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Posted: 10/9/2004 4:19:55 PM EST
[Last Edit: 10/9/2004 4:21:22 PM EST by Mucor]
Ok guys, the situation is that I have a solid HB9 (age: mid 20s)graduate student spending some time with my team for a few weeks. Alot of guys at work are drooling over her. She's hot and she is one of the brightest students I've had a chance to work with. When in groups, and discussing a particular subject, she often makes eye contact with me, smiles, and winks alot too. I'm pretty sure she's a least a bit interested in me.

Here's the deal...

I got the nerve up to call her up to chit chat and set up a coffee date the next day but she already had plans to go out of town for a couple of days. She apologized and said she'll call to go if she returns early or just see me at work if she doesn't come back early.

So, how should I play this? If she ccomes back early and calls then it's easy but what if she doesn't and I just see her again at work.. Should I leave it up to her to bring up the idea of going out or should I mention something off the bat? Any suggestions?
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:22:16 PM EST
Just stuff it in her pooper and post pics!
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:23:38 PM EST
What school are you at?
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:25:47 PM EST
invite her for lunch, and see how things go. IF things go well, invite her out for dinner, a play etc.
Remember, "faint heart wins no faire maiden." Share the wealth and post pics for us.
Good luck.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:25:57 PM EST
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:27:50 PM EST
Find out if she has a sister.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:27:59 PM EST
*sigh*

Treat her like a person. If you are interested ask her out. If she isn't interested she'll let you know by saying no. End of story.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:28:58 PM EST
Ask her.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:29:28 PM EST
[Last Edit: 10/9/2004 4:32:03 PM EST by AUT_BELLUM]
double tap(controlled pair)
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:30:09 PM EST
if she calls, no problem. If you see her at work, let it marinate for a bit(don't be too eager), then say I'd like to get together, but I'm a little jammed this week, maybe next Wednesday or something like that?( like she'll have to wait for it) If she suggests a weekend date, you may be moving directly toward hitting it.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:30:34 PM EST
Lol, I think I was pretty nervous on the phone to ask her out but I think I sounded ok. Talking about work matters are different of course.

But what do you think about the situation I'm in.
I've heard that really hot girls don't like pushy, needy guys. I'm tempted to play it cool and leave it up to her to bring up the idea of going out again.


Originally Posted By DoubleFeed:
Pretend she is ugly and relax. Then talk to her like a human.

Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:30:50 PM EST

Originally Posted By Mucor:


I got the nerve up to call her up to chit chat and set up a coffee date the next day but she already had plans to go out of town for a couple of days.



Damn the exact same thing happened to me, it wasn't a yes or a no it was somewhere in between...
I make a point not to be over bearing once I get denied I dont come back for more punishment.

but this situation confused me because it wasn't a no it was a I have to go to class.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:32:22 PM EST
I've heard that really hot girls are just humans and are not necessarily different than not-so-hot girls.

ASK HER.

Being real is the most important thing.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:34:17 PM EST
so now we still chat in class and sometimes she even chases me down to talk about class. But I dont want to look like a guy whos begging her for it.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:34:30 PM EST
[Last Edit: 10/9/2004 4:35:06 PM EST by ajm1911]

Originally Posted By Mucor:
I'm tempted to play it cool and leave it up to her to bring up the idea of going out again.



Don't do that. When she comes back be friendly and talk at work a couple a days. Then say "hey, you stood me up for coffee (gotta be slick here, do it kinda joking, kinda not). How about ____(day/time)"
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:34:51 PM EST

Originally Posted By AUT_BELLUM:
if she calls, no problem. If you see her at work, let it marinate for a bit(don't be too eager), then say I'd like to get together, but I'm a little jammed this week, maybe next Wednesday or something like that?( like she'll have to wait for it) If she suggests a weekend date, you may be moving directly toward hitting it.



Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I haven't really played hard to get before, so it's kind of a new territory for me. I've always pursued using my stupid hormone driven instinct with only average success. Maybe it's time for a change.....
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:35:07 PM EST

Originally Posted By mike45acp:

Originally Posted By Mucor:

I got the nerve up to call her up to chit chat and set up a coffee date the next day but she already had plans to go out of town for a couple of days.



Damn the exact same thing happened to me, it wasn't a yes or a no it was somewhere in between...
I make a point not to be over bearing once I get denied I dont come back for more punishment.

but this situation confused me because it wasn't a no it was a I have to go to class.


Remember this is part of the chase. So you've got to keep it up though.

Also since you are at work, I would keep this really low key, actually super-low key among you co-workers, what happens to you romantically, because things could get real sticky real fast.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:36:58 PM EST
just give up
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:37:38 PM EST
Ask her....nothing ventured, nothing gained!

Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:39:19 PM EST
But my situation is that I already made the first move and asked her out but denied because she had other obligations.


Originally Posted By Hessian-1:
Ask her....nothing ventured, nothing gained!


Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:41:11 PM EST
[Last Edit: 10/9/2004 5:31:03 PM EST by MT_Pockets]
Hmmm...

She must be quite a woman if you need help with her....I thought they were teaching this in school these days.

She knows you are interested...just sit back and relax.

MT
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:41:51 PM EST

Originally Posted By warlord:
Remember this is part of the chase. So you've got to keep it up though.

Also since you are at work, I would keep this really low key, actually super-low key among you co-workers, what happens to you romantically, because things could get real sticky real fast.



Great point, I'm keeping it low key right now but will probably have a huge urge to brag to the boys if I do end up going out with her regularly.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:46:21 PM EST
do not brag, jealous suckers will cockblock or undermine your efforts
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:53:47 PM EST
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:56:59 PM EST
Here's the deal... If she doesn't come back early. Play it off and let her bring it up, only after you hint by taking a big sip of coffee from your mug and Saying "Damn this is some good coffee." "Do you like coffee?"

Dg84
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 4:57:36 PM EST

Originally Posted By SteyrAUG:

Originally Posted By Mucor:
Ok guys, the situation is that I have a solid HB9 (age: mid 20s)graduate student spending some time with my team for a few weeks. Alot of guys at work are drooling over her. She's hot and she is one of the brightest students I've had a chance to work with. When in groups, and discussing a particular subject, she often makes eye contact with me, smiles, and winks alot too. I'm pretty sure she's a least a bit interested in me.

Here's the deal...

I got the nerve up to call her up to chit chat and set up a coffee date the next day but she already had plans to go out of town for a couple of days. She apologized and said she'll call to go if she returns early or just see me at work if she doesn't come back early.

So, how should I play this? If she ccomes back early and calls then it's easy but what if she doesn't and I just see her again at work.. Should I leave it up to her to bring up the idea of going out or should I mention something off the bat? Any suggestions?




ASK HER OUT.

You have been green lighted already.

Ask her out and actively persue a relationship IF that is what you want.

Don't play games, she isn't. Simply go for it or live the rest of your life talking about this one badass babe who got away cause you didn't go after it. If you fuck it up, at least you took your shot. That is a LOT easier to live with.



+1
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 5:20:05 PM EST
[Last Edit: 10/9/2004 5:23:56 PM EST by sgtstinger]

Originally Posted by lippo:
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Originally Posted By SteyrAUG:


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Originally Posted By Mucor:
Ok guys, the situation is that I have a solid HB9 (age: mid 20s)graduate student spending some time with my team for a few weeks. Alot of guys at work are drooling over her. She's hot and she is one of the brightest students I've had a chance to work with. When in groups, and discussing a particular subject, she often makes eye contact with me, smiles, and winks alot too. I'm pretty sure she's a least a bit interested in me.

Here's the deal...

I got the nerve up to call her up to chit chat and set up a coffee date the next day but she already had plans to go out of town for a couple of days. She apologized and said she'll call to go if she returns early or just see me at work if she doesn't come back early.

So, how should I play this? If she ccomes back early and calls then it's easy but what if she doesn't and I just see her again at work.. Should I leave it up to her to bring up the idea of going out or should I mention something off the bat? Any suggestions?


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ASK HER OUT.

You have been green lighted already.

Ask her out and actively persue a relationship IF that is what you want.

Don't play games, she isn't. Simply go for it or live the rest of your life talking about this one badass babe who got away cause you didn't go after it. If you fuck it up, at least you took your shot. That is a LOT easier to live with.[/quote
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Link Posted: 10/9/2004 5:29:47 PM EST
[Last Edit: 10/9/2004 5:31:10 PM EST by Mucor]
I tried the direct approach some time ago with a HB8 that I was interested a year ago but it didn't pan out. But then again, I didn't have the initial (flirting?) body language from her before making my move. Anyway, I was always the one calling up to set up dates and after a while, it became excuse city from her. I got sick of that and called it quits with her.

I don't know but I'm thinking hot chicks are wired a little differently so I'm thinking I need to approach this situation a little different this time.



Originally Posted By sgtstinger:
Originally Posted by lippo:
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Originally Posted By SteyrAUG:

ASK HER OUT.

You have been green lighted already.

Ask her out and actively persue a relationship IF that is what you want.

Don't play games, she isn't. Simply go for it or live the rest of your life talking about this one badass babe who got away cause you didn't go after it. If you fuck it up, at least you took your shot. That is a LOT easier to live with.[/quote
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Link Posted: 10/9/2004 5:34:18 PM EST
Don't ask her, tell her your taking her out to coffee, lunch, etc. A very attractive girlfriend of mine told me to use that approach and it's never failed me. Confidence, my boy, confidence.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 5:44:01 PM EST
That's an understatement!

Treat her like complete shit, ignore her, and when you do talk to her let her know you like blow-jobs.

I GUAURENTTEEEEEE YOU that she will be all over you like white on rice.


Originally Posted By Mucor:
I've heard that really hot girls don't like pushy, needy guys.

Link Posted: 10/9/2004 5:54:01 PM EST

Originally Posted By Mucor:
Need help with Hot Girl at work!




Bring her over and I will show you what needs to be done.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 6:25:09 PM EST
This thread pops up enough I ought to write a book and cash in on this market.
Link Posted: 10/9/2004 7:13:54 PM EST

Originally Posted By Roadhawk:
Just stuff it in her pooper and post pics!


+1
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:40:27 AM EST

Originally Posted By KA3B:

Treat her like complete shit, ignore her, and when you do talk to her let her know you like blow-jobs.

I GUAURENTTEEEEEE YOU that she will be all over you like white on rice.



Lol, but unfortunately I don't think that'll work on her
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:43:06 AM EST

Originally Posted By SF1058:
Don't ask her, tell her your taking her out to coffee, lunch, etc. A very attractive girlfriend of mine told me to use that approach and it's never failed me. Confidence, my boy, confidence.



My dad tells me the best line he ever used in the early 80s was "come on, you're coming with me".
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:47:53 AM EST
Hot chicks are like everybody else.

More often than not they are dumber than everyone else. too.

I know only one "hot" (that's subjective, right) chick that is smart.

CRC
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:52:38 AM EST
Yeah I know, but this one is really smart, achieved top 5% honors rank in her class, very observant, creative, learns new stuff quickly. That's why she so damn intimidating, hot and smart.


Originally Posted By CRC:
Hot chicks are like everybody else.

More often than not they are dumber than everyone else. too.

I know only one "hot" (that's subjective, right) chick that is smart.

CRC

Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:54:46 AM EST
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:55:10 AM EST
I have always thought it wasn't a good idea to get your meat where you get your bread.
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:56:16 AM EST
Rule #1: Dont date people you work with.
Rule #2: Never, under any circumstances, break Rule #1.
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 7:58:17 AM EST
I agree with that to an extent. But she's only spending a few weeks with us then she's off to an another department. I would never date anyone in my own department. The potential for things getting messy is too great there.




Originally Posted By Specop_007:
Rule #1: Dont date people you work with.
Rule #2: Never, under any circumstances, break Rule #1.

Link Posted: 10/10/2004 8:32:09 AM EST
[Last Edit: 10/10/2004 8:32:47 AM EST by ColtM4]

Originally Posted By SF1058:
Don't ask her, tell her your taking her out to coffee, lunch, etc. A very attractive girlfriend of mine told me to use that approach and it's never failed me. Confidence, my boy, confidence.



Took the words right out of my mouth ! Women love confident men , it actually turns them on. Down deep women are all at least a little submissive and want a strong man in their lives. I'll also add that alot of women want to be persued they like a mans attention and they will eventually give you the fruit of your labor !
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 8:36:51 AM EST
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 8:37:02 AM EST
Do not say "Want to go on a date to blah blah blah"
Say: "I am going to blah blah blah. Should I save you a seat?"

Kharn
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 8:42:34 AM EST

Originally Posted By doorgunner84:
Here's the deal... If she doesn't come back early. Play it off and let her bring it up, only after you hint by taking a big sip of coffee from your mug and Saying "Do you like coffee cock?"




There you go fixed it for ya.
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 8:47:50 AM EST
+1


Originally Posted By CAMPYBOB:
I've heard that really hot girls are just humans and are not necessarily different than not-so-hot girls.

you heard 'wrong'.

Link Posted: 10/10/2004 8:49:43 AM EST
bitch slap the pussy out of yourself and realise shes a female thus inferior to you thus meaning you can do whatever the heck you want
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 8:57:54 AM EST
The hotter a girl is the larger the pool of guys who want to hit on her... therefore she 1) Is used to the attention, 2) Can wait and take her pick, you're not her only hope, and 3) Is probably tired of guys drooling over here wherever she goes, and walking on eggshells around her because "Careful, she's HOT!!". She probably wants a guy to spank her and give her the what-for.
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 10:10:04 AM EST
Cannot evalutate the situation without pics.

CW
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 10:10:05 AM EST

Originally Posted By SNorman:
The hotter a girl is the larger the pool of guys who want to hit on her... therefore she 1) Is used to the attention, 2) Can wait and take her pick, you're not her only hope, and 3) Is probably tired of guys drooling over here wherever she goes, and walking on eggshells around her because "Careful, she's HOT!!". She probably wants a guy to spank her and give her the what-for.



+1
Link Posted: 10/10/2004 10:13:36 AM EST
Get into the mindset of acting like she is a very ugly girl that you love as having a friend. That way your confidence wont be destroyed everytime you think about how hot she is.

If the "friend" part doesnt excite you, then forget about how she looks and move on.
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