hardest) aren't necessary for the discussion but are more for "i'm glad you asked that. i have ..... right here to help us answer that." type of scenarios. back up ammo, so to speak.
let us know how it goes.
oh, yeah, you wanted sources. [url]www.guntruths.com[/url] has got oodles of them. plenty to pick from. the NRA website, of course.