Stepkids are really rotten and evil!

Except mine that is.  I have been with their mom for the last 8 years and their dad is nonexistant even though he lives literally a mile away.

I have been to more of their games and events then he has.  Spent more Christmas' with them and even vacations.

Last week the kids gave me a Father's Day card for the first time. It was really touching for me and meant a lot.  It also made me feel really bad because I dont have any of my own yet amd because I wish so much that these kids were truly mine.  We arent married.

They were a little weird about me when I met them and there was a lot of passive aggression.  But as they grew up they have really come around.  Its a sad thing to watch their relationship with their dad.

I lost my father when I was 15. My Mom remarried when I was 21. I've always had a pretty good relationship with my stepfather, and in fact our relationship has grown even stronger in the past few years. He's 86 now, and sharp as a tack. He's a fun guy, has lots of interests and hobbies, is very active and has been GREAT for my Mom.

I like to think that I'm a good stepson, too. I always give him a Father's Day gift. This year I gave him a book about the old movie theaters in KC. He's lived in KC all his life, except when he lived in Bermuda in the Navy during WWII, and knows the guy who wrote and edited the book. I like to give him things that mean something personal to him.

I never really hear anything about his own son, though.

Quoted: I lost my father when I was 15. My Mom remarried when I was 21. I've always had a pretty good relationship with my stepfather, and in fact our relationship has grown even stronger in the past few years. He's 86 now, and sharp as a tack. He's a fun guy, has lots of interests and hobbies, is very active and has been GREAT for my Mom. I like to think that I'm a good stepson, too. I always give him a Father's Day gift. This year I gave him a book about the old movie theaters in KC. He's lived in KC all his life, except when he lived in Bermuda in the Navy during WWII, and knows the guy who wrote and edited the book. I like to give him things that mean something personal to him. I never really hear anything about his own son, though.

Thats awesome you have such a relationship.

Just goes to show blood means squat sometimes.

Your more a Dad to them than their Father. I never had to deal this type of situation but, it says a lot about you and your character.

My husband is my kids Dad.  Its been a roller coaster ride for him.  My oldest boy was 7 when we married.  He was very resentful of my husband and wasn't warm to him at all for a few years.  Now they are very good friends.  They are complete opposites and have little in common but they play chess together several times a week and joke around together after school and practice.  

My daughter was immediately a daddy's girl and idolized David as little.  Now that she is a teenager she's been a handful to him [to us both] its a chore to get her to do things with us but once she does she has a good time.  They still hunt and fish together.  David thinks she hates him but she doesn't.

Neither of my kids have seen their bio father in over 10 years.  My daughter wouldn't be able to pick him out in a police lineup.

My husband and I have one boy together and he doesn't know about my previous marriage and that my first two kids are only his half brother/sister.   We'll probably wait a while longer to tell him.

Patty

Quoted: . . Last week the kids gave me a Father's Day card for the first time. It was really touching for me and meant a lot.  It also made me feel really bad because I dont have any of my own yet amd because I wish so much that these kids were truly mine.  We arent married. They were a little weird about me when I met them and there was a lot of passive aggression.  But as they grew up they have really come around.  Its a sad thing to watch their relationship with their dad.

I personally relish all of my father's day cards from my children made in their classroom when they were little.  Unfortunately, as they got older, I got fewer and further in between.  I saved a all of the ones from my children.

Every child has to find his/her own way in life.

Quoted: Quoted: . . Last week the kids gave me a Father's Day card for the first time. It was really touching for me and meant a lot.  It also made me feel really bad because I dont have any of my own yet amd because I wish so much that these kids were truly mine.  We arent married. They were a little weird about me when I met them and there was a lot of passive aggression.  But as they grew up they have really come around.  Its a sad thing to watch their relationship with their dad. I personally relish all of my from mfather's day cards y children made in their classroom when they were little.  Unfortunately, as they got older, I got fewer and further in between.  I saved a all of the ones from my children. Every child has to find his/her own way in life.

I didnt get one from them until they were adults.  The oldest is 23, the next one is 20 and last one just turned 18.  The youngest one is the boy and he has a nasty habit of calling his dad the bastard.  The middle one is the sensitive and thoughtful one.  She got me the card and made her siblings sign it.

I was a stepkid as were 4 of my brothers and sisters. My Mom had my brother and I.  She divorced, and married a guy who had 4 kids from a previous marriage. I called him "Dad" and treated him with respect. They shit on everyone and called my Mom by her first name.

They still suck out loud.

She divorced HIM 2 years ago. I swear you can't make this stuff up.

Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: . . Last week the kids gave me a Father's Day card for the first time. It was really touching for me and meant a lot.  It also made me feel really bad because I dont have any of my own yet amd because I wish so much that these kids were truly mine.  We arent married. They were a little weird about me when I met them and there was a lot of passive aggression.  But as they grew up they have really come around.  Its a sad thing to watch their relationship with their dad. I personally relish all of my from father's day cards my children made in their classroom when they were little.  Unfortunately, as they got older, I got fewer and further in between.  I saved all of the ones from my children. Every child has to find his/her own way in life. I didnt get one from them until they were adults.  The oldest is 23, the next one is 20 and last one just turned 18.  The youngest one is the boy and he has a nasty habit of calling his dad the bastard.  The middle one is the sensitive and thoughtful one.  She got me the card and made her siblings sign it.

Yeah, same here, the middle daughter is the smart and senstive one.  She actually hand drew her own birthday cards when she was young.  I've saved a few of those.  Now she is 18 and will be going away to college in the fall, and I will miss seeing her happy on a daily basis.

I haven't seen my natural father since I was about 5 or 6 years old (~ 35 years ago).  
My mom remarried and she was able to convince my natural father to give up custody (probably in return for no child support or alimony) and so My brother and I were adopted by our "new" dad.  

He had 3 older kids from a previous marriage. They pretty much hated my mom but only the youngest of them lived with us.  He always treated us as his own and we always thought of ourselves as his.

He wasn't exactly the easiest to live with though....he was 30 years USAF w/ 2 combat tours in SEA flying B-57's and F-4's....it was either black or white and his way or the highway.  But he has been a good dad to my brother and I.

The best thing my natural father ever did for us was to walk away.....