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Posted: 12/31/2011 7:23:05 AM EDT
who just said she needs space and doesn't think she sees a future with our relationship...


I threw out about 6 Hail Mary texts to girls and now seeing what's up. Aside from Hookers and Blow (wouldn't work with my job), how else has the Hive mind handled this type of situation in the past.


PS I still love girl and assume it is all dead but need to move on, so nothing overt
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:24:34 AM EDT
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:24:46 AM EDT
Forget her, move on and stop posting about it here. You know what YOU need to do.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:24:52 AM EDT
Just go on with life. Trust me, 20 years from now, all of your little GF relationships will be looked back on as trivial.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:25:39 AM EDT
First, post pics of her for us to see.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:26:07 AM EDT
Best way to get over a girl is to get under one.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:26:09 AM EDT
Go fuck her sister or best friend.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:26:11 AM EDT
Go out on the town and nail a few hotties... Get off arfcom and go do work on em!
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:26:53 AM EDT
Seriously?

Do we even raise men in this country anymore? It's a girlfriend. Just go on about daily life.

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Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:29:04 AM EDT
fuck it, move on

This can be taken literally (gigaty) or metaphorically

go have fun with your friends, go to the range, drink a few beers, do things that she hated you doing,

In general keep on going
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:29:58 AM EDT
Nail her Mom...
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:30:24 AM EDT
Originally Posted By trdvet:
Forget her, move on and stop posting about it here. You know what YOU need to do.


This.

Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:32:07 AM EDT

Brief meaningless relationship with the first bimbo you can talk into the sack.

Tell ex all about it.

At least that's what I've done.

Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:32:15 AM EDT
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:33:19 AM EDT
Road trip.



No planning. Grab some clothes and some cash and an atlas and go.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:33:25 AM EDT
Beat guts and get drunk.
I know will.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:33:59 AM EDT
She says she needs space? Give her more fucking space than she knows what to do with. And bang whores while you're at it.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:34:26 AM EDT
Two months ago she was talking about moving up to live with me once she finished the testing and became a CPA. So this isn't just a HS girlfriend or some shit.
We have known each other for the past 8-9 years.
As far as beating the brakes off her best friend... her best friend was possibly the most negative influence on our relationship
Pics are in BOTD in a few different threads. They may provide evidence as to why I am asking for advice on how to get over her.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:34:52 AM EDT
call her and thank her for not wasting your time, spending your money and cheating while doing the the things listed.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:35:31 AM EDT
Originally Posted By RTUtah:
She says she needs space? Give her more fucking space than she knows what to do with. And bang whores sluts that don't cost money after dinner while you're at it.


that's the plan
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:35:58 AM EDT
Porn, porn, and more porn.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:36:16 AM EDT
Go about your daily life like she was never in it. Don't try to be desperate with the other girls you're texting. Go do something you wanted to do but didn't have the time.

I know this is all easy for me to say sitting behind a keyboard, but we all have been there and lived through it.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:36:55 AM EDT

Originally Posted By YukonBoy03:
Originally Posted By RTUtah:
She says she needs space? Give her more fucking space than she knows what to do with. And bang whores sluts that don't cost money after dinner while you're at it.


that's the plan

Right on, now set it in motion and ignore ALL calls and texts that DON'T support the above plan.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:37:21 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Sev89:
fuck it, move on

This can be taken literally (gigaty) or metaphorically

go have fun with your friends, go to the range, drink a few beers, do things that she hated you doing,

In general keep on going


she actually was happy that I would do all of those things
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:37:21 AM EDT
Originally Posted By RTUtah:
She says she needs space? Give her more fucking space than she knows what to do with. And bang whores while you're at it.


This, exactly. Go do guy stuff and don't worry about her or women in general. If have to go do the girl thing, keep it casual.

I met all my best girls while out being a guy. Rebounds are the devil.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:37:25 AM EDT
craigslist or AFF?
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:38:32 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 12/31/2011 7:39:36 AM EDT by Branspop]
Originally Posted By YukonBoy03:
Two months ago she was talking about moving up to live with me once she finished the testing and became a CPA. So this isn't just a HS girlfriend or some shit.
We have known each other for the past 8-9 years.
As far as beating the brakes off her best friend... her best friend was possibly the most negative influence on our relationship
Pics are in BOTD in a few different threads. They may provide evidence as to why I am asking for advice on how to get over her.


No offense meant here but...

After being around the block a few times in life, the space/future spiel often means they already have someone lined up. Perhaps not in your case, but it's best to be emotionally prepared. Just in case.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:38:37 AM EDT
Sister?
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:38:43 AM EDT
Move on and do things to help yourself out.

the past is the past; keep it there.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:40:20 AM EDT

Originally Posted By rollingtrouble13:
Go fuck her sister or best friend.

This, the nuclear option.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:40:48 AM EDT
Originally Posted By jim2024bob:
Best way to get over a girl is to get under one.


Made me chuckle sir. Thank you.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:40:59 AM EDT
Take a couple of weeks and mourn your loss.

But, she'll be back in 6 months ("I messed up." "I still love you" "I miss you"). Make sure you get over her long before that so you don't make the same mistake twice.

Set some goals for yourself and work your ass off to reach them. The women who you want and will want you are attracted to confident men.

Lastly, a road trip once you are done with your mourning period sounds like a good idea!

Eric
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:41:07 AM EDT
the thing is, I would want her to call after a while saying that she misses me and she wants things to work out, but I know that if there is any chance of that happening it will be because I give her nothing unless we are together. Like conditioning.

In the past I have had no problems saying fuck it, and walking away. But I also never thought of any of those girls as my future wife.

Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:42:16 AM EDT
first post and all.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:43:40 AM EDT
Originally Posted By YukonBoy03:
Two months ago she was talking about moving up to live with me once she finished the testing and became a CPA. So this isn't just a HS girlfriend or some shit.
We have known each other for the past 8-9 years.
As far as beating the brakes off her best friend... her best friend was possibly the most negative influence on our relationship
Pics are in BOTD in a few different threads. They may provide evidence as to why I am asking for advice on how to get over her.


WTF??? You're going to make us WORK for it????



Bang different females and make sure she, your ex, KNOWS about it and how much fun you're having now.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:43:49 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Branspop:
Originally Posted By YukonBoy03:
Two months ago she was talking about moving up to live with me once she finished the testing and became a CPA. So this isn't just a HS girlfriend or some shit.
We have known each other for the past 8-9 years.
As far as beating the brakes off her best friend... her best friend was possibly the most negative influence on our relationship
Pics are in BOTD in a few different threads. They may provide evidence as to why I am asking for advice on how to get over her.


No offense meant here but...

After being around the block a few times in life, the space/future spiel often means they already have someone lined up. Perhaps not in your case, but it's best to be emotionally prepared. Just in case.


well we have been long distance. I wouldn't doubt that the thought of dating some guy closer hasn't been present in her head, because at times I have thought the same about women up here. I don't think she has already started something, but the possibility is there.

Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:46:38 AM EDT
Originally Posted By trdvet:
Forget her, move on and stop posting about it here. You know what YOU need to do.


Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:46:40 AM EDT
Well for starters go ahead at post all the nudies of her on Facebook....followed by BOTD. Its the only way I am sure
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:48:37 AM EDT
Build project.

Do something that requires focus and concentration that you will enjoy doing. It's when you sit around with nothing else to think about that your mind will dwell on her.

Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:49:36 AM EDT
Originally Posted By YukonBoy03:
the thing is, I would want her to call after a while saying that she misses me and she wants things to work out, but I know that if there is any chance of that happening it will be because I give her nothing unless we are together. Like conditioning.

In the past I have had no problems saying fuck it, and walking away. But I also never thought of any of those girls as my future wife.


If you're still thinking of this one in terms of future wife, start making it in terms of future ex-wife. She is already putting you through the drama. If you would ever even consider taking her back after this, good luck is all I can say, coz you deserve all the misery she is going to hand you.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:50:04 AM EDT
Originally Posted By rollingtrouble13:
Go fuck her sister or best friend.

and mom , dont forget mom!

Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:50:52 AM EDT
Totally ignore her. If she doesnt come back good riddance. If she wants to come back dont let her in immediately otherwise she will completely lose respect for you. Somehow judging from your posts I dont see this ending well for you.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:52:48 AM EDT
Honestly I don't know why people go through the trouble of long distance relationships. The best way to go about those is to not be in one and meet up whenever the opportunity arises. Kind of do your thing and let her do hers and when the time is right and things were meant to be you will be back together when it can be more convenient. Don't be afraid if she meets other men, if your love and loving is strong enough it may bring her closer to you. I have ex girlfriends from highschool still seeking me out because I beat the brakes off of them when I had the chance.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:52:56 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Van_Wilder:
Totally ignore her. If she doesnt come back good riddance. If she wants to come back dont let her in immediately otherwise she will completely lose respect for you. Somehow judging from your posts I dont see this ending well for you.


Fuck that, walk away now. She is either already hooked up with some one else or is playing games with your head. Either way, you don't need that shit. On second thought, don't walk away, run away.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:53:15 AM EDT
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:53:41 AM EDT
Go out and find a girl that looks just like her. Fuck her and then dump her. It's the only way...

Dude. Been there. Done that. It just takes time. Life goes on. You will meet someone else.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:58:00 AM EDT
"needs space"...means there is someone else giving her something she "needs"...whetere sexual or emotionaly....
consider it over.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:58:42 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Lumpy223:
Cut the cord. Period.

No phone calls.
No e-mails.
No texts.

ZERO contact. Anything more will only prolong the misery.
+1
Block the ex, do whatever it takes to get some new pie and forget about her.

Kharn
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 7:59:19 AM EDT
Originally Posted By OhioEd:
Originally Posted By Van_Wilder:
Totally ignore her. If she doesnt come back good riddance. If she wants to come back dont let her in immediately otherwise she will completely lose respect for you. Somehow judging from your posts I dont see this ending well for you.


Fuck that, walk away now. She is either already hooked up with some one else or is playing games with your head. Either way, you don't need that shit. On second thought, don't walk away, run away.


I gave him that advice because judging from his posts, at some point he will take her back if contact is made by either of them. I just dont see him manning up and moving on.

Link Posted: 12/31/2011 8:08:33 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Van_Wilder:
Originally Posted By OhioEd:
Originally Posted By Van_Wilder:
Totally ignore her. If she doesnt come back good riddance. If she wants to come back dont let her in immediately otherwise she will completely lose respect for you. Somehow judging from your posts I dont see this ending well for you.


Fuck that, walk away now. She is either already hooked up with some one else or is playing games with your head. Either way, you don't need that shit. On second thought, don't walk away, run away.


I gave him that advice because judging from his posts, at some point he will take her back if contact is made by either of them. I just dont see him manning up and moving on.



manning up, ie banging others. check
moving on, ie forgetting about her. that will prob just take time.
Link Posted: 12/31/2011 8:08:54 AM EDT
Originally Posted By Lumpy223:
Cut the cord. Period.

No phone calls.
No e-mails.
No texts.

ZERO contact. Anything more will only prolong the misery.


This guy is smart!

I would add take down all of her pictures and either give back the stuff that is hers or put all the shit that reminds you of her in the basement/closet etc.

Go to the gym, work out, exercise. Go to the mall buy yourself sum decent clothes.
Make yourself attractive, go bang the first chick that will let you bang her, then the 2nd, then the 3rd, rinse... repeat.

This works for me!
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