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Posted: 3/29/2009 12:47:26 AM EDT
A poster on another forum that is 99% mothers started this topic.

Her husband of 15 years enjoys watching her have sex with other men. Over the years she has slept with 5 of his friends on various occasions and now is pregnant and since the condom broke during one of her sessions with his friend, they're not even sure the baby is her husband's. SHE does not enjoy filling his fantasy for him and has told him that she wants to stop. He not only begs her to do it but he then treats her badly for days afterwards (my guess is to assuage his guilt). They've gone to counseling before and he stopped for a while but slowly began to work it back into their sex life and she said that even when she refuses to do it he still acts it out verbally and can't "finish" without talking about her with another man.

So! She said she put her foot down recently and told him she was not going to do it anymore under any circumstances and that he needed help. After thinking about it he approached her and his argument was this: I work 40 hours a week at a job I hate to support this family. You're able to stay home with our son because of my financial support and you both enjoy that. If I am able to get up every day and go to a job I hate, you should be able to do this for me once in a while. I sacrifice and don't ask for anything in return but this and I feel it's your responsibility to fulfill me in that way.

I've read the responses from all the women on the other site and I'd like to see what a group of outspoken men think about the whole thing.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:50:35 AM EDT
Originally Posted By OnlineAllTheTime:
A poster on another forum that is 99% mothers started this topic.

Her husband of 15 years enjoys watching her have sex with other men. Over the years she has slept with 5 of his friends on various occasions and now is pregnant and since the condom broke during one of her sessions with his friend, they're not even sure the baby is her husband's. SHE does not enjoy filling his fantasy for him and has told him that she wants to stop. He not only begs her to do it but he then treats her badly for days afterwards (my guess is to assuage his guilt). They've gone to counseling before and he stopped for a while but slowly began to work it back into their sex life and she said that even when she refuses to do it he still acts it out verbally and can't "finish" without talking about her with another man.

So! She said she put her foot down recently and told him she was not going to do it anymore under any circumstances and that he needed help. After thinking about it he approached her and his argument was this: I work 40 hours a week at a job I hate to support this family. You're able to stay home with our son because of my financial support and you both enjoy that. If I am able to get up every day and go to a job I hate, you should be able to do this for me once in a while. I sacrifice and don't ask for anything in return but this and I feel it's your responsibility to fulfill me in that way.

I've read the responses from all the women on the other site and I'd like to see what a group of outspoken men think about the whole thing.


That's an amazingly fucked situation.

Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:51:17 AM EDT
Wow. Maybe he's a closet homo imagining those acts performed on him.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:51:25 AM EDT
Did she really not know he was a pervert when she married him?
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:51:43 AM EDT
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:52:37 AM EDT
Deficiency of lead in his diet.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:53:58 AM EDT
He's a sociopath? History of abuse/abandonment? Who the fuck really knows?

Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:54:21 AM EDT
I've heard of this before.

She's an "enabler" and as fucked up as he is. They both need serious counselling, serious meds, or to be put down like mad dogs.

Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:55:00 AM EDT
He is profoundly screwed up in the head and does not love her nor respect her. She is a thing to him. As far as he's concerned she is only there for his amusement.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:55:42 AM EDT
waste of oxygen
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:57:34 AM EDT
If she did it more than once then she's just as messed up as he is. if it was really something that she didn't want to do she should have put her foot down the first time he asked her.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:57:55 AM EDT
Oh, and by the way, Is She Hot?

Post pics.

Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:59:04 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Mom2Sarah:
If she did it more than once then she's just as messed up as he is. if it was really something that she didn't want to do she should have put her foot down the first time he asked her.




YIKES!

I would have drawn the line earlier than that.

Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:59:08 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/29/2009 1:00:07 AM EDT by woodbutcher223308]
, He's fucked up.

Got pics of the his wife?
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 12:59:11 AM EDT
Originally Posted By GA-Dawg:
He is profoundly screwed up in the head and does not love her nor respect her. She is a thing to him. As far as he's concerned she is only there for his amusement.

This, BUT...

What in the hell posessed this woman to comply with such a fucked-up request even the first time? The mere mention of it should have had her running like hell.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:00:07 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Room101:
Did she really not know he was a pervert when she married him?



She did. They were young and it was exciting at first, being able to please him in that way and everyone was willing and nobody was hurt. Once they had a child her priorities changed and she keeps thinking that someday her husband will grow up and get over this.

I say it's a fetish hardwired into his brain and he'll never be able to get over it.

She doesn't want to leave because he's a good father and good husband in every other way. I think that's bullshit because a good husband doesn't pimp out his wife and expect her to whore herself out to his friends in return for financial support. But that's not how she sees it. She feels guilty because part of her thinks she SHOULD grin and bear it to make him happy. Typical of an abused person.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:00:57 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/29/2009 1:02:18 AM EDT by USMC6177]
Dude mommy forums are the craziest places on the internets. My wife was part of a few that were like giant goat rodeos. Due to the constant drama and spiteful bitches I made her stop posting on them.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:04:40 AM EDT
Originally Posted By USMC6177:
Dude mommy forums are the craziest places on the internets. My wife was part of a few that were like giant goat rodeos. Due to the constant drama and spiteful bitches I made here stop posting on them.


This is true. It's Babycenter and one of the posters, for her sigline, has "BBC=Bitches Be Crazy."

I generally stay away from the drama boards and drama threads and hang on the debate boards which draws a different caliber of poster. That's why this one is upsetting to me––––-it's a debate board regular who is under a hidden account because she's ashamed for anyone to know it's her. She comes off as very intelligent and not at all the type of poster you'd expect to post something like this. She just sounds beaten down though and like there's no strength left to do what's right.

Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:08:49 AM EDT
Originally Posted By OnlineAllTheTime:
Originally Posted By USMC6177:
Dude mommy forums are the craziest places on the internets. My wife was part of a few that were like giant goat rodeos. Due to the constant drama and spiteful bitches I made here stop posting on them.


This is true. It's Babycenter and one of the posters, for her sigline, has "BBC=Bitches Be Crazy."

I generally stay away from the drama boards and drama threads and hang on the debate boards which draws a different caliber of poster. That's why this one is upsetting to me––––-it's a debate board regular who is under a hidden account because she's ashamed for anyone to know it's her. She comes off as very intelligent and not at all the type of poster you'd expect to post something like this. She just sounds beaten down though and like there's no strength left to do what's right.





But, other than that, she has a good life.



Avoid the "professional victims" like the plague.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:11:02 AM EDT
fuct
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:11:22 AM EDT
Originally Posted By OnlineAllTheTime:
Originally Posted By USMC6177:
Dude mommy forums are the craziest places on the internets. My wife was part of a few that were like giant goat rodeos. Due to the constant drama and spiteful bitches I made here stop posting on them.


This is true. It's Babycenter and one of the posters, for her sigline, has "BBC=Bitches Be Crazy."

I generally stay away from the drama boards and drama threads and hang on the debate boards which draws a different caliber of poster. That's why this one is upsetting to me––––-it's a debate board regular who is under a hidden account because she's ashamed for anyone to know it's her. She comes off as very intelligent and not at all the type of poster you'd expect to post something like this. She just sounds beaten down though and like there's no strength left to do what's right.




Ohh shit...

My wife is a BBC poster.... Its not me though I swear!!!
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:15:16 AM EDT
I'm going with repressed homo as well.

I had an ex-girlfriend who had a threesome with her then boyfriend and his best friend. I was shocked when she told me. Even more shocked when she admitted she really just kind of sat to the side as the dudes railed each other.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:16:11 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/29/2009 1:16:55 AM EDT by LinggrrLonggrr]
I heard about stuff like this a while ago on Opie and Anthony. The guy is a "cuckold", he get's off on watching other men screw his woman. It's fucked up.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 1:20:21 AM EDT
Originally Posted By LinggrrLonggrr:
I heard about stuff like this a while ago on Opie and Anthony. The guy is a "cuckold", he get's off on watching other men screw his woman. It's fucked up.


Wow...

Just looked up cuckold....
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 2:56:40 AM EDT
I'm going with the 12 guage therapy program
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 2:57:52 AM EDT
what I dont get is that they seems to be quite a bit of porn and erotic stories dealing with this subject?? I have no idea why any guy would want to see their wife with another, u would think that would be just about the biggest turn off to the point where you would be looking for your trusty .45...
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 3:01:43 AM EDT
Originally Posted By OnlineAllTheTime:
A poster on another forum that is 99% mothers started this topic.

Her husband of 15 years enjoys watching her have sex with other men. Over the years she has slept with 5 of his friends on various occasions and now is pregnant and since the condom broke during one of her sessions with his friend, they're not even sure the baby is her husband's. SHE does not enjoy filling his fantasy for him and has told him that she wants to stop. He not only begs her to do it but he then treats her badly for days afterwards (my guess is to assuage his guilt). They've gone to counseling before and he stopped for a while but slowly began to work it back into their sex life and she said that even when she refuses to do it he still acts it out verbally and can't "finish" without talking about her with another man.

So! She said she put her foot down recently and told him she was not going to do it anymore under any circumstances and that he needed help. After thinking about it he approached her and his argument was this: I work 40 hours a week at a job I hate to support this family. You're able to stay home with our son because of my financial support and you both enjoy that. If I am able to get up every day and go to a job I hate, you should be able to do this for me once in a while. I sacrifice and don't ask for anything in return but this and I feel it's your responsibility to fulfill me in that way.

I've read the responses from all the women on the other site and I'd like to see what a group of outspoken men think about the whole thing.


She and he have to go to a real therapist - a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist, not a "marriage advisor" - and sort this problem out, or she has to divorce him.

Simple as that.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 3:01:44 AM EDT
I'd fuck my ol' lady with the barrel of a shotgun as well as the ass of the dude if I ever caught her with another guy. Both would suffer greatly before I ended their worthless existances
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 3:04:27 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Mech2007:
I've heard of this before.

She's an "enabler" and as fucked up as he is. They both need serious counselling, serious meds, or to be put down like mad dogs.



Yep. He's punishing her. I would guess he had a fucked up relationship with mommy also.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 3:06:29 AM EDT
Originally Posted By texas_mustang_01:
I'm going with repressed homo as well.

I had an ex-girlfriend who had a threesome with her then boyfriend and his best friend. I was shocked when she told me. Even more shocked when she admitted she really just kind of sat to the side as the dudes railed each other.


That is just gay. The ONLY kind of threesome involves two girls and one guy. And that is it. No exceptions.

Anyway, what a freak. They both need to go to Europe where their kind is accepted (sort of).
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 3:15:32 AM EDT
wtf?......
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 3:16:17 AM EDT
I'm not a mental health professional, but I'd guess some control issues compounded with a need to grind her self image down to the level of his own. Whatever. This relationship isn't worth even trying to save; she needs to bail.


Jane
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 3:59:04 AM EDT
That situation is screwed up. Guy is sick.
Plus, if he hates his job so damned much, why doesn't he get one he likes?
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:10:31 AM EDT
Could you post a link? That must be one crazy place around menstral (sp?) cycle time
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:11:46 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/29/2009 4:16:18 AM EDT by HellifIknow]
The guy is never gonna change. At least he isn't screwing around behind her back. He's told her right up front what he wants.

If she feels it is wrong she should have the guts to walk. No its not going to be easy.
If she can't stand up for herself then tough shit. Call the WAAAAAbulance.
SHE is going to have to be the one to make the change.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:15:34 AM EDT
A man has got to be a strange MF'er to want to see someone else banging his woman.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:22:38 AM EDT
Even though she has consented in the past, this is rape.She doesn't want to do this, he is mentally forcing her to.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:23:31 AM EDT
Originally Posted By COZ:
A man has got to be a strange MF'er to want to see someone else banging his woman.


QFT. I might bang your wife, but I don't want anybody else to so much as shake hands with mine.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:49:45 AM EDT
wow
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:55:02 AM EDT
He is a sick person, probably gay, and should be raising children.....ever.

She should pack her bags, take the kid and leave...but she is also obviously damaged goods for being a part of this experiment....she needs serious therapy.

I feel sad for the kid(s) - they didnt ask for this.
Some people shouldnt breed.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 4:57:42 AM EDT
That woman needs to eject from that situation. That is positively fucked in all ways, shapes and forms.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:16:31 AM EDT
Originally Posted By OnlineAllTheTime:
I've read the responses from all the women on the other site and I'd like to see what a group of outspoken men think about the whole thing.


She picked poorly, and at this point she may as well get a divorce.

This dude is looking for a stay at home prostitute basically, and theres plenty of shitty women out there willing to do all that.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:18:02 AM EDT
When's he going to want to see other men fuck his kid?
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:20:08 AM EDT
She's just as fuct up as he is. To think she even agreed to it...

Niether one is going to recover from this, the kid will have to deal with it eventually, friendships are compromised,...NO winners in this one. Start another life with somebody else-some where else.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:25:22 AM EDT
Little dick insecurities. Doesn't feel like he's pleasing his woman. His fantasy is seeing his woman getting the satifaction he can't give her from other men. Treats her badly after because it doesn't really fix his issue. She needs to bail before he becomes "friends" with some black dude with a stovepipe for a cock.

God some dudes are just fucked up.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:29:37 AM EDT
Originally Posted By thecleaner:
She's just as fuct up as he is. To think she even agreed to it...

Niether one is going to recover from this, the kid will have to deal with it eventually, friendships are compromised,...NO winners in this one. Start another life with somebody else-some where else.


I agree with this (although, I'm not a man and you DID ask for the male opinion)
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:35:19 AM EDT
In on one.
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:37:40 AM EDT
Originally Posted By 1Andy2:
Deficiency of lead in his diet.


This...........
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:38:40 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 3/29/2009 5:40:55 AM EDT by Plumbata]
Very common. Classic spousal abuse behavior. Google "circle of abuse"
Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:44:30 AM EDT
Originally Posted By COZ:
A man has got to be a strange MF'er to want to see someone else banging his woman.


What he said, I couldn't sit back and watch that shit, I'd want to kill a M-FER! Definately not healthy to the relationship!

Link Posted: 3/29/2009 5:44:59 AM EDT
Originally Posted By thatjonguy:
Originally Posted By texas_mustang_01:
I'm going with repressed homo as well.

I had an ex-girlfriend who had a threesome with her then boyfriend and his best friend. I was shocked when she told me. Even more shocked when she admitted she really just kind of sat to the side as the dudes railed each other.


That is just gay. The ONLY kind of threesome involves two girls and one guy. And that is it. No exceptions.

Anyway, what a freak. They both need to go to Europe where their kind is accepted (sort of).


Two guys and a girl is a gangbang.

No exceptions.
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