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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:32:59 PM EDT
...and I'm feeling rather melancholy about it.
The 24 year old blonde who was so anxious to get married. I thought that I had gotten her out of my system, but when I saw it was her on the caller ID, I just about melted. I held my breath the entire time that I was talking with her, I was so afraid I would say something stupid, such as letting her know how much I missed her. And so, of course, when she said that she missed me badly, I told her that I missed her too. She said then come over and see me this evening.... And I said that I couldn't tonight but maybe soon....I would. Damn. Love hurts. And lost love hurts worse than anything, doesn't it? I can't believe that she hasn't found someone else by now. Oh well, I feel another Windex Evening approaching. Eric The(Tonight,Girl,It'sOnlyYouAndMe)Hun 
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:34:23 PM EDT
[#1]
pooper pics?
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:35:09 PM EDT
[#2]
Eric, when she stated she missed you, you should have taken control of
the situation and turned the tables on her. You should have asked WHY did she miss you so. Maybe next time.. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:35:43 PM EDT
[#3]
Just jack off and be done with it.
You sound like a fucking school girl that just got kissed for the first time. So learn to think straight like a man or just buy her a house now and save yourself(and us) some time. SGatr15 |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:36:03 PM EDT
[#4]
There must be a good reason for this. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:36:11 PM EDT
[#5]
why cant you go over tonight?
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:36:32 PM EDT
[#6]
Naw, she hasn't done anything harmful to me other than breaking my heart in a couple zillion pieces. The pooper-pic scenario are for those chicks that are worthy of such treatment. Eric The(Gentlemanly)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:36:47 PM EDT
[#7]
I feel for ya hon. It can be difficult, especially if you've been feeling lonely lately. Why does love hurt? Nature of the beast.
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:37:42 PM EDT
[#8]
So what made her an 'EX' in the first place?
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:38:09 PM EDT
[#9]
your married so you can't play.  One thing that always got me was, I would feel like crap when I didn't have a girl friend but when I got one I would feel good than bad. Then more bad then sometimes really good  
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:39:53 PM EDT
[#10]
Nah...that ain't it. I just learned that I don't need a woman to make me a complete person. While others always seem lost without one. SGatr15 |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:42:14 PM EDT
[#11]
Oh, I indeed know why she misses me. I was a bankable commodity that could be reasonably counted to take care of her and her two children. Which I understand completely. If I were a single parent, I would be looking for financial security, as well. And IF I found love to boot, that would just be icing on the cake.
I would have bet dollars to doughnuts that there would never have been a 'next time' before this afternoon, now, I'm not so certain. I'm not in this to score points in some imaginary game. I'm pretty serious. I'm just serious about not getting remarried until everything is ready. There will be NO MORE DIVORCES for me, even if that means NO MORE MARRIAGES! Eric The(BurnedChildFearsTheFire)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:43:17 PM EDT
[#12]
I don't read where ETH is incomplete without a woman-I'd be bragging too if a 24 year old was calling me. You sound jealous. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:43:45 PM EDT
[#13]
but your married! 
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:43:46 PM EDT
[#14]
I got two words for you "HIT THAT SHIT!"
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:44:06 PM EDT
[#15]
It's just not the same is it?
It seems as if I can recall some times when you were not thinking all that clearly, Sarge, do you remember? What was my advice to you? To act like a man and quit whining? Nope. Not at all. Eric The(EasyDoesIt)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:45:07 PM EDT
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:46:32 PM EDT
[#17]
 
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:47:21 PM EDT
[#18]
According to her, about a month ago, or so, there was never going to be 'anyone else' but me! I thought that was just the emotional musings of a 24 year old. Maybe I was wrong, I don't know. And that not knowing is going to gnaw through me like the dickens. Eric The(FarFromHappy)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:49:05 PM EDT
[#19]
Way to go, Eric. Kudos to you for having your head totally in the game. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:49:14 PM EDT
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:49:25 PM EDT
[#21]
Talk is cheap, Eric...but you know that already. I am your senior by a few years, and one more marriage, and I happen to think you have your shit together very well, indeed. Do the Windex thing and let bygones be bygones...it is for the best.
But you knew that already, too!
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:49:31 PM EDT
[#22]
Alright. HIT IT. Clear your head. Then figure out what you guys need to do next. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:49:49 PM EDT
[#23]
I'm studying with a Master Mason for my proficiency test in Masonry. And after that, I have to stay with my daughter and granddaughter, who now live with me, since my son-in-law had to drive to Florida to take care of his mother after the hurricanes blew through. That, and I must seriously consider whether or not to start up something that I thought was long since gone. My feelings for this beautiful creature. Eric The(Damn!)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:50:02 PM EDT
[#24]
Either let doubt eat you up, or nut up and take a chance.
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:50:27 PM EDT
[#25]
If she cant wait till tomorrow, or next week and neither can you, somethings not right deep down.... |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:50:46 PM EDT
[#26]
+1 Right on brother. It's so easy for chicks isn't it? |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:52:26 PM EDT
[#27]
Love hurts most when it is not returned.
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:54:47 PM EDT
[#28]
Well, that's the only sure way.  But then again, "Repeat marriages are the best example of hope over experience."
"The burned hand teaches best. After that, advice about fire goes to the heart." - Gandalf What the heck, Eric. You only go around once. Why not be stupid? (Good luck, old buddy.  ) |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:56:37 PM EDT
[#29]
Thanks, HH, I should have known that only a woman could understand such things as this! I know that I could hurt this young lady so much more than she could ever hurt me, so I have to be a bit careful in what I do in the near future. If this telephone call had been a year from now, rather than today, I would be much more prepared to know what to do. Now, if I go over to see her, I know that I will be rekindling something that could hurt me badly again, but that could devastate her, as well. She's much more vunerable than I am, at present. And we both know that. So, if I were to go over there, she knows that I understand how much it would hurt her if it didn't work out again, and I think she's counting on me NOT to hurt her again. Does that make much sense to you, or am I just being an ass? Eric The(WhoseBeenKnownToBeAnAss)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 2:57:30 PM EDT
[#30]
How long since the break up?
Sly |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:06:24 PM EDT
[#31]
Well, forgive me if I sound a bit cynical, for I have found in matters of the heart, a certain amount of good cynicism goes a long way towards clearing the field and improving the clarity of the situation. She is 24 years old, once divorced, with two small children. She works at a bank making OK money, but in a dead-end job. She has expensive tastes, I have gathered, and I represent a possible 'Daddy' for her children (their real father is in some gutter IF you can believe their mother). I also represent a bit of financial security for her, as well. I'm not too hard on the eyes, and I can keep anyone entertained for extended periods of time. My last 'fling' lasted almost 24 years, so I am a veritable Rock of Gibraltar for a 24 year old chick! We have fun together, and she has introduced me to most of her family..... She wanted to get engaged within one month of us going out together, and insisted we get married within the year. I balked at such a timetable and she and I drifted apart over that very issue. Maybe she's mellowed, maybe she thinks I've changed my mind, whatever. I just don't want to get back into her game simply so we can both get hurt again. Eric The(AmIMakingSense?)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:14:15 PM EDT
[#32]
I would say that we likely set some records in that department during the time that we were together. And I know precisely what she means when she says 'Come over tonight', for I will no sooner have the door to her apartment locked before she will be undressed and in her bed.... That's great, that's wonderful, that's spectacular... But it ain't everything that I need at this point in my rather confused and shaken life. Don't get me wrong, IF she told me that she had no intention of marrying me and that she had found someone else, but she wanted to make the beast with two backs just for the helluva it, I wouldn't be typing this post. I would be in flagrante delicti at this very moment. But...for what purpose? I could do that anywhere, anytime, with a bunch of young ladies, if I may so presume. No, this situation merits much more thoughtfulness than that. Eric The(Confounded)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:14:19 PM EDT
[#33]
In this situation (as I am given to understand it), and at this time, I say "caution".
Pure sex is just fine for what it is, but that is seldom enough for a mature person. There are other needs to be met, and those needs are unlikely to be met by a woman half your age, and who knows what level of compatability. Regardless of whether or not you listen to my unasked-for advice, I remain, as always, your friend. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:18:46 PM EDT
[#34]
Thanks, ikor for your kind words. I hope that I have my shit together well. I've awakened many times with my shit all over the place, where the hell's my credit cards, why's my wallet in the yard? kinda situations. Stuff like that will either teach you something or kill you, and I'm a survivor. Eric The(ApologiesToNickleback)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:19:02 PM EDT
[#35]
No it makes sense but she also has to realize that especially due to your past history you're not ready to simply jump into a strong committment. You care about her very much but what she's talking about you take very seriously and don't wish for it to end in divorce.
Tell her you need a re-acquaintance period and would appreciate if she didn't attempt to pressure you into a marriage again. That should you decide, you would pop the question when the timing's appropriate. And............last piece of advice.....which is looking waaaaaay into the future if you two can work it out again........... prenup 
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:20:28 PM EDT
[#36]
July 28, 2004, to be precise, although we have 'bumped' into each other twice since then. The last such 'bump' was around August 28, or so. So, it's been a solid month. No phone calls, no nothing. Eric The(MiserableAtTimes)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:21:07 PM EDT
[#37]
I know, I know Eric. I was hoping to get a chuckle out of you. I know what you're going through, and in my opinion laughter is the best medicine.
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:24:26 PM EDT
[#38]
As always, a woman's answer in matters of love is always the correct one. I wish you were advising her, is all. On the subject of 'pre-nups', I will never have any part of them. A marriage is a marriage, and it is a partnership. I would expect her to accompany me to social functions and look dazzling while so doing. She would be an asset to me in my professional life and, IF we were to ever divorce, I would gladly give her whatever she had assisted me in earning during the course of our marriage. I may be an old horn-dog, but I am not a cad! Eric The(Gentlemanly,Always,FirstAndForemost)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:26:11 PM EDT
[#39]
I know I don't have to tell you ETH.................
There is no such thing as casual sex. ANY time you physically join yourself to a woman through sex you, like it or not and want to or not are inadvertantly joining your spirits as well. Be careful. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:26:19 PM EDT
[#40]
You are NOT being an ass. At 24, both men and women, usually have a lot of growing up to do whether or not they have children. If you do what a lot of the guys on here have suggested, you will end up hurting her, if you don't want to marry her. I think you are doing the right thing. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:28:01 PM EDT
[#41]
Post from sgthoskins -
Sorry, my friend, I now realize that was the thrust of your post. You can see how much this telephone call has bumped me off my usual course of nonchalance and insouisance. And that ain't right! You are probably right anyway, 'Hitting it' would get it out of my system for a while. Eric The(AndThenTheGnawingBeginsAnew)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:28:36 PM EDT
[#42]
Once the decision to leave has been made by one, going back has never worked out in the long run for me.
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:32:47 PM EDT
[#43]
When we broke up, I immediately went on a real bender with dating really young chicks for about a month. Two 20 year olds, a 21 year old, another 24 year old, and finally a 26 year old. I was trying to forget her and I actually did. Then the telephone call this afternoon and it's more like July 29th than September 29th.
That is what I have always been led to believe.
That is very difficult to do, though, isn't it? Eric The(InAQuandry)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:36:10 PM EDT
[#44]
Post from gotm4 -
I would rather have my own heart broken a thousand times over than hurt this sweet child. Again. I hope that she knows that the next time is for keeps. IF there is a next time. And that's the rub, isn't it? Eric The(Overprotective)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:36:46 PM EDT
[#45]
Eric, my brother, I understand your hurt. The last time I saw Carol was at the mediation. It broke my heart to see the love of my life again.
Sometimes, I daydream about having a woman in my life, but right now, I can't muster the level of trust it would take to have a good relationship. It's sad to distrust people you haven't even met. Add to that the long-term effects of being told what a sorry so-and-so I was/am by Carol, and I don't want to risk giving my heart to someone who will later disapprove of me. My desire to have someone to hold is surpassed greatly by my insistance that I won't be hurt that badly again. |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:38:07 PM EDT
[#46]
That has always been my experience, as well. That is why this latest development is so troubling for me now. It's unusual, to say the least, for I was quite content with the way things were. Now, I find that I am not. I don't know how long this feeling will last. Eric The(Discombobulated)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:39:33 PM EDT
[#47]
Dear Brother, I have to run to my meeting with my lodge friend at present, but when I return, I will address your post pronto! See you later! Eric The(DashingOutTheDoor)Hun
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:45:52 PM EDT
[#48]
Maybe I'm missing something here, but what about your CURRENT girlfriend ??
The spanish gal ? + personally, I'd have to wonder of her motives... Honestly sounds to me like she just wants a man.... And please don't take that the wrong way, I don't know you from my ass, but get the impression that you're a pretty damn stand up guy And you're obviously not an idiot about women..I'd say handle this one with kid gloves..... This is going to sound shitty no matter HOW I try to put it, but..... Don't be the one who she "settled for"....... You deserve the real thing....... don't sell yourself short over anything less.... Women do some lousy things, when they want something THEY want....... Think you know what I'm getting at Just be careful, think with the brain, as well as the rest of the parts
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:46:40 PM EDT
[#49]
3 words hun....
Windex my brother
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Posted: 9/29/2004 3:47:58 PM EDT
[#50]
On the subject of 'pre-nups', I will never have any part of them.
A marriage is a marriage, and it is a partnership. [\quote] And generally I would agree.....however you stated yourself you signify financial stability to this woman and that the children's father is pretty much scum. I'd hate to think that she might see this is a reason for marrying quickly. |
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