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Posted: 9/4/2005 6:45:05 PM EDT
The little lady and I sat down the other day to seriously discuss the wedding planning issue.

She asked who would fill the Best man and Groomsmans positions. I was stumped. Having to fill 4 positions?

Hell, best i could do was bat 50%

Through high school & 3\4 of college i have only really associated with two people... and they filled the 50%.

I have two positions to fill and would really feel awkward asking someone i really didn't hang out with or know well to be in my wedding.

It's just sad. Pathetic really.

So the question is...

Were your Best man and Groomsmans close friends? or did you just fill positions with people you knew?


Link Posted: 9/4/2005 6:48:44 PM EDT
Don't put someone in there just to fill the suit if you don't really know him. Nothing wrong with only 1 or 2 guys.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 6:49:44 PM EDT
All of mine were good friends for years.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 6:52:55 PM EDT
Real simple ... DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Save the thousands of $$$ on the whole church wedding and put it all into the downpayment on your house or paying off your student loans or feeding wild horses. ANYTHING is better than pissing it away on a one day fling with 300 of the closet people in the world that you'll never see again.

But hey, I'm jaded.

Have a great wedding and may you both be happy forever.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 6:53:14 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 9/4/2005 6:53:56 PM EDT by Ghost-Shooter]
I don't have an answer for ya, since I'm not there yet. However, I'm sure I'll be having the same issues. I don't make many friends, because those I consider friends are in my innermost circle of trust, in there along side my family. The friends I do have I've had for many years, the two closest friends I've known for over 15 years (keep in mind I'm in only my mid-twenties).

IMHO, make your closest friends the best man/groomsmen. If you don't have enough, don't fill it. It is a place of honor and reverence, and I feel that it shouldn't be cheapened.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 6:54:17 PM EDT

Originally Posted By DOW:
Don't put someone in there just to fill the suit if you don't really know him. Nothing wrong with only 1 or 2 guys.

Yup. I plan on only having 2 or 3.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:01:54 PM EDT
Don't just fill spots. If you don't have people you trust there, don't do it. My best man and groomsmen were all people that I'd been through shit with, and each one was a good enough friend to offer to provide cover fire with I ran out the back.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:03:12 PM EDT

Originally Posted By ktrout01:
Real simple ... DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Save the thousands of $$$ on the whole church wedding and put it all into the downpayment on your house or paying off your student loans or feeding wild horses. ANYTHING is better than pissing it away on a one day fling with 300 of the closet people in the world that you'll never see again.

But hey, I'm jaded.

Have a great wedding and may you both be happy forever.



What he said, You are just as married at a small wedding as you are a big one. Save the $$$$$$$$$
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:04:29 PM EDT

Originally Posted By MrClean4Hire:

Originally Posted By ktrout01:
Real simple ... DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Save the thousands of $$$ on the whole church wedding and put it all into the downpayment on your house or paying off your student loans or feeding wild horses. ANYTHING is better than pissing it away on a one day fling with 300 of the closet people in the world that you'll never see again.

But hey, I'm jaded.

Have a great wedding and may you both be happy forever.



What he said, You are just as married at a small wedding as you are a big one. Save the $$$$$$$$$

Easy advice to give to guys, not so easy to the bride...especially if her family has offered to cover all costs
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:06:11 PM EDT

Originally Posted By ktrout01:
Real simple ... DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Save the thousands of $$$ on the whole church wedding and put it all into the downpayment on your house or paying off your student loans or feeding wild horses. ANYTHING is better than pissing it away on a one day fling with 300 of the closet people in the world that you'll never see again.

But hey, I'm jaded.

Have a great wedding and may you both be happy forever.



You're screwed either way.

If you elope, you'll hear ' I wish we would have had a nice wedding, all my friends had nice weddings'
If you have a regular wedding your wife will say ' maybe we should have just eloped'

but, if you elope and stay married for a few years (probably at the 5 yr mark)
your wife will want to get 'remarried' so she can have all the pics and all the crap that goes along with it.

FWIW, when money gets tight we always say ' I wish we had the money spent on our wedding' ($12k) but we really are glad we had it. Great time, great memories.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:08:20 PM EDT

Originally Posted By -Absolut-:

Originally Posted By MrClean4Hire:

Originally Posted By ktrout01:
Real simple ... DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Save the thousands of $$$ on the whole church wedding and put it all into the downpayment on your house or paying off your student loans or feeding wild horses. ANYTHING is better than pissing it away on a one day fling with 300 of the closet people in the world that you'll never see again.

But hey, I'm jaded.

Have a great wedding and may you both be happy forever.



What he said, You are just as married at a small wedding as you are a big one. Save the $$$$$$$$$

Easy advice to give to guys, not so easy to the bride...especially if her family has offered to cover all costs




Talk to her dad, they usually only pay out of tradition.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:09:17 PM EDT
in a pinch, go with close male relatives around your age.


when my time comes, I've got a brother and 3 cousins I could call on in a bind.



Of course, my hope is that all I'm going to have to do is go in front of a judge with the lucky lady.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:10:41 PM EDT

Originally Posted By MrClean4Hire:

Originally Posted By -Absolut-:

Originally Posted By MrClean4Hire:

Originally Posted By ktrout01:
Real simple ... DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Save the thousands of $$$ on the whole church wedding and put it all into the downpayment on your house or paying off your student loans or feeding wild horses. ANYTHING is better than pissing it away on a one day fling with 300 of the closet people in the world that you'll never see again.

But hey, I'm jaded.

Have a great wedding and may you both be happy forever.



What he said, You are just as married at a small wedding as you are a big one. Save the $$$$$$$$$

Easy advice to give to guys, not so easy to the bride...especially if her family has offered to cover all costs




Talk to her dad, they usually only pay out of tradition.

As long as it makes her happy, I don't care if they drop $100K on it.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:11:03 PM EDT
do you have any brothers? you can us them
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:12:37 PM EDT
In answer to your question, do you have any brothers, does she have brothers, do you have cousins you were close to?

I only had 3 including the best man, but they were like bros to me with what we had been through the last 10 years. Talk to the bride. Does she HAVE to have 4 bridesmaids or will she compromise. Mine originally wanted four or five in the party but decided there were only 3 that really were that important.
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:18:49 PM EDT

Originally Posted By ktrout01:
Real simple ... DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Save the thousands of $$$ on the whole church wedding and put it all into the downpayment on your house or paying off your student loans or feeding wild horses. ANYTHING is better than pissing it away on a one day fling with 300 of the closet people in the world that you'll never see again.

But hey, I'm jaded.

Have a great wedding and may you both be happy forever.



I agree... We have neighbors planning to drop $25K on thier wedding (parents can't help out)... They are raiding their 401(k)s to help pay for it
Link Posted: 9/4/2005 7:22:57 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 9/4/2005 7:23:46 PM EDT by tfod]
Only chicks bitch about not being in a wedding.

Just have each guy escort two ladies.
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