(note, I also posted this in the BOTS forum to get maximum exposure, if this was incorrect f me doing so, please delete whichever of the threads. I'm just trying to gather as much intel as possible)
Hi guys, I'm in need of some advice. I don't really have the money for a lawyer, so I thought I'd ask some opinions from your perspective.
So, here's the situation: I was involved with a girl, blah blah blah. Said girl turned out to have infidelity issues. How it went down is like this. She has friends, of whom I did not like because of their drug activity. She started hanging out with them and getting high on pot and such, time and time again. We fought over this multiple times. Well, long story short, she pretty much dumped me for this stupid pothead.
I'll admit I was a bit upset. This all happened right about the time I was laid off from my place of employment. So, needless to say I was feeling a bit low. Well, I talked to her one morning about how I had been thinking of suicide. I know I know... stupid thought, but hey, I'm still here. Well, we basically argued and then it was over. There was no contact as I am not the type to do something like that.
Anyway, so a little time goes on. We do the back and forth argueing from a distance (over the internet or phones). Finally I decided that I was done with her. So, one night I dropped all of her stuff off at the place she was staying, leaving a text message on her phone that her stuff was sealed in a bag in the driveway. Ok, she got her stuff back.
But she had things of mine that I wanted back. Well, I sent her an email stating that I wanted my things back from her. She eventually contacted me and told me that she gave it all away. I asked if that included my artwork. (I am a bit of an artist.)
She said no but that I wasn't getting it back. Well, I told her that I wanted it back regardless, that she had no right to it. So, as it goes, two weeks pass by and nothing. In that time period I hear of her continued drug use, and finally this morning I called her up and said that I wanted my things, and that if she didn't get them back to me, I was going to report her and her friends to the DEA. (which is part of what I'm asking about.)
Okay, so, she leaves my stuff on the front porch, no problems, I pick it up and leave, no knock on the door, no conversation, no sight of each other. Nothing. "Good," I think to myself. "It's done, and now I can go on about my life."
Now, it's nearing 8PM and I just got served a restraining order, stating that I have been accused of stalking. But, it was not considered by the judge to be criminal. Damn straight! I'm no criminal. I've NEVER been in trouble with the law, hell, my last speeding ticket was in 1998.
So anyway, now I have to go to court and speak my case. My questions are as follows:
1- is this going to affect my right to bare arms when I have ABSOLUTELY NO INTENTION of EVER communicating with her again?
2- can some kind of action be taken by the fact (and I forgot to mention) that she spray painted "F*#@ YOU across my artwork? As well, can something be done about the things of mine that she gave away or threw away or whatever she did with it?
3- am I not in the right for wanting to, and do I have the right to, report her and her friend's drug activities to the DEA or local police?
In this situation, what is the prudent thing to do? Obviously obey the order, which I didn't need an order in the first place to do, as it was my intent to break contact after I got my things back in the first place. A little advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.