My girlfriend has an 8 year old. Her ex is 40 and has a 20/21 year old pregnant girlfriend.
When the kid is at dad's, he is evidently allowed to sleep in the bed with dad and GF. When I stay at my girlfriend's place, he often wants to sleep in the bed with us, and cites "daddy lets me do it" as a validation of why it's ok. My girlfriend also lets him sleep with her when she's alone.
I'm frankly uncomfortable as hell with this. She sleeps in between us when she allows it so it's not like I'm snuggling with someone else's kid, but it still creeps me out. Aside from the creepy feeling, it leads to nobody in the bed getting any sleep at all except for the kid.
I don't think an 8-year old should be sleeping in any bed but his own, especially one where there are non-parents involved. I think that both the mother and father should tell the kid to stay in his own bed and start putting their foot (feet?) down.
Am I crazy? Is 8 too old to be sleeping with mommy and daddy on a regular basis?