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Posted: 8/25/2004 4:43:32 AM EST
Found out two of my schoolmates are engaged. They are 19 and 18 and have been dating for 2? years or so.

Anyone else think its a bit young?
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:45:34 AM EST
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:46:25 AM EST
Maturity counts not age.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:46:45 AM EST

Originally Posted By FiftyCalibre:
Found out two of my schoolmates are engaged. They are 19 and 18 and have been dating for 2? years or so.

Anyone else think its a bit young?



My wife was 18 when we got married. We've been together 7 years now.

Remember the Alamo, and God Bless Texas...
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:47:35 AM EST
MY Wife and i got married at 20 and 21... we are doing wonderful
it all depends on the maturity of the two and how prepared they are for a commitment and responsability.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:50:35 AM EST
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:52:24 AM EST
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:52:46 AM EST
ALL of the early marriages I'm personally aware of have failed.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:53:35 AM EST
My mom and dad got married when she was 17 and he was 20. That was in 1969 and they are still married. I on the other hand, got married at 18 and she was 18 and we are divorced.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:55:26 AM EST
When looking at stats of divorce rate by age there is a very clear pattern that the younger you get married the more likely you are to get divorced. For 18 and under the divorce rate is in the 90% range. It drops evenly from there up to about 24/25 were it levels out around the 50% mark. So for an 18 and 19 year old to get married, yeah it's a bad idea.


No. Not in the least if it is a good union.

What the hell is a "good union"? How would one know before it happens if it will be good?

If by "good union" you mean they dated, got along very well, the girl knows that the guy "is the one", they both go to church, they both are virgins and are waiting until marriage to have sex, are having a church wedding, and have done everything "perfect" according to the ultra religious people....well then talk to my cousin who had this. He was 23 she had just turned 20. They were too young, they hadn't grown as individuals. So it's no suprise that they grew apart, she started acting different, charged a lot of money on credit cards, and they got divorced. Two years later his credit is still screwed up because she still hasn't gotten her life together and won't pay anything that was assigned to her in the divorce.

Again, it's a very bad idea.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:00:49 AM EST
I don't understand why anyone would want to marry that early. What's the hurry? Most people that age have no idea what they want or who they are.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:01:26 AM EST
I was 19 and my wife was 18 and halfway through the 12th grade. We have been married 26 years so far. I think people give up too easy on a marriage these days. When my grandmother was divorced back in the late 1930s it was a scandal that made the news papers in Baton Rouge. Now people hardly mention it in conversation.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:09:44 AM EST
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:20:56 AM EST
I was 24 and my Wife was 26 when we got married.
We had only been together for 2 years.
I have not killed her yet so I guess it's working out.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:23:39 AM EST

Originally Posted By FiftyCalibre:
Found out two of my schoolmates are engaged. They are 19 and 18 and have been dating for 2? years or so.

Anyone else think its a bit young?



I was not aware that your Gov. still allowed marriage.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:25:13 AM EST
I wish I'd have got married at 18-20.

<---still looking at 29.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:30:43 AM EST
It really depends on the commitment of the couple. Most folks who get divorced probably shouldn't get married at nearly ANY age.

My wife and I were married at 22, and we have friends who were married out of high school and are doing great years later. I have an aunt that waited until she was 38 or somthing to "find the perfect mate", and they lasted all of a year. I have seen successful marraiges of all types, and being older when you are married doesn't guarantee a successful marraige.

Successful marraiges are built on two people that are deeply committed to each other and a firm foundation. It only takes a breaking of one of these elements and the marraige is in jeopardy.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:35:13 AM EST
I agree with the premise that it's the people involved, and their maturity, not necessarily their age.

My parents were 24 (Dad) and 18 (Mom) and they just had their 41st anniversary not too long ago.
I was 26, and my wife was 33, and we've been married now for going on 10 years now.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:37:28 AM EST
Don't forget the 2 or 3 restraining orders and a personal episode on Cops.


Originally Posted By Paul:
Plenty young enough to have two or three kids in their first 600 days of marriage, a couple of affairs, and a quick divorce.

Too young.

Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:42:16 AM EST

Originally Posted By cnorton:
Maturity counts not age.

agreed.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:45:46 AM EST
i think they're nuts. way too friggin young.

but then again my own parents dated thru high school and got married when they were 20 or so. and almost 40 years later they are still happily married.

it all depends on the couple and how mature and commited they are to one another.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:46:30 AM EST
I was 21, wife was 21. Brother in law and Sister in Law were 19 at marriage. Other Brother in Law and Other Sister in Law were 20.

A friend of mine is 27, married a 24 year old when he was 25, was married 6 months, lived "married" a year separated, and just finalized his divorce.

It entirely depends on the couple - maturity and comittment.

Do they understand that divorce is wrong (there are exceptions, but that's another thread), and that a successful marriage requires a hell of a lot of work, comittment, and personal sacrifice?
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 5:47:57 AM EST
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 6:00:23 AM EST
nope, better young than old
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 6:30:51 AM EST

Originally Posted By einnor1040:
I don't understand why anyone would want to marry that early. What's the hurry? Most people that age have no idea what they want or who they are.



Because not all of us are so ignorant or blind.

Remember the Alamo, and God Bless Texas...
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 7:44:28 AM EST
it depends on the people, some people are ready for the commitment at 18 - 19 but I think it is probably too young, my niece didnt even last a year in her marriage at age 18. I think it's very risky to marry at age 18.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 7:49:29 AM EST
Never too young.

I was 20, she was 19.

Still going...
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:01:07 AM EST
I was married at 18, and we are still going strong. I don't believe in divorce, so if my hubby wants out of the marriage, one of us will have to die.... My best friend from High School got married a week after graduation. They graduated college together, and they are currently supporting each other as they establish their carreers.

If the vows have meaning, and neither party is going into the marriage thinking, "well, if it gets too rough, we'll just divorce," then more power to them.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:06:10 AM EST

Originally Posted By GodBlessTexas:

Originally Posted By einnor1040:
I don't understand why anyone would want to marry that early. What's the hurry? Most people that age have no idea what they want or who they are.



Because not all of us are so ignorant or blind.

Remember the Alamo, and God Bless Texas...



OK.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:12:01 AM EST
I don't think it is to young at all. My wife was 17 I was 20. We only dated 3 years. I think it depends on the people though. You must not ask about age but maturity.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:16:36 AM EST
My parents got married at 18.

Yes, it's too young for most people.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:28:08 AM EST
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:32:30 AM EST
In W. Virginia, it's all relative
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:33:37 AM EST
Yes, it's about maturity. If you think you're ready to get married at 18/19 you're immature.

I think it also has to do with geography. People in more rural parts of the country seem to marry younger than those in more urban parts.

And you can't compare someone who married at 18 40 years ago to someone who does it today.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:34:16 AM EST
We married at 18 after 5 months of dating. (No she wasn't pregnant!) She was finishing her senior year of highschool when we married. Now it is almost 18 years later and we still look at each other the same way.

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Link Posted: 8/25/2004 8:43:56 AM EST
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 9:01:18 AM EST

Originally Posted By einnor1040:

Originally Posted By GodBlessTexas:

Originally Posted By einnor1040:
I don't understand why anyone would want to marry that early. What's the hurry? Most people that age have no idea what they want or who they are.



Because not all of us are so ignorant or blind.

Remember the Alamo, and God Bless Texas...



OK.



I know we disagree on things, but it wasn't an insult. You are right that most kids coming out of highschool aren't ready. However, not all of them are. By the time I was out of high school I was not one of them. I knew exactly what I wanted, I found the perfect girl for me, and I married her. Granted, I doubt most high school kids had the traumu of watching their father die, raising a sibling 10 years their junior, or trying to support a family while still in high school, but I did.

Remember the Alamo, and God Bless Texas...
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 9:24:45 AM EST
I met a figure skater through friends who had just seperated from her boyfriend. She was hotter than hell and we really liked each other. Saw each other for 1 weekend. Next weekend she got back with the boyfriend. 1 year later, they are to be married. She is a Senior in HS, hes a Sophomore in college. Dammit, almost. Put me in a weird position.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 9:27:31 AM EST
19 and 23 here, married 6, divorced 2.
Yea, I think it's too young.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 3:39:30 PM EST
I was 18, my wife was 17, come October 1st that was 22yrs ago!

Any age someone gets married, it's risky!

I have friends that waited until they were mature enough, like 27-30, they're either divorced or on their 2nd or 3rd marriage.

As easy as it's to get laid nowadays, and all the diseases floating around, I'd hate to be single and looking for a wife.

It scares me to death at the thought of my children, 11 & 17, marrying someday! It's just a different world out there, as in, it's going down the shitter fast!

teamroper2004
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 4:09:50 PM EST
My girlfriend and I have been dating since October 12th 1999. Comin on 5 years pretty soon. She was 15 I was 16 when we hooked up. Still not married. One of these days I guess we'll have to do that.
Link Posted: 8/25/2004 7:19:39 PM EST
I don't think age is the most important factor to consider when getting married. So, do you think if people waited to get married after age 30 the divorce rate would be lower. The average age for a first time marriage is higher and yet so are divorce rates.
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