My Wife May Have Breast Cancer

[ARCHIVED THREAD] - My Wife May Have Breast Cancer

Posted: 9/28/2001 3:49:33 PM EDT

Guys, I know that this is a firearms site and all, but I have kinda grown fond of you all and value your opinions. My wife turned 40 last year (I'm only 33) and did not want to get her first mammogram, so she passed on it. Earlier this month she turned 41 and again passed on the oppportunity to be examined. A couple of weeks ago she found a lump in her right breast and reluctantly agreed to a mammogram. Well, she had one today and the physician said he is [i]pretty[/i] sure that it is cancerous. They have scheduled her for a biopsy next week. It may turn out to be benign. If it is cancerous, it may be contained to the lump only, making treatment fairly easy. The problem arises if it has spread beyond the lump. She called me crying to tell me the news and is very frightened. I tried to reassure her that most people make full recoveries. Please keep Kelley in your prayers and if anyone has a breast cancer survivor story, please share it for her. Thanks!

Posted: 9/28/2001 3:54:17 PM EDT

[#1]

All our prayers are with you both.

Posted: 9/28/2001 3:55:17 PM EDT

[#2]

Oh man. I hope everything turns out OK. My prayers are with her and you.

Posted: 9/28/2001 4:02:52 PM EDT

[#3]

My mom had breast cancer when I was a kid . It was pretty scary, I was 12 when she had the masectomy. But, 16 years later she's still tough as ever and has never had another bout with cancer. It's second only to skin cancer in its recoverability. She will be o.k., now you just have to convince her of that. I sincerely wish ya the best of luck. Keep us posted...
-Steve

Posted: 9/28/2001 4:03:05 PM EDT

[#4]

David, I have prayed for both you and your wife. God will see you through this.

God Bless Texas

Posted: 9/28/2001 4:03:38 PM EDT

[#5]

M4, I don't personally know you or Kelly as many here probably do, But we will include you in our prayers here. Our thoughts will be with you. Also in reference to survival stories, I know two women who have been afflicted and made full recoveries....

Hang in there,
Kiwi

Posted: 9/28/2001 4:24:18 PM EDT

[#6]

My baby son had serious medical problems and died a few months ago.
I don't know anything about cancer, but I know about dealing with doctors when things are going wrong.
Both of you will have a hard time remembering things they say, and will not be able to think of questions. You will also miss cues in their mannerisms.
Have good friends, not relatives, go to the appointments with you. Have them there for everything, every test.
You want to consider your brightest or most level headed friends and ask them first.

Posted: 9/28/2001 4:29:26 PM EDT

[#7]

M4, i'm so sorry to hear that. my step mom just started growing her hair back after radiation and chemo for breast cancer.

my only suggestion is to make sure that you have plenty of people around you for a good strong support group. you'll BOTH need it.

i'm in indy, if there's anything i can do to help, please let me know.

Posted: 9/28/2001 4:32:36 PM EDT

[#8]

Man, I am very sorry.....just remember....it is highly survivable.....you can always come here for some support........

Posted: 9/28/2001 5:41:56 PM EDT

[#9]

I feel your pain brother. Pray for the strenth to HANDLE the result and not for the result that you want. I will tell you right now that its a long hard road to physical and emotional recovery but it CAN be done. My youngest son was 6 months old and sick when we discoverd that my wife had cancer. Please be there as much as you can for her and don't run from the problem like some people do. Good luck and feel free to email me. We can exchange phone numbers and talk if you want. FrankSquid

Posted: 9/28/2001 5:51:02 PM EDT

[#10]

M4,

My prayers are with Kelley and you.
Modern medicine is amazing... keep your head up and do everything you can to keep Kelley positive.

Best of luck.

Posted: 9/28/2001 5:52:04 PM EDT

[#11]

You've got my prayers. Please help her to stay on top of this. A lot of advances have been made in this area in the last few years. Do what the doctor says and be there for her as only you can.

Posted: 9/28/2001 5:58:04 PM EDT

[#12]

You are in our prayers, may G*d watch out over you

Posted: 9/28/2001 6:24:19 PM EDT

[#13]

My fiance is a lymphoma survivor... Four years this past summer. Every day is another small step to victory and a celebration of life. Our prayers are with you.

Posted: 9/28/2001 6:39:50 PM EDT

[#14]

Hang in there, buddy. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Posted: 9/28/2001 7:12:41 PM EDT

[#15]

Hang in there M4... my prayers are with you.

Take care, my friend.

-SARguy

Posted: 9/28/2001 7:18:09 PM EDT

[#16]

God Bless you Both! We will be praying for both of you!

Posted: 9/28/2001 7:20:30 PM EDT

[#17]

Thoughts & prayers for you and your wife! Positive thinking is very important and enjoy the time you spend with each other.

Posted: 9/28/2001 7:25:10 PM EDT

[#18]

My hope and prayers to you both.

Posted: 9/28/2001 7:25:22 PM EDT

[#19]

Thoughts are with you and your family bud.

-- GB

Posted: 9/28/2001 8:12:30 PM EDT

[#20]

A friend had BC and the doctors did a minimal masectomy and rebuilt the rack all at one time. She is walking around today healthy (very) I hope your story ends up the same way. Keep your chin up! Its NOT an automatic death sentence anymore! Good luck

Posted: 9/28/2001 8:29:59 PM EDT

[#21]

Life is a bummer sometimes.
My sister was diagnosed about 7 years ago, and had the mastectomy. Chemo, radiation, the whole bit. Reconstructive surgery a few years ago. She's still with us, still bossy as Hell, and healthier than in the beginning. Prayers or you and Kelly.

Posted: 9/28/2001 8:34:41 PM EDT

[#22]

M4 - Hang in there and be there for her. This is something, unfortunately, that I know something about. My dad died in June 1995 (57 years old) of liver cancer (survivability rate is low). Two months after he died, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer (stage III - aggressive). It was not caught early (spread to lymph nodes), and after lumpectomy, removal of lymph nodes, radiation, and chemo - she has been cancer free for over five years (deemed a milestone). From experience, I can tell you this - make sure you that you accompany her to as many of the hospital visits, doctor consultations, and treatments as you can, bring a notebook and write down everything said. Believe me, it is extremely hard for the affected person to remember what is said about cancer types, stages, and treatment options. The surgeon my mom had was very sharp and was up-to-date with the latest treatments/success rates. You both need to research as much as you can so that she can make the best choices - and she will have a lot of them. If you write everything down and have that info available for her, it is that much less that she has to deal with. Lastly, never give up hope, and don't let her give up. My dad gave up the day the doctor told him he had cancer, and died thirteen months later. My mom never gave up, and has been cancer free for over five years. You are both in my prayers.

Posted: 9/28/2001 8:48:43 PM EDT

[#23]

I will Pray for you and your wife and have you added to our Prayer Circle. I have had more than my fair share of Heart-ache and my Faith in God and His Son have seen me through and made me stronger...

Posted: 9/28/2001 9:00:37 PM EDT

[#24]

I'm sorry to hear that. I will make an appointment to donate some platelets at the City of Hope, Duarte, CA(20 miles east of L.A.) to do state of art research into bone cancers and breast cancer. I know your wife will be okay.

Posted: 9/28/2001 9:27:21 PM EDT

[#25]

You can bet your happy ass if we say probably,then it is!Get it cut out and XRT.
Then Tamoxifen for a time.
Go to a big med center for first care for sure.
Aftercare can be done close to your doc.
cpermd

Posted: 9/28/2001 10:45:13 PM EDT

[#26]

Ask for the strength, the courage and the wisdom. Our prays are with you.

Posted: 9/29/2001 10:46:11 AM EDT

[#27]

Thanks, guys, for all of the support and prayers. We are both confident that this will only be a [b]minor[/b] setback, as we feel that it is contained to the small lump (or so we hope). Kelley is upbeat today, and anticipating the deer archery opener in two days. We bought her tag this morning, and I am walking her to her stand Monday morning in the pre-dawn darkness before I go to work (I won't be hunting until that evening). Maybe she'll get a nice one. After her biopsy this week, she won't be able to draw her bow for awhile. She is a marathon runner and doesn't give up easily. I'll let everyone who is interested know what we find out in a few days. Thanks again and God bless you all.

Posted: 9/29/2001 10:50:38 AM EDT

[#28]

PRAYERS ON THE WAY!

Posted: 9/29/2001 4:16:22 PM EDT

[#29]

[url]http://cancernet.nci.nih.gov/cancer_types/breast_cancer.shtml[/url]

Posted: 10/2/2001 7:08:47 PM EDT

[#30]

We had a similar scare mar2000 the chances of it being malignant are not as great as benign. As it turned out it was a fiber adenoma pretty common pretty painful to remove but not a major deal. Just keep your head up dont think the worst everything will be all right