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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:35:38 AM EDT
We are just numb this morning. The kids go to school about 100 miles apart and we got a call from his schools PD asking for my daughters information so they could ask her some questions. We did not get much information at the time other then he was being "treated"
Not wanting our daughter to be alone we drove out to her school (about an hour away) and by the time we got there the campus police were there with a school counselor outside her "on campus" apartment. Talking to them we got the news he had passed and they were just there to give support. Apparently the PD at his school called her school and gave them a heads up. Bless those two officers. They are both dads and they did not want her to be alone. We left her at school wrapped in the arms of her 3 room mates. Right or wrong we figured it would be best to have her there with good friends, school resources and distractions other then sit at home with nothing to do. Today will be rough. I will be heading back out to her school for a dad/daughter coffee date. Guessing there will be tears and hugs. Uh - his dad just called me. That was rough. 
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:37:08 AM EDT
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Damn
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:38:41 AM EDT
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Dayam.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:38:54 AM EDT
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sorry to hear that OP. Any reasons behind it or is this a lost battle with depression?
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:39:25 AM EDT
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hate to hear this, I hope for your daughter sake that they were in good spirits with one another and that she wont blame herself. I have had family leave this way and it isn't the answer. sorry to ya'll
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:40:04 AM EDT
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holy fuck. I couldn't imagine.
It's one thing being mentally fucked from a break up, I can't even begin to understand what she's feeling right now. Make sure she stays with people |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:40:25 AM EDT
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thats got to be rough |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:40:25 AM EDT
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sorry to hear that OP. Any reasons behind it or is this a lost battle with depression? We suspect this. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:42:09 AM EDT
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What a terrible thing. Very sorry.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:42:14 AM EDT
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Sorry for her loss.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:42:59 AM EDT
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sorry to hear that OP. Any reasons behind it or is this a lost battle with depression? We suspect this. It's not an easy fight, I fight it every single day. Sorry bud |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:43:58 AM EDT
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Sorry man
hold her close
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:44:33 AM EDT
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Damn. That's awful.
Watch her like a hawk. She may get some ideas about following him. Survivor guilt and all that jazz. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:44:44 AM EDT
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That's awful. Sorry to hear OP.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:47:18 AM EDT
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Damn. That's awful. Watch her like a hawk. She may get some ideas about following him. Survivor guilt and all that jazz. Yea. We will. Thanks. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:47:49 AM EDT
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Damn. That's awful. Watch her like a hawk. She may get some ideas about following him. Survivor guilt and all that jazz. Absolutely this. Watch out for that Romeo and Juliet mentality. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:48:35 AM EDT
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Sad and scary for a parent, your daughter should get some counseling. It doesn't hurt for her to speak to someone who has experience in dealing with traumatic loss. Sometimes things like this look ok and then cause problems later. Local hospital, clergy, or someone you know in emergency medicine may know a name in your area.
That's something most people can't just process and move on from without some help. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:49:24 AM EDT
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I'm extremely sorry to hear that OP.
As others have said, keep close tabs on your daughter. She may know more about the reason that she is letting on, you really don't want her to follow suit out of guilt. Just to be clear, I'm not saying your daughter is responsible, but if he was struggling she might blame herself for not trying to do more to help him. It happens, trust me. Good luck. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:49:31 AM EDT
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Sorry
Dam school just started not so long ago. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:50:24 AM EDT
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that's awful.
i'm glad that your daughter wasn't there. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:50:43 AM EDT
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Why did he do it? Surely his father said something?
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:51:12 AM EDT
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:52:43 AM EDT
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Better get her a therapist immediately so she can talk through her feelings, especially if she dumped him or he did this in any way to make her feel responsible.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:52:51 AM EDT
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Sorry
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:55:43 AM EDT
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Damn. That's awful. Watch her like a hawk. She may get some ideas about following him. Survivor guilt and all that jazz. Excellent advice right there. Hang in there OP. This will get better some day. But probably not today or tomorrow. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:55:45 AM EDT
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Jeez thats horrible
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:56:37 AM EDT
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Sorry to hear.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 10:59:12 AM EDT
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Damn OP, very sorry.
Prayers for all. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:00:46 AM EDT
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Sorry to hear such bad news OP. As others have said be sure your daughter has the support she needs right now. As hard as it is for you all it is unimaginable how hard it must be on her.
How old are they? |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:04:09 AM EDT
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Better get her a therapist immediately so she can talk through her feelings, especially if she dumped him or he did this in any way to make her feel responsible. The school is on top of this. They had a therapist at her apartment last night and she will be seeing her again today. (and tomorrow, and the next....) We know the boy had depression issues and he internalized everything. It is not like this was a deep relationship. No talk about the future, living together or anything. It was just a college boyfriend/girlfriend, semi long distance type of thing. What will be bad is they both went to high school together, played the same sports and know all the same people. Not looking forward to the next month or so. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:04:24 AM EDT
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So sorry to hear that
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:09:30 AM EDT
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<please troll other websites from now on>
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:09:44 AM EDT
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:11:31 AM EDT
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Damn that sucks.
I'm sorry that you have to watch your kiddo deal with such a horrible thing at a time which was supposed to be great in her life.
As my kids grow up, I have to resist the urge to build a fort around them and shelter them from all the terrible things in the world. All I can do is prepare them as well as I can and help them when they need it. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:14:00 AM EDT
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Damn, must not feel real right now for you guys. Sorry for everyone's loss.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:15:31 AM EDT
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Very sad.
We lost a friend of my son’s a few months back to the same thing. Very sad and I just don’t get it. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:24:03 AM EDT
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My heart goes out to both your and the boyfriends families, OP.
I have fought the battle of the voices, as well. The youthful voices of numbness and uncertainty and the voices of depression. Once they know where you live, they never totally go away. Youth has it's own set of problem. You're young and haven't got the depth of knowledge in what's going to happen to you in the coming years and are either scared or simply don't care to go through the angst along the way. It's an easy way out because you don't truly understand all the implications. Fortunately, I came through to the world of light. Later on, when life has gone to shit and you are full of pain, you only see pain and heartache. Any way through it is clouded in the fog of the mind. You begin to believe there is no way through and it's time to give up even if there may be. You don't FEEL there's a way out worth the effort it will take. Again, fortunately, I came through to the world of light. People need anchors to hold them steady, and lights bright enough to shine through that fog. Not everyone gets them in time. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:25:15 AM EDT
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Awful. I'll say a prayer for your family.
My sister went through something similar, except it was her softball coach in college. Those guys are like fathers if you know the sport, and she was laid up recovering from wisdom teeth removal when it happened. Pitiful. She'll be ok, it will just take lots of time. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:25:51 AM EDT
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Damn that sucks.
Depression is a bitch. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:26:14 AM EDT
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I'm extremely sorry to hear that OP. As others have said, keep close tabs on your daughter. She may know more about the reason that she is letting on, you really don't want her to follow suit out of guilt. Just to be clear, I'm not saying your daughter is responsible, but if he was struggling she might blame herself for not trying to do more to help him. It happens, trust me. Good luck. This is good advice. Just an awful situation
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:35:26 AM EDT
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:44:15 AM EDT
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:45:06 AM EDT
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Sorry to hear this, hug her, love her and be there for her, it will take time.
Payers for her. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:46:50 AM EDT
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sorry to hear that OP. Any reasons behind it or is this a lost battle with depression? We suspect this. Assure her that it isn't her fault. No matter what was said or done, not her fault. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:48:48 AM EDT
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:50:59 AM EDT
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:56:42 AM EDT
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My Unit just lost one to suicide a couple weeks ago. Now we have another one saying scary stuff as a result of losing his friend.
Watch her. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 11:59:56 AM EDT
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Sorry to hear this OP.
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Posted: 10/19/2016 12:01:45 PM EDT
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So sorry to hear this OP.
As most have said, keep an eye on her. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 12:02:33 PM EDT
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sorry to hear that OP. Any reasons behind it or is this a lost battle with depression? We suspect this. It's not an easy fight, I fight it every single day. Sorry bud Hope you know we are here for you brother. |
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Posted: 10/19/2016 12:07:53 PM EDT
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