In summary, I've had a friend for 16 years since we were in 6th grade. Absolutely no romantic feelings, but just really old friends.
We've always been the type of friends that could go weeks or months without talking, but she's gone through some rough times and I've always lent her a caring ear.
Then she got pregnant, and our perodic talking continued throughout as normal, with once her calling me with a flat tire just before she had the baby. I came, I changed in the rain, and we continued our periodic phone conversations.
Then she had the baby, and she told me a couple times I needed to come see the them and I wanted to, but I have a busy life, work, school, girlfriend, etc. and maybe I wasn't thinking but we've always been the friends that went forever without seeing each other so I was just thinking eventually we'd hook up like normal.
I called twice asking if she was free a couple weekends where my g/f and I could come by, but those times weren't good for her. 8 months went by of us talking normally as always, but a couple months ago she stopped talking to me.
Finally she sends a text saying, "You blew us off, it's been a year and you haven't come and seen us. We are fine, I want to be left alone so you can stop checking on me now." (Because I would still call every few weeks and leave a message, just like we always have).
For years she had a b/f and we never saw each other, and I have a g/f now and I never see her, but I always kept in touch like we have in the past, but now because she had a baby I'm the jerk for not coming to see her, yet whenever she needed me, I was there time and again.
So am I a total prick and need to work profusely to apologize? I already have saying life has just been busy, and I went through some medical stuff this past year, but she should know after 16 years of friendship just because I haven't seen her doesn't mean I don't care. It never mattered before for either of us who went without making time for the other, and maybe I took that for granted, but apparently this was the final draw.
She has a history of blowing off old friends when something goes wrong, but I never thought I'd be one of them.
What say you?