Do you hang out with your dad?

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Posted: 3/15/2011 8:57:42 PM EDT

I'm 41, my dad is 72.

I currently live about an hour away from parents. I work for the county he lives in and the sector/beat I usually work includes his house so I usually pop in and see them a couple times a month when working.

I work a schedule that changes so a couple times a month I'll take a ride out to his place with my truck and utility trailer tinkering around his yard hauling brush and small odds and ends.

They (my parents) always take me out for lunch and my dad always slips me $50-$60 for helping him out "put it in your gas tank" he always comments.

My dad for some crazy reason became a liberal after the first term of the second Bush but we do see eye to eye on certain things.

I did buy him his first gun a couple years back and have brought him to the range...last week after stacking his wood pile we sat and had a conversation on oil and energy and funny after the whole Japan thing we also discussed nuclear energy. We sat for a long time in the sun just talking...I kept looking at him thinking "man he's getting old" and wondering how much longer he'll be around.

Don't know why I'm even posting this...I guess the reason is I called him tonight and told him I would come out. He told me I don't have to since I probably have things to do at my place.

I said I want to come out...I look forward to hanging out with him...to which he replied "thanks"

Posted: 3/15/2011 8:58:27 PM EDT

[#1]

I live in the man's basement so yes, yes I do

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:00:02 PM EDT

[#2]

As much as I can

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:01:43 PM EDT

[#3]

I wish it was only an hour trip to see my Dad

He's about a 14hr drive, with the cost of plane tickets, I only can get out there about twice a year

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:03:20 PM EDT

[#4]

don't know my father but my grandfather is my dad (he raised me pretty much) and yes I see him at minimum every other weekend. We hunt and shoot constantly.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:03:40 PM EDT

[#5]

I talk to him from time to time, but i don't make an effort to see him much.

My father in law I do, but lately with what has been going on in my life not so much.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:04:09 PM EDT

[#6]

I go to the cemetery every once in a while. Makes my wish I would have spent more time with him.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:04:29 PM EDT

[#7]

Not since 9 January, 1979.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:04:37 PM EDT

[#8]

I did the same thing before my dad passed away. Your plan has nothing but win in it. The feeling you get hanging out with your dad and making those memories will stay with you for the rest of your life. I almost feel guilty because I got so much pleasure out of hanging with my dad when he was in his later years.

It's a blessing and you should treat it as such. I've always believed that spending time with someone is the most precious gift of all, time is the one thing we can't make more of... spend it wisely.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:04:39 PM EDT

[#9]

yes, 31 and 58

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:06:14 PM EDT

[#10]

I do. He's one of my range and fishing buddies. It also helps that he lives 2 miles from me. I'm 28 and he's 58. While I was growing up he was a drunk and I didn't spend too much time with him. Didn't really "meet" him til I was in college so we're making up for lost time..

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:07:09 PM EDT

[#11]

No. He's dead, and was an asshole before that. I helped take care of him out of a sense of duty, but did not enjoy his company.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:08:33 PM EDT

[#12]

Nope.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:09:28 PM EDT

[#13]

Yup, always enjoy it.

25 - 66

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:10:08 PM EDT

[#14]

At least a few times a week. My Grandfather too. If I am half the man my Grandfather is I will be a great man.
I'm 24, Dad is 59, Grandfather is 81.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:10:13 PM EDT

[#15]

Not nearly as much as I would like to. Sucks living 700 miles away.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:11:09 PM EDT

[#16]

Not as much as I would like to, but yeah. I'm 28, he's 63. Solid guy and I'm lucky to be able to call him Pops.

DP

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:11:31 PM EDT

[#17]

I am with you OP. My dad is a great guy, and we've gone through an interesting transition in that last decade or so. I used to need his advice all the time, and I still appreciate his experience and knowledge but I'm a dad myself now. I've got a wife, job, responsibility myself. So now it's more like we just kind of hang out as friends instead of father/son. l;uckily he's a pretty healthy guy so he'll be around for a while.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:12:43 PM EDT

[#18]

My best friend. For real.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:13:12 PM EDT

[#19]

He's dead Jim.

But, yeah, I used to. Always had a really great relationship with him. His passing left a big hole in my heart.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:13:46 PM EDT

[#20]

No...he was an alcoholic and and adulterer by the time I was 18...I left town on the first thing smokin and never went back...Since then he has cleaned up his act and is active in the church..we talk on the phones once a month but it will never be like it is between some dads and their sons

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:14:40 PM EDT

[#21]

I did until he died in 2000. Now I'm the "old man" of the family...

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:15:12 PM EDT

[#22]

Nope....he's a stealing, lying, asshole who leeches what he can out of who will let him.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:15:52 PM EDT

[#23]

We live together, he's 80 and I feel like I'm 81...

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:16:20 PM EDT

[#24]

I work with my dad

24-72

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:16:50 PM EDT

[#25]

As much as I can

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:20:47 PM EDT

[#26]

My dad has been 98% absent from my life since I was 7 years old.

He has been calling regularly recently.

He's 77 now and failing and obviously has become aware of his limited time left.

I live 2500 miles away and I'm busy with my own life.

He should have gave me a little thought 10,20,30,40 years ago.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:22:01 PM EDT

[#27]

Used to.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:22:57 PM EDT

[#28]

As much as he will stand me.lol

Been trying to plan a moose hunt where we used to go before he gets to old
Old fart is 64.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:24:22 PM EDT

[#29]

All the time.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:24:47 PM EDT

[#30]

Quoted:
Used to.

+1

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:25:26 PM EDT

[#31]

About once a month. He lives on the other side of town and I go over for dinners and to help out with whatever.

He's about as far left as I am right so as long as we don't talk politics it's all good.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:26:15 PM EDT

[#32]

I hang out with my wife every now and again. Never just hang out with anyone else. Just don't.

My father gets lots of respect from me, in part for putting up with my Mother. She is great, too, but can get wearisome.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:26:51 PM EDT

[#33]

As much as I can. Greatest person in the world as far as I'm concerned.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:28:19 PM EDT

[#34]

Yeah, and he helped me start a business that did really well. He passed in March 0f 06.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:31:21 PM EDT

[#35]

Quoted:

I go to the cemetery every once in a while. Makes my wish I would have spent more time with him.

This is why I have been really trying to spend time with my father. I dread looking at a stone and wishing that I'd had more time.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:32:13 PM EDT

[#36]

Nope, I live about 3000 miles away from my parents. I do talk to them several times a month and visit 3-4 times a year.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:32:51 PM EDT

[#37]

I see him as little as possible and he lives about 20 minutes away from me.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:33:50 PM EDT

[#38]

Not as much time as I wish, but I cherish the time we do share.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:36:28 PM EDT

[#39]

Yeah, almost every day. I'm 20 and he's 65ish (can't remember his specific age

). I wish I got along with him better, but every time I see him, he pisses me off in some way. It's one of those things where our age gap is awful. I'm 20 and getting into life, and he's old and tired of putting effort into life. I really need to stop letting him piss me off and make myself get along with him, because I have time to spend with him now, but I don't know how long that will last.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:37:10 PM EDT

[#40]

I go to school about an hour and a half from home. I try to head home at least once if not twice a month. Sometimes dad decides it's been too long since I've been home and heads out to my apt., which is fine with me because he always brings some of my favorite foods that he doesn't cook very often.

My favorite is going to play 9 holes of golf with him. If no one else is on the course it might take us 3 hours to play those 9 holes because we'll goof off and joke around.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:37:24 PM EDT

[#41]

Sad thread, I understand, but it's still saddening that so many men have grown up without decent fathers that they can look up to.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:38:09 PM EDT

[#42]

Yes. My best friend. I'll drive 6 hours back to Socal to hang out with him for 10 minutes of his time and a beer.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:44:59 PM EDT

[#43]

Quoted:

Sad thread, I understand, but it's still saddening that so many men have grown up without decent fathers that they can look up to.

Aye. I was fortunate, too.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:48:57 PM EDT

[#44]

RI.P. dad

10/10/1938 - 5/23/2002

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:50:17 PM EDT

[#45]

Hell yeah, my Father and I are best friends. We had to go to an auto parts dinner tonight and we drank and had a shit-ton a fun like always. It helps that we share the same humor and views on practically everything.

Posted: 3/15/2011 9:51:22 PM EDT

[#46]

I'm 53, my dad is 79. I visit him two or three times a year. He won't go shooting any more because he is afraid of hearing damage. He has a 30'06 Springfield and a 9mm 1911 but he won't shoot them any more. Claims that even with hearing protection he might get more hearing damage. I have climbed Mt. Shasta with him four times. He has always been a fitness freak, marathoner, and an excellent medical doctor. Taught me safe weapons handling and how to butcher a deer.