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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:37:32 PM EDT
Talk about bad timing, i showed up at her house yesterday about ten minutes after she had the miscarriage. My wife went into the bathroom to talk to her and i stayed in the living room and i talked to her husband. I asked where everything was and he pointed to one of the bottles a hospital gives you to pee in. I picked it up and light it up with my flashlight
 Thats one bottle i should have never picked up. About a inch or so long, hands,toes, eyes, the whole nine yards. I hugged my kids tighter the last few days, and you should do the same. Happy new years.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:38:33 PM EDT
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That's something that nobody should have to see.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:41:59 PM EDT
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Dude.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:43:47 PM EDT
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Somethings don't need to be shared with the world.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:45:33 PM EDT
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On the other hand, some things are facts of life and should be. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:47:21 PM EDT
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Like this tragedy in his family? |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:47:30 PM EDT
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+1 I'm sorry that you and your sister had to go through that, but I agree, some things are better left unsaid. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:49:05 PM EDT
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Seen that four times, still have the nightmares every year or so. You have my sympathy.z
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:51:42 PM EDT
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+1 btdt....and 18 years later...it still hurts like a bitch. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:53:03 PM EDT
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What I mean to say is, a little education can go a long way to prepare people for things that happen every day. Everyone is so shielded and protected from everyday things that people are becoming wimps. How has it gotten to the point that the average person doesn't know how to deliver their own child. How many people would be vegetarians if they saw where meat came from? If people were given facts on miscarriages, educated even slightly, it wouldn't be such a dramatic shock. An ounce of education could prevent psychological scarring that could last a lifetime. Parents question themselves, wondering if they did something to cause it. Wifes blame husbands, and vice versa. Marriages dissolve over things like this, because of sheer ignorance. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:53:22 PM EDT
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Ninian.
My heart and prayers go out to your family.
If feels the need to get it off his chest, yes. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:56:26 PM EDT
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my wife is at ten weeks.
It would destroy me if she miscarried. I already have a love for the child. I would hold the little babe in my hands and cry. I would bury it in a real grave too. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 6:56:58 PM EDT
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Exactly. If the Original Poster vents a little, I will be better prepared if something like this should ever happen to me. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:00:23 PM EDT
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To the OP, Man, that's rough...but since this is completely outside my experience, I am at a loss for words.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:01:26 PM EDT
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I agree, sometimes people need help, prayers for the family. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:02:11 PM EDT
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God bless them and I hope the memory will fade for all of you. A miscarriage like that is natures way of saying something is wrong with that pregnancy. It is hard but it is a mechanism. I hope the next time will go much better. Fact is almost everybody will go through one miscarriage. It may have been good timing that your sister in law had your wife there at that time.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:02:35 PM EDT
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Do you really think so? That if your wife or sister had a miscarriage that this thread would actually help you deal with the pain. Out of respect for the OP I'll say no more, I'm sorry for your sister in laws loss. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:14:03 PM EDT
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I mostly took it for granted that our kids would be born healthy..I mean I knew about miscarriages and birth defects but I figured they were rare.. Once my friends/family started having kids my wife and I realized how lucky we were..We sat down one night and estimated that over half of the couples of child bearing age that we knew personally have had fertility problems, miscarriages, or children born with health problems.
Sorry for your SIL's loss |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:26:30 PM EDT
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I'm not the type to open up to total strangers on the internet. Hell, I don't open up much to my closest friends. But many other people do find comfort in opening up to others. And if someone needs to talk about something then I'll listen and offer what comfort I can. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:30:52 PM EDT
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Why would you have that bottle sitting around like that anyway?
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:32:52 PM EDT
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This thread is kind of a downer
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:33:47 PM EDT
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Damn dude, im sorry to hear that..
Cause it probably just happened and they didn't know what to do with it... |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:34:43 PM EDT
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+1. I'm sorry for the loss. That's really sad. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:38:04 PM EDT
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the girl I proposed to (Then she ran off) two miscarriages
in a row. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:40:29 PM EDT
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To prove that she didn't have an illegal abortion? There was a small controversy locally when a local GYN called the cops on a woman that he believed had had one. The article in the paper said that it was illegal to dispose of it in the trash or in the sewer, and they recommended taking it to your doctor for proper disposal.z |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:40:54 PM EDT
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For your sister in law. It made me remember as I was sitting in the triage room at the hospital and my twin girls were trying to be born 3 months early. We overheard the doctor in the next tent tell the mother to be that her 9-mo full term child had died in the womb. My wife and I cried over that, the next day she gave birth to the stillborn child. Better for the miscarriage to happen early instead of full term. Still sucks.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:48:40 PM EDT
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Posted: 12/31/2006 7:59:12 PM EDT
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Sorry to hear about your sister in law
But remember a miscarriage is nature way of saying somthing is wrong with the fetus. ..I've been lucky with all four of my children,. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 8:39:42 PM EDT
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You might find the following a bit too much information (and gross maybe) so skip it if you wish. I warned you. The reason to capture everything from the miscarriage is so that the doctor (and lab) can determine if everything was expelled. If not, the woman most likely would have to undergo a D&C (pretty much the same thing as an abortion). The woman will return quicker to a normal cycle and it reduces the risk of infection. Also, there may be some indication within the expelled material that gives a hint as to why it happened. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 9:15:48 PM EDT
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Sorry to hear that.
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Posted: 12/31/2006 9:21:15 PM EDT
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That just freaks me out.
My wife and I have had some failed pregnancies. I sure love my 2 kids that we do have though. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 9:37:29 PM EDT
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Yikes...sorry man..
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Posted: 12/31/2006 9:45:11 PM EDT
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I'm very sorry your SIL miscarried. Seeing such a small tiny baby many years ago made me realize what abortion truly is.
I hope your SIL finds comfort in her family and friends. It is a hard thing to have happen to you. My condolences to all. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 9:49:11 PM EDT
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I'm sorry, but this is something that DOES need to be shared. Hundreds of thousands of these "tissue masses" are destroyed every year by the "choice" of the mother. Pro-choice groups, and the Party of Death, would have you believe that abortion is a medical procedure of little consequence. Having lived through the pregnancies and births of three children, as well as two miscarriages, I believe otherwise. To the OP, my heart goes out to you and your sister-in-law. The loss of a child is very painful. |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 10:52:12 PM EDT
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wow im so sorry. This hit pretty close to home since my sister is pregnant. She had one miscarriage already and this baby is due in june. My heart goes out to your family.
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