Just got to vent a little on this one.
I've got a 25 year old step daughter, and a 19 year old step son. Their mother tried her best to discipline them when growing up. Their father NEVER once backed her on her efforts. They were told that when it came to cleaning the house doing chores, homework, etc. That they did not have to do it if they didn't want to, and that the house and yard was moms job. He went to work, and came home and sat on the couch and expected to be waited on. That is what his mom did for his dad.
Needless to say she left. Over the years, she has received a pretty decent inheritance when her parent died, and in her divorce, she received fair settlement. He shit on the kids so bad they left to live with mom, and she had to take him back to court to get child support. Anyway, she has some cash in the bank, which her useless kids dupe her out of endlessly, with the "I'll pay you back" line. Of course they never do.
At present she and I are no longer living together. I live in a studio apartment near work and she and the two kids live in the house I PAY FOR!!!!!
Why are we seperated, because we fight all the time about her kids.
Don't get me wrong, I guess she should count her blessings, as they are not criminals, or drug addicts, etc. They are OK in this respect.
Here is the problem!!
They are the most selfish, manipultive, lazy people I know.
25 year old graduated from college last june. Was laid off from her intern job, because she showed no motivation or work ethic (her managers reason). She will not work a job that is not in her field, and so she lives at home, her mother gives her $350.00 per month for her bills and what not. She was supposed to be helping her mother with the home business.
For 1 year now, I have not seen her put in 1 hours work on the business, she leaves everyday at about noon, goes off with her friends, is gone till midnight or 1:00 am. comes home sleeps till 11:00 am, and gets up and does the same thing again.
Does nothing around the house. Brought home a golden lab last spring, that I was dead set against, because I knew that she would do nothing for the dog. I was assured by her that she would take care of the dog.
Year later, she has never feed the dog once, never spent any time training her (I did, and she is a good dog). Never picks up her mess around the house (and she trashes the place every time she walks through the door). Does not clean anything, and acts like we (her mom and I) have a problem if we ask her to do anything.
By sept. last year, I started getting pissed about her play time on my nickle. I wanted her to get any job, and start paying rent. Her mom would not ask her to do so. My response was to tear up the gas credit card her mom gave her (I pay the bill on it), cancel her cell phone.
She (daughter) was pissed, I told her off a couple of times. Asked her mom to stop giving her money. Which she did, only last month.
Off course, I'm now the asshole, and the jerk. Everytime I'm home she puts on the bitch act and treats me like crap. My response to her and her mom is "keep it up, and I'll stop paying the bills completely, and they can take me to court to get any money out of me." They ought to think twice about bitting the hand that feeds them. I also pointed out to her (the daughter) that getting pissed at me for treating her mother like crap is hypocritical, as she treats her mom like a door mat and a piece of shit to be stepped around. Gets me no where, and it is about to end my second marriage. As nothing changes in the situation.
Problem with the step son is exactly the same with the exception of his mother giving him money. He does work a job as a buss boy in a nice resturant. Yet he is exactly the same in his behavior around the house.
MY POINT!
So even though these kids are not problem people with violent behavior, they are sponges on socioty and their family. They act like their mother, and the world owes them something, for just being here.
I see this a lot with kids today!!!
I have two other buddies, that are going through the same thing with their children, or their step children.
What the hell is wrong with todays youth?
If you want things, work for them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Geez what a fucking concept!!!!!1