Hey, anything I can do to help!
I "lucked out". My father-in-law is a Viet Vet whose great (x4?) grandfather died in the Alamo. Some of him (thankfully) rubbed off on his daughter.
Still, when it comes to guns + kids in the residence, even she can get spooked if not shown things in the correct light. News stories and the Armed Citizen column go a long way to showing what *can* happen.
We both work for a university and a couple months ago there were three firearms-related stories on the front page of the campus newspaper (if it bleeds, it leads). Of course, in all three, the perp(s) used guns for ill. Very negative light.
I showed them to my wife (as she tends to just gloss over news stories), and explained how things *might* have been different had the citizen(s) been carrying. I made damn sure to tell her that we couldn't know *for sure* that things would have gone right, had they also been armed, but that we do know *for sure* that things DIDN'T go right when they WEREN'T armed......
I got her attention and I got some head nodding, so I think that MIGHT have gotten to her. All we can do is try.
There's an arfcommer (IIRC) who has the following as his sig line: "You can lead a horse to water, but you shouldn't have to stick your head up its ass and suck to make it drink" (or words to that effect). Very appropriate.
Keep up the good fight.