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Link Posted: 11/30/2011 7:05:27 PM EST
I don't have a lot to add other than to say this: I've lost a few very close people to suicide, and I was on that edge myself 20 years ago. I know exactly how it feels, and I know the consequences for those left behind. If anyone here ever needs to talk, or if anyone in middle TN just needs to hang out and air stuff out, shoot me an IM and I'll give you my number or meet up.
Link Posted: 11/30/2011 7:08:15 PM EST
I've seen it twice before, and both times people stepped up and offered to help.


This place is full of great people.





Link Posted: 11/30/2011 7:18:05 PM EST
Shameless bump.  
Link Posted: 12/4/2011 7:30:39 PM EST
Thanks for this.
Link Posted: 12/23/2011 11:54:15 AM EST
bump.  The holidays can be a tough time.


Link Posted: 12/23/2011 12:01:32 PM EST
You sir are a very good man.  

Merry Christmas to you and your family.
Link Posted: 12/23/2011 12:05:40 PM EST
This place is amazing!
Link Posted: 12/23/2011 12:08:57 PM EST
Originally Posted By kill-9:
bump.  The holidays can be a tough time.


Yes they can, if anyone needs an ear to bend, my Wife has to work all weekend so I'll most likely be here. Don't hesitate to ask.



Link Posted: 12/23/2011 12:22:14 PM EST
Since I usually come here for the lulz of GD and lets face it there usually are some....its a hell of a good break for me to laugh every now and then.  Right now my job sucks and its affecting me pretty good and my wife sees it, which lets all face it aint good news.  But I do have Arf and GD to make me laugh and forget about the bullshit at work that weighs on me that I bring home sometimes.  I have a great family, a loving wife, 3 great dags and several very close friends for support.  I may hate it somedays and it may depress me but I get up and do it again anyway cause I need to face life and all it throws at me.  

I may be a bit of a hot mess somedays but if I can ever help anyone please let me know.

Thanks EdSr for this place.  Merry Christmas Arfcom.  2012 is gonna be a much better year.
Link Posted: 12/23/2011 12:47:27 PM EST
[Last Edit: 12/23/2011 12:49:39 PM EST by wormgod]
Originally Posted By dragongoddess:
Just FYI from WebMD

Also if a friend has had a major stress event involving relationships,family,health,job,financial or other events keep a watchful eye on them. Maybe spend some extra time with them but let them know you are there.

Warning signs that someone may be thinking about or planning to commit suicide include:

Always talking or thinking about death

Clinical depression –– deep sadness, loss of interest, trouble sleeping and eating –– that gets worse

Having a "death wish," tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death such as driving fast or running red lights

Losing interest in things one used to care about

Making comments about being hopeless, helpless, or worthless

Putting affairs in order, tying up loose ends, changing a will

Saying things like "it would be better if I wasn't here" or "I want out"

Sudden, unexpected switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy

Talking about suicide or killing one's self

Visiting or calling people to say goodbye

Giving things away is also another thing to watch for




hmmm.  i answered yes to quite a few of those.  i always wanted to be a drama queen.  I was pretty damn close last year.  thankfully for my family i came back from the edge.  I am available to talk if anyone needs to chat.  maybe i can help, having been there myself.
Link Posted: 12/23/2011 10:25:52 PM EST



Originally Posted By Hooligan30:




2012 is gonna be a much better year.


I hope so.





 
Link Posted: 2/22/2012 9:39:39 AM EST
Remember, we are here for you.
Link Posted: 2/22/2012 9:43:18 AM EST
Thanks bossman. Add me to the list of people to call.
Link Posted: 5/2/2012 10:33:34 AM EST
This is why life memberships sell out so fast.

Fantastic thread Ed.

TXL
Link Posted: 7/20/2014 7:37:49 PM EST
bump.
Link Posted: 7/20/2014 8:09:02 PM EST
I have been there and back several times. I have a few tricks that my 50 years of life on this rock has taught me.

First, remember, it is never as bad as it seems.
Second, things always change for the better eventually.
Third, you have an important place in this world to the people around you.
Fourth, you are not alone in your struggle.

You might feel trapped, but you are not.

A year ago, I was on the ledge. A job change, a heart to heart with my loved ones, a health challenge turned me around.
Take your life apart and put it back the way you want it.

Delete chemicals that are not prescribed by a licensed medical practitioner.
Exercise. Eat right. Improvise, adapt, and overcome. Be proud of yourself.

I am available for anyone at anytime that wants to talk, or needs a favor.

I owe you guys. Thank you.
Link Posted: 7/20/2014 8:11:28 PM EST
This is one of the many reasons shy this site is so great. Good stuff!!
Link Posted: 7/20/2014 8:53:25 PM EST

   A warm, caring and fantastic idea and invitation.     Thanks.



  We should all be here for each other.


Link Posted: 7/20/2014 9:38:04 PM EST
[Last Edit: 7/21/2014 9:05:35 PM EST by timthemedic]
OST

IM sent to Ed.  Any of you folks can call me if you want.  I'm an MSW if you GAF about that kind of stuff.
Link Posted: 4/21/2015 6:45:38 PM EST
Bumping to keep out of archive.
Link Posted: 4/21/2015 6:50:28 PM EST

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Originally Posted By Hedonist:


Bumping to keep out of archive.
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I saw this in active topics, and it was like a bat signal, like "shit, who's in trouble now!"



Reminds me of the time that I posted a thread about my bike being stolen, and people assumed that my girlfriend had left me (based on the thread title), and some people came in prepared to talk me down. LOL!



 
Link Posted: 4/21/2015 6:52:34 PM EST
For all the cantankerous back and forths that occur on this site, the reason I stay is because even though we might disagree ideologically in many ways........the good very much outweighs the bad.
Link Posted: 4/21/2015 7:13:13 PM EST
Link Posted: 4/21/2015 7:48:43 PM EST
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Originally Posted By fla556guy:
For all the cantankerous back and forths that occur on this site, the reason I stay is because even though we might disagree ideologically in many ways........the good very much outweighs the bad.
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Link Posted: 4/22/2015 9:33:09 AM EST
Link Posted: 7/23/2015 9:40:54 AM EST
Another offer of help if anyone is in need.

http://www.ar15.com/forums/t_1_5/1770876_A_helping_hand_thread.html
Link Posted: 7/23/2015 10:12:48 AM EST
Link Posted: 7/23/2015 7:07:11 PM EST
Link Posted: 9/18/2015 9:19:09 AM EST
IM sent Ed with my info. I'm not a pro but would gladly do what I could to help someone down.
Link Posted: 11/25/2015 4:47:01 PM EST
Here's a member that is a little concerning to me. I haven't finished reading the thread but it's in team;

http://www.ar15.com/forums/t_1_75/1788930_I_m_not_doing_too_good.html
Link Posted: 12/22/2015 9:32:12 AM EST
Christmas week bump.
Link Posted: 12/22/2015 9:45:02 AM EST
Good on you Ed, very good!!!
Link Posted: 12/22/2015 10:20:08 AM EST
Ed,
You have mail.
Link Posted: 12/22/2015 11:08:36 AM EST
Link Posted: 12/23/2015 7:52:02 PM EST
[Last Edit: 12/23/2015 7:56:02 PM EST by odontia32m]
Had a 70k per year job
Wife was acting more weird and dressing including makeup
Wife gettin mean on fire water, only hard alcohol but would not quit
She would not stop
Beat me in the head
Waited for cops outside profusely bleeding
She trashed the home and scratched herself as I bleed freely
I went to jail as well as her.  I had not had a full drink.
Fired
6 k in fees so far and will go to trial.


Life sucks, I suspected she was cheating fir months as she was accusing me that I was not doing.

17 years gone.  I worked 2 jobs to get her through school.




Pray for me.  I am now in my 35 foot RV in Oklahoma"
Link Posted: 12/23/2015 8:14:54 PM EST
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Originally Posted By odontia32m:
Had a 70k per year job
Wife was acting more weird and dressing including makeup
Wife gettin mean on fire water, only hard alcohol but would not quit
She would not stop
Beat me in the head
Waited for cops outside profusely bleeding
She trashed the home and scratched herself as I bleed freely
I went to jail as well as her.  I had not had a full drink.
Fired
6 k in fees so far and will go to trial.


Life sucks, I suspected she was cheating fir months as she was accusing me that I was not doing.

17 years gone.  I worked 2 jobs to get her through school.




Pray for me.  I am now in my 35 foot RV in Oklahoma"
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IM me if you need to talk off line.
I'll do anything I can.
Link Posted: 12/23/2015 8:20:46 PM EST
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Originally Posted By OKnativeson:


IM me if you need to talk off line.
I'll do anything I can.
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Originally Posted By OKnativeson:
Originally Posted By odontia32m:
Had a 70k per year job
Wife was acting more weird and dressing including makeup
Wife gettin mean on fire water, only hard alcohol but would not quit
She would not stop
Beat me in the head
Waited for cops outside profusely bleeding
She trashed the home and scratched herself as I bleed freely
I went to jail as well as her.  I had not had a full drink.
Fired
6 k in fees so far and will go to trial.


Life sucks, I suspected she was cheating fir months as she was accusing me that I was not doing.

17 years gone.  I worked 2 jobs to get her through school.




Pray for me.  I am now in my 35 foot RV in Oklahoma"


IM me if you need to talk off line.
I'll do anything I can.



Ditto from here.
Link Posted: 12/23/2015 8:38:35 PM EST
[Last Edit: 12/23/2015 9:05:40 PM EST by bowbender7]
I have been to the edge and was done, years ago.  I found life again and can't put into words how glad I am for it.  No details are needed for this post, but anyone that just wants insufferable pain to end regarding sexual abuse is welcome to contact me.  I want nothing from anyone other than an opportunity to help someone caught in that nightmare of not wanting to wake up.  

Mr. Avilla thank you for offering to coordinate this for the benefit of members here.  For the record, I'm good thirty years later.

The sad fact is that some folks reach that point with no warning and they are the most dangerous to themselves.  They are serious about the solution as were I.


Anyone reading this thread that has a problem is welcome to contact me.  I have been to a place that I wish upon nobody.  Life after that is full of unexpected abilities to help people.  Dealing with the hand you've been dealt can be a real motherfucker, but someone wins in the end.

Link Posted: 12/23/2015 9:22:34 PM EST
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Originally Posted By bowbender7:
I have been to the edge and was done, years ago.  I found life again and can't put into words how glad I am for it.  No details are needed for this post, but anyone that just wants insufferable pain to end regarding sexual abuse is welcome to contact me.  I want nothing from anyone other than an opportunity to help someone caught in that nightmare of not wanting to wake up.  

Mr. Avilla thank you for offering to coordinate this for the benefit of members here.  For the record, I'm good thirty years later.

The sad fact is that some folks reach that point with no warning and they are the most dangerous to themselves.  They are serious about the solution as were I.


Anyone reading this thread that has a problem is welcome to contact me.  I have been to a place that I wish upon nobody.  Life after that is full of unexpected abilities to help people.  Dealing with the hand you've been dealt can be a real motherfucker, but someone wins in the end.

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there is help out there.
Link Posted: 12/23/2015 9:29:51 PM EST
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 8:26:40 PM EST
Thanks everyone  for all the  the prayer.   Thanks again Ed.
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 8:51:14 PM EST
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 9:03:14 PM EST
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Originally Posted By odontia32m:
Had a 70k per year job
Wife was acting more weird and dressing including makeup
Wife gettin mean on fire water, only hard alcohol but would not quit
She would not stop
Beat me in the head
Waited for cops outside profusely bleeding
She trashed the home and scratched herself as I bleed freely
I went to jail as well as her.  I had not had a full drink.
Fired
6 k in fees so far and will go to trial.


Life sucks, I suspected she was cheating fir months as she was accusing me that I was not doing.

17 years gone.  I worked 2 jobs to get her through school.




Pray for me.  I am now in my 35 foot RV in Oklahoma"
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Dang man that's rough. Keep your head up, things will get good again
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 9:30:40 PM EST
[Last Edit: 12/25/2015 9:31:14 PM EST by berto187]
Thanks Ed and all the other angels out there.





Keep your head up folks in the darkness


 
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 9:40:23 PM EST
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Originally Posted By odontia32m:
Had a 70k per year job
Wife was acting more weird and dressing including makeup
Wife gettin mean on fire water, only hard alcohol but would not quit
She would not stop
Beat me in the head
Waited for cops outside profusely bleeding
She trashed the home and scratched herself as I bleed freely
I went to jail as well as her.  I had not had a full drink.
Fired
6 k in fees so far and will go to trial.


Life sucks, I suspected she was cheating fir months as she was accusing me that I was not doing.

17 years gone.  I worked 2 jobs to get her through school.




Pray for me.  I am now in my 35 foot RV in Oklahoma"
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This team is behind you, brother.

Hang in there.
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 9:43:23 PM EST
I know it's backwards from what everybody says, but what got me through when I used to want to kill myself was thinking I'm a worthless piece of shit and I deserve to suffer.
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 9:59:00 PM EST
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Originally Posted By odontia32m:
Had a 70k per year job
Wife was acting more weird and dressing including makeup
Wife gettin mean on fire water, only hard alcohol but would not quit
She would not stop
Beat me in the head
Waited for cops outside profusely bleeding
She trashed the home and scratched herself as I bleed freely
I went to jail as well as her.  I had not had a full drink.
Fired
6 k in fees so far and will go to trial.


Life sucks, I suspected she was cheating fir months as she was accusing me that I was not doing.

17 years gone.  I worked 2 jobs to get her through school.




Pray for me.  I am now in my 35 foot RV in Oklahoma"
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You hold on.  Don't lose perspective.  
You can do it.
Don't quit and you will see that you can have a life back
Better than before
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 10:02:45 PM EST
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 10:11:14 PM EST
One of my troops woke up a couple months ago and shot himself. No note, no outward signs of depression. Just woke up, reached over to his nightstand and did it. He had a pretty amazing life for a single dude. Just goes to show that it can hit anyone. Don't be afraid to reach for help any where you can get it.
Link Posted: 12/25/2015 10:15:23 PM EST
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Originally Posted By TXGunnersM8:
One of my troops woke up a couple months ago and shot himself. No note, no outward signs of depression. Just woke up, reached over to his nightstand and did it. He had a pretty amazing life for a single dude. Just goes to show that it can hit anyone. Don't be afraid to reach for help any where you can get it.
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I made sure to call or text or email everyone I had contact info starting on Moday.  I spend a lot of time on the Army subreddit and there's usually at least one "my friend killed himself" posts each week...

As much as I love/loved the Army, fuck our mental health system...

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